If your rejected someone out of fear, even though you really did like them, but regretted it, and wanted their forgivenesss, what would you be thinking or thinking of doing?
2006-12-08 18:27:21 · 14 answers · asked by boobooshurt 1 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
Firstly you need to find the reason and depth of your fear.If it was silly on your part,open up to the person and explain your actions.If not,stay far away...
2006-12-08 18:45:05 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First I would let go of my regrets because that doesn't lead to anything but more regrets. Then I would feed myself with positive energy and imagine being good friends with that person. I would not want to be forgiven because there is nothing to forgive. I would just start talking to the person also though that "bad" situation/ words never existed. And from that point on, I would allow the relationship to unfold and go from there.
2006-12-09 02:34:17 · answer #2 · answered by tofu 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the first step is understanding what you were afraid of. by understanding it and facing it, then you can take steps to make sure you are not motivated by fear when making other decisions. then, the next step might be in facing the person you rejected. if you're honest with them you may get another chance. if you don't get another chance, at least you've dealt with situation honestly and can move on...hopefully with new insight so you won't cheated by fear again.
2006-12-09 02:46:14 · answer #3 · answered by wondering 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would think seriously about why I wanted them. Was it just because I was afraid to be alone and they were willing last time we spoke? By wanting them now, am I going to cause ANY trauma in their life?
I would also be telling them what I was feeling, unless something had changed in their life and they were in a relationship.
If they were unavailable, I would suck it up and move on. Sometimes lessons have to be learned the hard way.
2006-12-09 02:30:14 · answer #4 · answered by Star 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok as long as you are prepared that they may reject you back if only as a defensive posture...give it a little bit of time then re-contact them and have a private, calm dialogue with them and tell them exactly what you wrote here...see what happens...If you take no risks, you get nothing and no one...so, go on now...and...Good Luck!
2006-12-09 02:33:51 · answer #5 · answered by kewtber 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd just go out in the open and tell the complete truth, and hope that they can forgive me :)
2006-12-09 02:29:11 · answer #6 · answered by Harsh Noise Wall 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you feel real love...be honest....but be careful what you wish....it might be a trap.... maybe you feel guilty that you shot the door and that's why your mind is creating an illusion that you love him.
2006-12-09 11:55:04 · answer #7 · answered by invisible1 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should not have rejected them in the first place, cuz now you lose. you won't get another chance. give it up
2006-12-10 05:52:24 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't ask for forgiveness. just go up to them and don't be afraid and say "hey about the other day i changed my mind ...
2006-12-09 02:35:39 · answer #9 · answered by alberto j 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
simply be honest and tell them why you did it and how you felt. tell them how you feel now and that you would like to reconcile. If they don't like or understand that screw em.
2006-12-09 02:32:37 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋