how do i know if im ready to have a baby?

Question

i have a boyfriend. ive been with him for 9 months. he is willing to take care of me. and provide for me. and i just dont know if im ready. so how do u know? and how do u know that nothing bad will happend with being pregnant? please help

Answer 1

Read something like this to make sure you are physically and mentally prepared to have a baby :)

http://www.storknet.com/cubbies/preconception/areyouready.htm

Answer 2

Well I think the first thing would be are you happily married? Does your husband also want a child? Can you handle the financial expectations and manage it? Are you in good health and emotionally ready to start this process?

Before I had my daughter: I was settled in a strong marriage and we were financially ready. I had some health problems but worked hard to straighten them out and lose weight so that I was in good shape. I planned every last thing with my first child. But then of course, God taught me a lesson and I became pregnant by surprise a second time. So you never know. But the best thing you can do is prepare your life for a new life and make sure that you are ready for this because it is a lifetime commitment.

Answer 3

Are you in a stable relationship and are you married? Is your husband ready to accept his part of the responsibility for the care of the child? Are you living in a decent home or apartment that will be a safe environment for your child? Are one or both of you gainfully employed so that you can provide proper medical care and food for the child? If both of you are working and you, being mom, is not bringing your salary into the house for a period of time, will it cause you serious financial hardship? Are you willing to give up your own personal needs and wants and focus all of your energies and time in rearing the child and providing a stable home for your child? Are you physically fit and not using alcohol or illicit drugs at this time? Are you a smoker? If you are, are you willing to quit for the safety of the baby that you will be carrying? If you can honestly answers these questions, then you will know if you are ready to have a baby.

Answer 4

Honey
How do any of us know when we're ready.
A good start would be to first get married.
Saying that you are married.
Wait until you have your husband support and consent.

There will always be times when you think the time might not be right.
But you'll get the strength and wisdom to face each day as it comes.
I remember when my daughter turned three i cried.
I was ready for a baby but not a child.
Now she's turning 8.
One day soon she'll be a teen.
I don't think I’m ready for that,
but each day is a new challenge, and so far I’ve loved everyday.
You'll become ready as the time approaches nearer.

Answer 5

As they say, sweetheart, nothing is certain in life but death and taxes :)
I was with my husband for 10 years before we decided to have a baby, and even then once I got the positive result on a pregnancy test I freaked out, wondering if I'd done the right thing, and if I was truly ready. I now have two gorgeous kids I wouldn't swap for anything, even after four years of severe post-natal depression.
No matter what you do, you're never really prepared for a bub. All I can say is that if you both want one, good luck to you.

Answer 6

First of all, Hun, you didn't say how old you are,
Or what kind of situation you are in.
Do you live at home with your mom and dad?
Are you still in school?
Is the father of the baby , will he be in your babys life?
This is a very hard question to answer with no details given, Hun!

Best of luck, and to be truthful, in your very own heart of hearts, i think YOU will KNOW when you are ready to have a baby! :)

Are you already pregnant???
Then you ARE ready!!! Make the best of it, open the books, study everything on babies you can, ask your mom or parent figure , Aunt, or someone you look up to...

You will do JUST FINE!!!

And if i read into this wrong and you are a happily married couple..Follow your heart! :)

Answer 7

No offense but it doesnt sound like you're ready to have a baby. Wait till you're married and have a house and are financially stable. I had my first at 18 and it was rough for both my bf (husband now) and I. We had to work really hard to get through school, work and raise our son. We did it but it was difficult. I honestly don't think anyone is really ever ready for a baby. With your first you really have no idea what to expect and everything. I mean people have them and are fine but I think all that comes with a baby is impossible to fully prepare for. Also, you never know what can happen with a pregnancy. No one can really predict that.

Answer 8

Kudos to Candy Miami, I think she should get best answer.

First off, ask yourself why do you want to have a baby? Write all of your answers down and then go back a week later and examine them.

If you a quick and fast rule of thumb, I would say you're ready to have a baby when you have been married at least two years and your husband has a financially stable income which will allow you stay home and be a mom.

Answer 9

i have some few reminders for you if you want to know whether you're ready or not to have a baby:

* FIRST & FOREMOST, you should be married with a loving and God-fearing husband. If you're not married yet, then you shouldn't be thinking of such things.

* you and your husband are both financially stable. you have saved a relevant amount of money for your baby's needs & even for schooling later on. remember that a child is supposed to be PLANNED.

* your job offers benefits like maternal leaves and such. the first trimester of pregnancy is crucial that you take care of yourself because it is the time of organogenesis of the baby.

* you are emotionally mature and can handle the stresses of pregnancy, childbearing and childrearing.

* you are not malnourished.

Answer 10

no one ever knows if they are ready to have a baby they only think that they are its not that simple but if you want one just make sure that you are finacially stable and will be able to take care of the baby