the problem is very sensitive cos his mom is very much attached to him,and would feel insecure if her son gets settled/married.She has suffered in life cos of her abusive husband and doesnt want to lose her son,to him getting married.
His lady love wants to get married cos she too feels insecure without marriage.How does one get out of the problem?
2006-12-08 18:43:50 · 9 answers · asked by aquarian 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
As a mother of 4 boys, I can tell you that we raise our children, not for ourselves, they have to go out into the world and find their happiness, and build their families....Mom, should not hold onto her son because of fear that she will loose him, or that he will suffer the same fate that she has. She just may inherit a daughter
who can bring her much happiness. So I wish you luck, try and have a serious conversation, the three of you, and put her mind at ease. God Bless all of you, may you find the happiness you all deserve.
2006-12-08 19:09:30 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Mom will love her son no matter what.
haha, it kinda sounds like monster-in-law. I hope it doesn't turn out that way hehe.
She's just got to realize that even though he gets married, it doesn't mean he's not going to visit her.
Moms worry about their sons moving on with another woman, because suddenly mom isn't the woman in his life. As long as he can convince her that he would always be there for her, it should be fine. But in the end, its -his- decision, not moms. There could be more of an underlining problem. If he really -wanted- to get married he would.
2006-12-09 02:49:14 · answer #2 · answered by memoriesareabeach 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I understand the situation. She is afraid of beeing alone and thinks that he would never come see her again. I think differently. My parents were separated since i was 5 years old and am 20 now. I lived with my mom and had ups and down but we did through it. I love my mom as any other that loves his parents. I discussed this about this issue with my bf. Maybe after the first 3 months of weding, I can have my mom as a neibor. It will be easy for her to come visit each other. Or I can bring on my mom to to live with us or sleep in our house from time to time. She's my mom and i love her. There's no way I will abandon her.
2006-12-09 03:18:43 · answer #3 · answered by LadyXSakura 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most Mothers are attached to their children.Lady Love needs to tell Mom she will still be a big part of her sons life and anyway she's not losing a son she's gaining a daughter.And she needs to tell him that he needs to stand on his own two feet and be there for his Mother but that she wants a man that will stand beside her too. Sounds like he's using excuses.
2006-12-09 03:25:50 · answer #4 · answered by jean 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well he has to live his own life at some point. It's unfair of his mother to be that attached to him. He is being unfair to the girl if his mother is the reason for no marriage. She could either leave and find someone else or deal with the way things are because they may never change. If it helps marriage doesn't guarantee security
2006-12-09 02:58:20 · answer #5 · answered by D 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well the woman in question to getting married...seriously needs to reconsider this man as her potential husband....mother-in-laws are difficult enough to deal with, and if this man is seriously NOT getting married because his MOMMY don't want him too.......
then I'd be running from that situation as fast as I possibly could!!!!!!!!!
2006-12-09 11:38:42 · answer #6 · answered by Ziara 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if he wont cut the apron strings to moma then the girl needs to move on cause hes a momas baby
2006-12-09 03:11:06 · answer #7 · answered by sandy k 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he won't marry her, she needs to leave him with his mommy
and move on to find a real man...
2006-12-09 04:13:30 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She needs to find someone new...Or wait till his mom dies...
2006-12-09 02:48:06 · answer #9 · answered by ABBYsMom 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋