I want to get over the fact that everyone has a history...granted by todays standards mine is very innocous, but I just have a hard time dealing with someone who might have done somethings I would consisder a little too wild before me and not just enjoy what they are now...anyone ever have the same issue and how did you get over it?
2006-12-08 19:16:04 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Psychology
So I'm just guessing here, but I gather that your girlfriend has slept with more people than you have?
Guess what, it should bother you, because IT DOES MATTER. The Bible tells us that every time you have sex with someone you give them a piece of your soul. Keep giving pieces out, and you will have nothing to give "Mr./Mrs. Right" when you meet them.
The only way to regain those lost pieces is to get SAVED, then you are reborn and can begin anew with Christ in the center of your life.
Don't be fooled by today's jargon, your "number" DOES MATTER....
2006-12-08 19:25:26 · answer #1 · answered by Last Ent Wife (RCIA) 7 · 0⤊ 3⤋
You're not keeping a journal, are you?
Go back to your memory, and list everything that's happened in your boring, innocuous life, and the way that you reacted to it. I guarantee you someone will find it interesting. You would, if you read it ten years from now.
People who have exciting lives are usually not aware that it's exciting. People who are having boring lives are usually not aware that it's exciting.
It's a perception thing. You're having a life, you're dealing with issues. You're alive and there's nothing boring about it. The way you deal with mundane issues is unique: don't be afraid of sharing your experiences.
I have a friend who has climbed most of the major mountains of the world. I've raised four children, and he has not fathered any. We share the experiences, because no man can do everything.
You take too many of your experiences with life for granted, possibly. So buckle up, have more confidence, and share yourself. You need to remember you're on one hell of an adventure called "Life."
2006-12-08 19:40:48 · answer #2 · answered by Boomer Wisdom 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
hi Joe W., i imagine that being afflicted by a companions previous became once specially brought about by: > jealousy (low vanity and espresso experience of self-nicely worth); > concern of measuring as a lot as previous companions; and, > lack of self belief. even with the undeniable fact that, except for those motives above, i think that the completed array of social illnesses - STD's - which includes herpes and HIV Aids, brings on an finished new realm as to why some human beings may be afflicted with the help of their companions previous. communication and trust are key in any relationship, so both companions must have suggested the information in touch earlier being intimate interior the first position. If the companions grow to be in detail in touch, then there should be no extra reason to be afflicted. perfect needs.
2016-11-25 00:33:49 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you're right to be worried if it was in the recent past, and there is no evidence that the person changed since then. Not to judge them, but you can't help it if you're uncomfortable and maybe you shouldn't be too close to that person.
On the other hand, if the past was a long time ago and the person has changed, it shows they are growing and that they are wiser then they would have been if they never did those "wild" things and then learned from it.
2006-12-08 19:30:09 · answer #4 · answered by mj_indigo 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
i felt exact feeling like u. yeah..its hard to overcome that feeling. its a jealous feeling i would say. jealous of sumone (for me it's my gf's past). it became worst when she actually for all these years has a feeling towards me but nobody made the move and she went in her own way (she had a gf before, she was afraid to confront me cos i look sum kind of a good girl type). as for a girl like me, i would just cry..and at the same time slowly trying not to think much about it. but at times, the feeling is still there. i guess we have to prepare our mental on not to think much about it. now is our time, live for now and enjoy every moment of it.
2006-12-08 21:31:37 · answer #5 · answered by mia 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You could find someone with a perfect past, but then she would be boring. Also, she won't sleep with you.
It sounds like you're jealous! You learn to deal with anxiety by deciding to be anxious, not by asking questions to determine whether there is something to be anxious about. Sit with the feelings, feel them, and make up your mind to cope with them anyway.
2006-12-08 19:48:53 · answer #6 · answered by Katherine W 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Talking of ones past to an open and listening ear,is often good healing medicine, in action toward movement in forward motion without the riff.
2006-12-08 19:27:07 · answer #7 · answered by Seeking 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋