2006-12-08 17:40:19 · 14 answers · asked by nads735 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Maybe, maybe not. But kids seems to be the least of your problems. Aren't you cheating on your wife? (See previous question by asker)
You really don't seem to give a shat about what your wife needs or wants. Seriously, seek counseling.
2006-12-08 17:42:30 · answer #1 · answered by bubb1e_gir1 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
if your wifes 39 at the moment then in 5 years time she will be 44. This is fairly old to start having children but she has to take your feelings into consideration aswell. Its nokt about who wants children when its about if she can have children in 5 years time and this may be very difficult. I suggest start havugn children as soon as possible as it will become harder to concieve as she gets older.
2006-12-08 17:51:58 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depens how your wife feels. My mom was 36 when she had me and my dad was 38, but i hate to say the disadvantage to this was, as I grew up and wanted to do cool things like go skiing or snowboarding my parents couldn't take me becuase they were too old to do it, that'd be the only thing I really suggest you think about, well that and your cronic cheating problem....scratch that. Fix your cheating THEN think about kids
2006-12-08 17:43:02 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The loving and responsible thing to do for your relationship is to appreciate that having her own child or children would fulfill your wife's emotional and social needs as a woman and mother. In fact I am sure that it would also give her greater fulfillment as your wife. I am assuming that you love and care for your wife and how she feels.
2006-12-08 18:03:51 · answer #4 · answered by lovingthing56 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not wrong for you to feel however you feel, and it's not wrong for her to feel how she feels.
It definitely COULD be wrong for you to not take her wishes into account.
The best definition of 'love' I ever heard is: Love is when someone else's needs, wants and desires become as important to you as your own are.
So in the words of Dirty Harry, "You need to ask yourself, punk, do I love her enough to let my life to be affected by her needs, wants and desires?"
Not really his words, but you get the idea. Best of luck.
2006-12-08 17:51:36 · answer #5 · answered by Dorothy and Toto 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Did you let her know that in the beginning of the realtionship? If not it was not fair to her, but fairness to the kid takes priority here. If you do not want kids, do not have any. Think about what is fair to the kid.
2006-12-08 17:44:17 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are busy aren't you!! Lets see- you are cheating- separated- and talking about having children= and other good stories?? Get the foundation set good first- D
2006-12-08 17:43:45 · answer #7 · answered by Debby B 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it is not wrong but it depends if your wife is understanding because she might be feeling unconfortable seeing you and your child playing and maybe you talking about your child with your friends how inteligent your child is,she may feel not loved and you will start having problems in your marriage.
2006-12-08 18:14:39 · answer #8 · answered by laticia 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to have kids now if you are going to have them..
Don't wait another 5 yrs...
2006-12-08 17:55:59 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Neither of you are getting any younger, and it may be harder for her to conceive,not to mention your little soldiers might drown before they reach there destination.So i suggest a compromise.Two1/2 yrs.
2006-12-10 07:02:16 · answer #10 · answered by Willnotlietoyou 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋