would u be mad @ your hubby?

Question

my husband works with all females. he had to take a trip to vegas (we live a few hrs away) to pick up some business papers. 4 ladies from work went with him. he's been gone since 9 am & hasn't come home. What he needed to do wasn't going to take long but he said they wanted to shop there. it's now late & he's still in vegas. he never called to tell me he was coming home late. I called him several times n he didn't answer. he called back a few minutes later and said that they wanted to go to the casinos. i feel annoyed by him n a little jealous (even though none of those girls are good looking). should i be feeling this way?

Answer 1

Hell yes i would be pissed off to even if he is trustworthy he still shouldn't take women with him and if he had to it should have been straight there and straight back behavior like this can even make us pretty women insecure...

Answer 2

It's natural to feel that way, and in your shoes I'm pretty sure I'd feel the same. But a marriage is based on trust and it is very important to pick your fights. This may be one worth duking out but then again maybe not. He is on a trip with four women. Think of you and three of your good friends. If you decided to do something on the town would your husband really be able to say much to the contrary?

For the moment you have no evidence that he is doing anything wrong. I would address the not calling thing, but not right now. Give yourself time to cool down. That doesn't mean make excuses for him but you definitely need to step away from the situation before making judgements.

Talk to him about this and how it made you feel. But not right when he walks in the door. Wait till morning. Maybe even sleep on the couch or the other room just to give yourself some space from him so you don't erupt.

It is scary having to put faith in someone to do what they have promised (as in your vows) but you have to. Otherwise your marriage has already failed. Give him the benefit of the doubt. It's hard and this prolly isn't what you wanted to hear but it's the best I can offer.

Stay calm and trust your hubby.



(Again I reiterate, I say this as my husband is sitting in the very next room....not hours away with four other women....I would likely be feeling the EXACT same way....we are, after all, human.)

Answer 3

i think your being a little unrealistic and a lot insecure, i mean come on he's going to vegas! you should have known that he would stay and gamble and think about it wouldn't you? also expectations always let you down your expecting too much and don't you have anything else to do than obsess on what he's doing? you should look at the time away as an opportunity to do the things that you want ie go out with your friends. unless your one of those pathetic people who depend on their man to make them happy! get your own life and thoughts and feelings you don't need anyone to make you happy but you and when you place that HUGE RESPONSIBILITY on someone else, they are sure to fail because no matter what it's not going to be good enough, besides it drives people away!

Answer 4

Yes you should be feeling that way, there is nothing wrong in feeling that way, you are human who is feeling neglected and these guy is probably having fun with other girls when it should have been with you.

I could only tell you that unless there is reason to doubt...and I think there is...dont raise hell. Trust is earned and it so easy to lose it. On the other hand remembr it's a marriage you are on, an d this guy was probably brought being told its okay to have four babes hangin' on you, and you were probably brought up ..take care of you man sugar...dos mundos..

Let him come home and ask him how he thinks you felt when he was gone all this time with thos egirls..and if it goes on, then perhaps you can suggest to him you should be doing the same..see what happens

Answer 5

yes, its okay to be mad. I would be yes.

its about respect, and being a good husband, an ideal husband. He shouldnt avoid your calls, he should be home and not put other people before his family, or you, and could have waited to gamble another time, with you.
he's out having fun with other women, and not you. And guess what, just because you dont think those ladies are good looking, he might think one of them is.

For example, theres this ugly boyish looking female that use to work with my husband. I thought she was ugly and well, to make a long story short, he ended up sleeping with the *****. She wanted him, and seduced him. men will f*ck anything.

Answer 6

It's the principal of the matter. He should have called earlier. He should have told you about his plans before he left. Mad--Yeah I would be but, I'd be over it before he got home.Your just mad because you didn't know what was going on. He's just trying to be nice. You said the ladies were not attractive so, they probably don't get out much! He's just making sure they have a good time.

Answer 7

I don't know that you should be too jealous, they may just be taking advantage of some free time, but it was completly inconsiderate of him not to keep you posted and he needs to be told that in now way is what he did ok and it will never happen again or you'll smack him with a frying pan till he's braindead ; )

Answer 8

Whatta bunch of BS. Let's get real here. There's absolutely NO excuse for his actions. You have every reason to be mad. How doya think he'd feel if you went to vegas with 4 guys???

Answer 9

Look back and evaluate your history, has anything lead you to question his trust? My ex never liked female politics so she had lots of guy friends. At times I would get jealous/worried but I had nothing to worry about. When he gets home let him know how this made you feel, and that you didn't like it. (in as calm and un-angrey fashion as you can muster) let him know that if and when stuff like this happens you would like him to check in a little more, or come home and smoother you in love to make those feelings go away, or something like that.

Chill till you can find out more. ;)

Answer 10

Umm why would he being going with females to vegas come on now, what happens in vegas stays in vegas got it. come on now, hes most likely cheating on you. Why didnt he ask you go to with him?