There is this girl I like and she is mostly "anti touch " she was when I met her and for alittle while after. but we have grown closer and i really like her, but I think she will not like to hold hands or hug or anything. even though I am a more touchy kind of guy. and I mean with everybody I always love hugs.so wht do you think I should do ? and I want mature answers, and please do not mention sex I am saveing that for marraige.
2006-12-08 18:18:41 · 15 answers · asked by 1-4-all 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
yeah she likes me.
2006-12-08 18:22:23 · update #1
you need to talk to her about it. i was really shy when i was younger. i was raised that my body was mine & always kept my personal space. someone once asked me if i was molested, but i never was. it had nothing to do with it. im not saying it doesn't have anything to do with her, but don't assume.
take some time to yourselves & ask her what her feelings are about holding hands, etc. tell her how you feel as well, but make sure you let her know you don't want to pressure her. you just want to know where her boundaries are.
it is always best to communicate with each other. if you can learn that now, you will be way ahead of the game!
2006-12-08 18:24:48 · answer #1 · answered by christy 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Good choice. I would slowly try to ease into hugging her when you have to go home after a date or trying to hold hands when you watch a movie or go for a walk. If she resists apologize and tell her that you are kind of a touchy guy, ask her to understand that you want to grow closer but make sure she knows you mean not sex. And no, not all girls are like that if i had i boyfriend i would hug him and hold hands, but i'm with you on the "not until marrige deal."
Good luck.
2006-12-09 02:25:15 · answer #2 · answered by newsies62 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Perhaps try giving her hugs at the appropriate time like when your saying goodbye or when you first see her, this way it won't be like its an akward unnecessary hug. You can also talk to her openly about hand holding and ask her if she wouldn't mind or maybe just try holding her hand when no one is around that way she can ease into it and she doesn't feel like you guys are some kind of spectacle. hope that helps
2006-12-09 02:24:19 · answer #3 · answered by TeQN'ical 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Something is going on with her, but don't try to force her to talk about it. Be patient with her. Respect her feelings about touching. Be understanding.
I'm like you-I love to give and receive hugs. However, there are hugs that make me uncomfortable, like when a guy comes up behind me and puts his arm around my upper back, holding my arm. I have personal reasons for that.
2006-12-09 03:48:33 · answer #4 · answered by postcardtrader 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Good for you to save yourself for marriage. Just be patient with her she will have to get use to you. Look she is not use to the holding but in the long run she will get use to you being touchy.
2006-12-09 02:24:44 · answer #5 · answered by wolf 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
try to talk open with her about this problem...ask her what she feels for you...and if she really feels something then she'll just have to let u touch her....tell her that holding hands and something like huging is natural...and if she try it she'll love it...i just know....tell her to be more afectous with you...and maybe u'll receive what u want...Oh...and by the way....through holding hands and through hugs u show her(or she shows u) the love that u care for her...so....good luck!!!....
2006-12-09 02:27:17 · answer #6 · answered by ramonik_7 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just guessing... maybe that girl have something in her mind that's making her scared of doing those stuff?!?! If u treat her well... maybe she'll open up?!?! good luck mann...
btw.. two of my friends were together for quite some time.. and i have NEVER EVER seen them holding hands .. or hugging together be4....
i Asked y... the gal friend told me that the guy friend don't like doing those stuff...
so... it happens...i guess...
2006-12-09 02:23:56 · answer #7 · answered by Ching y 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Find another girl. If this is something that's important to you (human contact) then she'll never make you happy if it's in her personality that she doesn't like it.
Of course this doesn't make her a bad person or anything, It' s just a compatability issue.
Personally i think it's good to hold hands and all that business. If she doesn't like to express that then find somebody who does.
2006-12-09 02:24:05 · answer #8 · answered by goodcanadian 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
well maybe she just aint confortable in hugging and holding hands. most girls love to be hold and hugged like me. but some girls are just not use to it. give her times. GOOD LUCK
2006-12-09 02:24:42 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try not to touch her until she knows you well.Now adays girls are like that.If you move fast everything will be wipe out.So try to spend more time with her and try to refrain from touching until she gives you the green light.
2006-12-09 02:31:57 · answer #10 · answered by jorge t 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋