2006-12-08 19:26:09 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I think it's natural to love the first person you ever loved....there is history there....most of it is nostalga. We love the person we use to love....and the relationship we use to have.....not the current/present person. When you think about him/her.....you probably think about the old times and the memories and such....that's normal.....but you moved on and so has your first love....leave the past in the past. You can't get it back even if you wish you could.
2006-12-08 19:43:58 · answer #1 · answered by Dearheart 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you know when i first saw this question my heart sank...just tonight I was in fear that the same exact thing might happen to me...for my first love is getting married and no matter what happens we always have this undealt with thing between us..im just so scared that we will both marry and still have these feelings...I honstley don't know what advice to give..the only thing i can say is that everything happens for a reason and I truly believe in that. I am with a man I love more than anything, so in that way I just think that part of us will always have something for that first love or someone special that you once invested so much in...I guess all we can really do is wait and see what life has in store for us. Are you happy in your current marriage?
2006-12-08 19:33:41 · answer #2 · answered by thereis 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Forget her. That is a natural thing to feel but you split up for certain reasons and those reasons will still be there. so forget her and get on with your new life and let her get on with hers. If she loved you as well you would be together now wouldn't you so stop looking backwards and just look forwards.
Having said that this could be a trick question!!!! You still love your first love but thenyou both married..........so did you marry each other???? Whatever.good luck in your marriage.
2006-12-08 20:06:43 · answer #3 · answered by Closed Down 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you just need closer to the relationship because of the way it must have ended. You need to see what you have now and really think how things probably would be if you were with you first love. Most people always love their first simple because it's was their first. And that's it. Before you throw away what you have you better take a good look at what your giving up.
2006-12-08 19:32:13 · answer #4 · answered by Countrygirl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
by the way this isny my profile it's my dads-
i personally find this the story of my life... sure i am young and have had little time to have really dense relationships with people but the first one i had will stay with me forever because she mattered more than life to me for the time i was with her. but i also know that i will love again and that the love i had before will never fade but you must understand that loveing people is allot like likeing people but the feeling is so much more pure so much stronger and requires allot more conection between the two such typical starstruck lovers. It is like friendship in the way that you can want to be friends with somebody but it just wont work out because they are in no intrested in your friendship, and you can also have friendships where everything works perfect.
what i'm strying to say is dont give up a perfect relationship for something that is uncertain because if you love your curent partener and they love you that is all you should truely need to make yourself happy and if you left to try and love your first love again you could have what you wanted for a little while and it could just end as it had before leaving you without anyone because unless your current love really really loves you i'm uncertain if he/she will want you back after leaving them for some guy that wasnt intrested... and there is also no gaurantee that that man/woman will leave their spouse for you in the first place...
so my advice to you keep your relationships as they are stay with your spouse it would be allright to have a friendly relationship i think but dont give up stable love for an unpromissed one.
2006-12-08 20:01:38 · answer #5 · answered by Bernard B 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are both married, then you need to let it go. If you were both in love with each other why didn't you end up together? If you're not happy in your marriage then you should get out. It's not fair to your husband/wife to be with them if your heart is with someone else.
2006-12-08 19:33:47 · answer #6 · answered by fungirl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
whoa, whoa, whoa hold it there.
First of all you loved (so you say) someone, then you left that love in the favour of marrying someone else. Now you want to ruin the life of your partner.
Listen loyalty is a great virtue try to be virtuous. And how r u sure that you still love your ex-love. is it really love or your desire for some extra marital affair.
I think you need to devote yourself now to your family (kids and spouse)
2006-12-08 19:35:52 · answer #7 · answered by shery 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Live in the present and keep the past in the past. Look down the road. Are you and your 1st love going to each get divorces and run into each other's arms. Highly unlikely. Make your marriage your priority.
2006-12-08 19:31:58 · answer #8 · answered by 30somethingfemale 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
everyone is still in love with their first love. it's up to u to move on.
2006-12-08 19:33:51 · answer #9 · answered by nates_baby 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If there are children involved, you have to put them first, sorry. Read up on the effects of divorce on children
2006-12-08 22:32:23 · answer #10 · answered by :-) literary cappy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋