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Hi. I am a 15 year old female, and im very scared/worried. My boyfriend and i engaged in unprotected sex 4 weeks ago. I am aware it was a STUPID decision..we were caught up in the moment and not really thinking. Well, He was only in for a little while, and i made him pull out at the first sign of "getting the feeling," although he wasn't even close. After that, i gave him oral sex for at least 10 minutes, until he came. I was wondering, what are the chances of me being pregnant? I know i can trust him, and he swears up and down that he wasn't even close, and i even brought up the subject of pre-*** to him. I also mentioned how i read that if the male hasn't urinated since the last ejaculation, leftover sperm could be pushed through the urethra. He says he CAN feel it happen, that it happened while i was giving him oral sex, and that he urinated that morning. (We had sex at about 9:00am.)I've been having stomach pains, but they're not only in my stomach, i also get them in my chest and back, and my ribs are sore, so im not sure if that is a symptom of pregnancy. I'm just VERY scared that i could possibly get pregnant. I forgot to mention that i was on the last or second to last day of my period.

My boyfriend and his guy friends tell me not to trip, but i can't help it! I'm not ready to hae a baby yet, but my boyfriend and i have been together for 2 years and we're closer than most couples. I may be 15, but i realize what a mistake i've made and i know it was a stupid decision. I've talked with him about birth control, and we both agreed that for sure we'll use condoms. We had sex after that time, but he wore a condom AND i didn't let him ejaculate while we had sex.

My periods are almost never regular, and i'm pretty sure that's normal with girls my age, and i've heard me stressing about this (which i have been-at some points i'd just break down and cry, and i assume every ache and pain is because of pregnancy.) I don't know!

2006-12-08 19:12:38 · 9 answers · asked by Lovely 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting Pregnancy

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oh my dear :( I hope no one leaves any cruel messages on here, you seem to have a good head on your shoulders and know you've made a mistake.

There is always a chance that you can get pregnant, even wearing a condom...but without that layer of protection, the chances are much higher, even if your partner doesn't ejaculate. The pre fluids you mentioned can definitly get you pregnant!

Your best bet is to wait a few days, see if you get your period and then try a pregnancy kit.

But please, if you find out that you're not pregnant, look into taking the pill! You will always know exactly when your period will be...and then the condoms. You should always be using two forms of birth control...but even combined they're still not always 100% effective.

I really hope things turn out alright for you and your boyfriend, and if they do, please please stay safe!

2006-12-08 19:20:51 · answer #1 · answered by JamieLeigh 3 · 0 0

The best thing I can recommend if you are concerned, is to get a blood test done by your doctor or family planning clinic. This way you know for sure, and can deal with the situation appropriately once you get the results.

I can imagine you would be scared - based on your age etc, so don't feel silly when your boyfriend tells you to stop "tripping". A baby is a huge responsibility and something that stays with you for life you so have every right to be concerned.

Best of luck with the results and remember in future to keep using those condoms no matter what!

Also if you have the opportunity, discuss alternate forms of conrtraception with your doctor as they may have a more reliable method for you instead of just condoms. Don't forget if you do have another "accident" (which Im sure you wont) there are things like the morning after pill available, so you do have options.

Obviously for some of these things you may need your parents permission, but I think it is better them knowing that you are practising safe sex then coming home one day and telling them you are pregnant.

The other thing to keep in mind though is that sometimes periods can be irregular, and are not always on the same day of every month. At this stage (because it is only 2 days) I would not be too concerned, but if it goes any longer then a week make sure you check it out with your doctor. Like you said, your periods still aren't regular so keep this in mind as well.

GOOD LUCK!

2006-12-08 19:24:57 · answer #2 · answered by yummy_mummy 2 · 0 0

Unfortunately even "pre-semen" has some sperm, and it only takes one to get you pregnant. Don't believe the myth about pulling out will keep you from getting pregnant. If that were the case, I wouldn't have a seven-year-old son right now! It is normal for your periods to be a few days off now and then. If you go longer than a week after your normal time without your period, you most likely are, but get a pregnancy test to be sure.

2006-12-08 19:23:36 · answer #3 · answered by gwydionliew 1 · 0 0

Hi Cali Girl !!!
Look I think that you are very afraid of getting pregnant, period !! And also, I can tell that you didn't really wanted this first time to be like that, "SCARRY" !!!!
And what you experience right now is extremely serious for your mental but also for your phyisical health.

You are still very young, and I understand the peer pressure. But sweetie, if you get pregnant, or STDs, your peers are NOT going to be the ones suferring the consequences.

A moment spend "caught in it" could lead you to spend your whole life regreting it!!!! In 2006, it seems to me you are a very young lady, that unfurtunately is battleling peer pressure.

A very important fact of all this is the effect this experience could take in your mental state. From now on you will experince
bieng, nervous, withdraw from friends and fa., moodswings, depression,headaches. NOT necessarily for bieng pregnant,(I hope you are not), but because of all the emotional stress you will be caring.
Please, Cali Girl; If you are not ready to have a baby, you are not ready to face a serious health complications. If you don'y have a high school diploma or higher Ed., a steady job, and health insurance, I think you better go back to your old self.

That is until you are ready. Right nowl sweetie; you are not !!!
Probably when you are 19 years old???

Also, how old is your boyfriend??? Does he has a job?? Is he going to be there tomorrow, or if anything goes wrong???

Take your time. The damage is done!!! But you can stop of becoming worst!!!!

Wishing you the best, for many years to come. NOT for a "KODACK MOMENT". Think of YOUR future.
Some one that cares.

Alliv Z

2006-12-08 19:46:22 · answer #4 · answered by Alliv Z 4 · 0 0

My cousin's boyfriend only wiggled his penis around the outside of her and she got pregnant.The sillies did not use protection. Although nothing is impossible give it time. You can always buy a preg. kit at a drug store. Heck they even have those at the 99c store now and they work.But stress can make you late and worring about it will only make it worse. Try not to stress over it and wait a few weeks.Then check.Period irregularity is common. I am 27 and still deal with it. Know that if you are- that it was suppossed to be that way. There are no Acciddents. All things that happen are destined to be.

2006-12-08 19:31:06 · answer #5 · answered by doshidoe 2 · 0 0

if you have been stressed lately that could have alot to do with it but if your unsure and worried i would do a test. if you can i would wait to see if you start after a week or so and then do a test. next time make sure you use protection. you are way too young to have a baby.you still have a whole future ahead of you.dont ruin it (if your not pregnant). if so i am sorry.i hope you find the support.you will need it, also i hope your parents will be understanding. good luck

2006-12-08 19:20:11 · answer #6 · answered by candy cane 2 · 0 0

You CAN get pregnant from pre-ejaculation - however, from your story, it doesn't sound likely. Typically, when a girl is on her period, she is not able to get pregnant (this is NOT always the case) because ovulation would've occured prior to her period, and because she DIDN'T get pregnant, the lining of her uterus was shed (hence, a period). Since the time you're referring to was four weeks ago - you can take a pregnancy test. You can get them at the dollar store. If you're not pregnant - get on birth control if you're still going to be sexually active. 15 is way too young to have children.

2006-12-08 19:28:08 · answer #7 · answered by karespromise 4 · 0 0

Just calm down. I few days fluctuation in your period is normal, and stressing might make it worse. If you do not get your period in the next few days take a pregnancy test to find out for sure.
Good Luck and God Bless.

2006-12-08 19:20:41 · answer #8 · answered by mojo jojo 2 · 0 0

I wouldnt worry about it. but if you are, just get a pregnancy test. no need to get an expensive ept. just get one from the dollar store, they work just as well. or if you prefer, there is probably a pregnancy help center nearby. Just get a test to ease your mind.

2006-12-08 19:45:21 · answer #9 · answered by amanda 2 · 0 0

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