BUT MY BOYFRIEND SAID THAT HE IS NOT..... WE HAVE BEEN TOGETHER FOR 3 1/2 YEARS AND I'VE HAD HIS BABY BUT I AM NOT GOOD ENOUGHT FOR U TO MARRIE??? SHOULD I MOVE ON WITH MY LIFE OR SHOULD I GIVE HIM A LITTLE MORE TIME TO SEE WHAT HE WANTS TO DO.....
2006-12-08 17:55:35 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Listen honey, don't push him into marrying you, marriage is difficult enough when both parties think they are ready. You already have his baby, so just give it time, if you really love him, don't push him, he'll be ready when he is ready and not a day before. What's your hurry anyway?If you're both happy living together and baby makes a family, take your time. Good Luck.
2006-12-08 18:09:04 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
U seem to have a stable relationship for a long time. By now u r supposed to decide whether u two want to get married or not. I think ur boyfriend is not grown up yet to take the responsibilities of a family. Or it could be worse. He might not like u anymore. If u think that he really loves u but just is not ready to have a family than give him some time and try to make him understand how wonderful it could be to have a family and how important it is for u. If he loves u he will decide soon and if he dosent than u know better what to do.
2006-12-09 02:39:03 · answer #2 · answered by mermaid 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i'm on the same page as you, only i don't have the baby. I've been with my guy for almost 4 years. men can be confusing, i know. sometimes mine will comment on how great of wife/mother i'd be, other times he will state the opposite. just the other day he said "we'll be married within 4 years from now" and i'm p*ssed because that's 8 full yrs of dating. and what if it doesn't happen, with you and him? would if you get him to say yes, and then it doesn't happen? you'd spent all that time with him when you could've been looking for mr. right. if he truely loves you, he will come after you if you leave, and you will end up together. then if he doesn't come back, you'd made a good choice and can set out on finding a new man.
2006-12-09 04:34:56 · answer #3 · answered by Bitterly Sweet 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I guess that might be one reason the Bible says we shouldn't have sex until we are married, to prevent such a situation as you are in.
Just because you have had a child with him doesn't mean he is The One for you. He is using you unless he marries you, but you can't force him to marry you and it wouldn't be wise in the long run even if you could.
What you really want is the right man--he doesn't seem to be it. While you and your child are young, get your own place and start your life on your own with your child. Then pray that God brings you your soulmate and don't date around until He does.
2006-12-09 02:38:11 · answer #4 · answered by MandaPanda 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should move on with your life. Unless he has been dealing with some life altering problem in the last six months like loss of close family member, major injury or illness, or dramatic change in career then why would more time help?
2006-12-09 02:48:29 · answer #5 · answered by scientia 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweetie, you're the only one who can decide that. I can tell you right now, he honestly doesn't have any incentive to marry you though. You're giving him everything he'd get with marriage, only he's not married. I would try talking to him, and explain calmly why you feel so strongly about getting married. Maybe you should be satisfied with a small ceremony, not the "princess for a day" ordeal. Many men hate big wedding ceremonies. Good luck.
2006-12-09 02:04:18 · answer #6 · answered by basketcase88 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Does he have a reason why he doesn't want to be married? You don't want him to married you b/c he feels that you are pushing him to do so....If you love this guy I say you give him some more time. What's the rush for you already have his baby? What difference does it make if you are married to him or not?
2006-12-09 02:01:16 · answer #7 · answered by uniqaznmeg 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
i have been w/ my boyfriend for 14yrs. now and i have always wanted to be asked, but it has not happen. so i asked him is it that i'm not good enough or what. see i really don't have alot of time my heart is not doing good. he said that i am what he wants, so then what is the prob. dont wait as long as i have, you may run out of time. find someone that is going to be proud of you and want to show the world that you are his WIFE.
2006-12-09 03:00:05 · answer #8 · answered by mearea3 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
O.K. BabyGirl: How old are you? Take that into consideration. Hope your over 20. Don't wait years-but don't nage him either. Ask him how he feels about you? What would make him ready? Really examine what he tells you, how he treats you. Don't waste your life on a man that isn't going to marry you or just takes too damn long.
2006-12-09 02:00:53 · answer #9 · answered by regwoman123 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Every guy has a good reason not to (at least in his mind). He is not going to change. If you change, he will be forced to change. My advice is to move out, and let him know that you will not be offering any more "marital perks" until you are married.
2006-12-09 02:00:36 · answer #10 · answered by sandcatsle 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋