me n my ex went out 4 2 yrs n we broke up in april n after 2 months of not talkin he called out of hte blue.we are basically together but jsut witout the title at least how i c it.he says i love you n i love him very much i kno he loves me.we were each others 1st love. while we were goin out i lied to him n thats y we broke up it wasnt about cheating it was stupid stuff that i just did to get attention.i regret it cuz i kno i was bein so dumb.well now we are wokin thru it n i apologized n he is still beside me.but here is the thing ever since we started talkin he dont call that much esp now liek i understand hes busy n i am givin him room but its rediculous.like he will txt me once during da day. but then like i never get a call from him until after midnite. i get kinda frustrated at that cuz if its like he dont wanna talk to me then y is he even talkin at all. is it wrong to get irritated cuz he dont talk to me as much?he still calls everyday tho but we barely talk. only like 10 min.
2006-12-08 19:17:51 · 12 answers · asked by Fahion_Gal 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
he does call to at least say goodnite every nite but y doesnt he wanna talk otherwise. i kno this sounds so stupid n prob immature but its jsut really gettin to me. like even wen hes home n not doin nuthin he dont even call or nuthin. he says sorry n has excuses as to y. in the past wen we were together he sed we talked n saw each other too much so this time im givin him alot of room but its rediculous wat hes doing. is wat he is doin ok? i jsut dont kno like can i get mad at that? i feel so irritated sumtimes n i jsut dont wanna push him away. but i just wish he wud just call me or show me sum signs of communication. wen we are together in person he is perfect but at the same time hes not really affectionate i mean he is n is not like he wont just sit by me n watch tv he has to walk around or he is ALWAYS on the computer so im usually just sittin there watchin tv but he does make me feel happy wen im wit him in person i just really need sum fresh good advice im so confused!! thank u.
2006-12-08 19:23:58 · update #1
I believe that you do have the right to be upset.And if he knows that you do get upset because he dosent call enough and then continues to do it then something needs to be done about that.Ummm I also think that your realationship needs to be defined so that the both of you now where you stand so that no one gets hurt in the long run.(ex:If he decides to date another girl and you get mad he might say he can do that because officially your not boyfriend/girlfriend)But I cand also understand where he is coming from with that fact that when you guys were together you might have seen and talked to one another too much,but he needs to see that at one point in time that might have pushed him away because there wasnt enogh space but he has to see that this might push you away because you dont speak enough.So you guys should have a serious conversation and let him know how you feel about everything and where your realationship is goin.I hope I was helpfull!!!Good Luck!!!
2006-12-08 19:35:58 · answer #1 · answered by Oompa Loompa 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i think the guy's good and he cant live without u and he really loves u so he called back and came back to u. u shouldn't have lied to him and it had hurt him that's why he got away from u. but now he's back because he can't live without u. and the problem of speaking over the phone, talk to him openly and just get rid of all the differences and if he doesn't call u why don't u call him? don't let the ego come in between the two of u. u say u love him and he loves u then why the communication gap just forget everything and give him a hug and start a great relationship
2006-12-08 19:27:01 · answer #2 · answered by tiya_ahuja 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl, I've been there. And this is what I did. When he texted me just once during the day....i never replied. And then he kept texting me again and again, and I still never texted back. Then he finnaly called (BEFORE midnight) and I didn't pick up. When he finally got a hold of me, I lied and said i was busy. Since then, he calls more often
My point is this: When it seems like YOU'RE out of reach/touch....it shows him that you aren't waiting for his call or even thinking about him. Then he'll keep calling you just to make sure he's on your mind. It's a stupid game that men like to play. Men are stupid, always remember that.
2006-12-08 19:23:06 · answer #3 · answered by Whatsit2U 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he is testing the waters. He might be joking. I do not think that you are ready to be protected by another teenager. He must be thinking about more than protection. He might be thinking about protecting you for himself. At fourteen, he should not entertain anything that is way out of his league. How can he protect you and he can not even protect himself. He must be joking.He would not know what to do if something happen to you. Leave the protection to your parents. They have protected you the short time that you have been on this earth. Why do they need help from a child? No, it is a young man's joke. Like you, probably. Why? maybe he has a boyhood crush. Again, he is testing the waters. He might be at the age of getting interested in the opposite sex.
2016-05-22 22:26:15 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give him a little time, after all, you made a mistake by lying to him. He probably just wants to take it slow, so as not to get hurt again, he doesn't need to call you constantly in order to show you that he loves you. Give him the space he needs, he is still calling you everyday, he loves you but is afraid of getting hurt. That's all it is. Try not to play any games anymore just to get attention, you could lose out on a very happy relationship. Good Luck.
2006-12-08 19:26:23 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe if you learned to spell that would help. Grammer is sometih g you dont cut corners with. Spell the words the right way. You read like you have a low IQ. people on the net judge you by your grammer, we are not all perfect. But you really need to try harder, its not cool acting stupid. You seem smart...use it all the time
2006-12-08 19:25:15 · answer #6 · answered by recon 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well you said you it ended the first time because he lied to you, but maybe it was more because if all the stuff you talk about at the end... I'm trying to say maybe it had been drifting downward for a while.
2006-12-08 19:22:10 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he needs space or something but y'all two should talk this out and figure out if your relationship is going anywhere.
And to CoachGary up there, don't correct her on grammar mistakes if you cannot even spell GRAMMAR properly. :)
2006-12-08 19:27:57 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
it sounds like you know what you want. i would be alittle suspicious about the calling not till midnight. almost sounds as if he has another girl.
2006-12-08 19:25:43 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
there is nothing wrong with being mad about that i would sit down and Tell him how you feel then go from there
2006-12-08 19:22:14 · answer #10 · answered by kareni23 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋