I tend to overanalyze too many things in life?

Question

and am oversensitive.Why is it that i see so many other people being able to"roll with the punches"so to speak when i can't do the same.Also,could it be that people who give the illusion of being happy could be just as miserable about some things or maybe have more to worry about than i can ever inmagine?How do people hide their pain so well? i mean people who are so animated.

Answer 1

Some people are different in that they do not over-react to things or get excited. I think that's the kind of thing that makes the world go around. Take my best friend for example, she flips out and wants to die if something REALLY inane happens, whereas I can remain calm through the stormiest of situations. If you feel it is a problem and you need help, like serious help, to overcome it, maybe a counselor, or psychologist could help. Also, some very good anti-anxiety or antidepressants work well for some people in overcoming social anxiety. I hope whatever you do, you are comfortable with YOU, because YOU are all that matters! ;O)

Answer 2

I have suffered with this problem for years. I am realizing that there are clearly those who are more sensitive to slights than others. I don't really think it is due completely to our early family life, as you will always find siblings raised together in the same environments with clear distinctive personalities.
However, I have found that while I may be more sensitive in some areas than others, that is a trait that helps me socially by being perceived as very considerate and worthy of trust. The people who hide their true feelings are insecure with who they are. Often times, these are the ones with the extroverted upbeat appearance. They do this to present a tough exterior or because they are afraid of experiencing the pain of rejection or hurt. Sometimes, overanalyzing an event or slight is a healthy process of evaluation that breaks down the event so far that it becomes benign and acceptable to us so we can go on. Don't beat yourself up. This is a normal coping mechanism. We all have problems dealing with hurts, just some of us are more demonstrative than those who don't trust others enough to show their vulnerability.

Answer 3

People who roll with the punches have the big picture. See, I can shrug things off easily because I think or sometimes say...."Hey I lived my whole life without you, I can live the rest of it that way too." I don;t take things personally, because sometimes people say things that can be hateful because they are having a bad day and need to vent. Yes, even the happiest of people have problems. They don't show it because it's their business not everyone else's. Yes, some are animated while others are introverted. I don't show people how I feel unless I want to share my thoughts with them...I don't like people knowing too much about me, it gives them ammo for when I anger them or they decide they need some one to gossip about. Look at the big picture see the forest through the trees some people are just mean and hateful and like to see others in pain.Don't let them have their way. Just remember they are a nobody in this world and I'm sure you could point out 100 things that are not so great about them. If it makes you feel better tell them so. And end it with there how ya like me now.

Answer 4

Every common man has the same feel as you say.
Come on, overanalyze or over sensitiveness may lead to envy dangerously and may lead to self pity which is more dangerous. Relax, you are living a nice life too, think about your sucess you have acheived, the good things you have done, divert your mind to new things, stop worring about other ppl being smart. Cheer up. Good luck.

Answer 5

There are some issues that I really over-learn; which include what the guy i love says to me and how he acts & what my pals say and act if we are in a strive against. this is completely time-honored to over-learn some issues because this is only human nature! in case you eventually end up over-interpreting issues slightly too a lot: a million. stop wondering! 2. Take a breath 3. imagine about different issues, which include a memory that makes you giggle i imagine this is only a component, yet no matter if this is not, only attempt to relax. each and everything's going to be only nice! wish this helped!

Answer 6

i'm like that if it makes you feel better...one thing i don't get though is, why being overanalysing +sensitive is the "bad" , the negative one, and one should always complain ? don't get stressed with who you are, these qualities which may seem bad and negative, for me they are gifts. unfortunately, we live in a world that these qualities can't be acknowledged. and to tell you the truth, i don't think they ever were. someone has to be oversensitive and overanalysing. they can't all be the same. so sit back, relax, don't try to change what you are, try to make the best out of it. keep the good features and throw the ones that hurt you. i don't know if i helped a bit, i 'd like to share a big truth with you : you can never change who you are. God knows i've tried many times, you can only try to protect yourself (when oversensitive) in order not to get hurt, and try to find happiness in your life, rather than trying to change your oversensitivity. good luck...

Answer 7

I am stiff too, to be honest, but with help of good friends and family, I steadily overcome my stiffness, or sensitiveness, or shyness.

Everybody experience pain, resentment, wound, etc one point in their life, but it doesn't mean that it will stop us from this thing that we are doing called living.

Life is beautiful, no two man are the same, so accept your uniqeness and be the best you can w/ what you have. Achieve the impossible, you'll be surprise on what we are capable of.

Best of luck! :)