my grandpa just died... what am i feeling here?

Question

my grandfather just died a few days ago. hes been living with us for quite sometime, more than a decade. i cant say i was close to him at all. there was a HUGE language barrier between us. i know he loved me and my siblings dearly. his death wasnt sudden, he was getting weaker by the day and i knew he didnt have much time, so i was actually mentally prepared for it. im not exactly sure what it is im feeling here. at times im fine, and at other times i just lose it. i cant figure out why this is affecting me so bad when i wasnt even close to him. is it just the concept of losing a pivotal family member?

Answer 1

First of all, I am sorry to hear about your loss. Second, you can be a lot closer to someone than you realize, so you're most likely grieving your grandfather's death. Third, you may also be feeling his absence. From time to time, we take that's around us for granted. We don't realize what we have until it's gone. I'm sorry that you're going through this, and I can only tell you that it will get better with time. Find someone that you can actually talk to about what you're experiencing. If you can't find anyone to talk to physically, try keeping a journal. Best of luck to you!

Answer 2

It sounds like you're in a bit of a depression...
When my grandmother passed away, it felt really weird to me as well. We never got along all that well, and we rarely talk to each other...I remember it didn't really hit me until a few days later that she was really gone. Even years later now it hits me sometimes, wondering how different it would have been if we had a positive relationship instead, and maybe regret some things from the past.
But life moves on whether we like it or not. I think that what we feel is quite hard to understand, especially after losing a close family member, even though one might not have been on the best of terms with them. Maybe try talking to a family member about your feelings? Or writing out your thoughts somewhere? Best wishes to you and your family.

Answer 3

everyone goes through five stages of death and dying. The first is the realization that the end is near. The second- doubt. The third- fear and bargaining, The fourth- acceptance, and the fifth, final death.

You are adjusting to a loss, which is almost like when your purse is stolen, you break something of value, or you move away from friends. You will come to appreciate things about this man, and his death will come to mean more to you as time goes along.

Try to find things about him that intrigued you, and talk to others who remember him. See what he was doing at your age. See how some of your hobbies and interests might have been influenced by his life. Be constructive about this grieving process, and you will reap great benefits from this man's life.

Answer 4

No, No AC I would tell you what exactly going on. You are experiencing depression because for one the reason why everything hurts so bad is because you and your grandfather wasn't that close but I think that if you and your grandfather had of had that grandfather granddaughter bond then maybe, just maybe when you knew that the final day he was going to go home to be with our father in Heaven then letting him go wouldn't be as painful as it is now. But always keep in mind stay strong for mom and dad and your siblings right now and remember death is no ones fault it is a celebration of a new life.Because when One life is taken, One life is to be born.

Answer 5

Well, when my grandpa who I wasn't that close to died, I felt the same way.

However, he did live in another state...so I didn't really have much of a chance to get close to him. Mostly I think I just felt guilty that I didn't call him as much as I should have. If you're feeling guilty that you weren't close to him, don't let it get to you. It will only make you more depressed.

You just have to take things like this day by day. You should talk to a family member, see how they are feeling. Talk about memories with your grandpa and whenever you are feeling down about losing him....recall all of the good times.

It's always hard to understand your emotions after you lose somebody and it will help you to talk to someone. I've seen a lot of family members die, so if you need someone to talk to, just email me. I'm always interested in helping people out :).

take care.

Answer 6

My grandma just died 1 yr ago. Shes been living with my family for a lonnngggg time. And her death wasnt sudden either, she was in a nursing home for a yr. I visited her everyday...it was really hard for me seeing her suffer. When you live with somebody you love for a very long time, its hard to let go of all your feelings...like why our family? I cant take this. You just want to cry, all the time. And tears just fall just thinkin about it. The only way to cope with it, is time....family members will also help...telling you their in a better place....and that you dont have to watch them suffer...Hope you feel better....best wishes to your family...

Answer 7

hey take it easy there
it's okey what u feel. the rason ur feeling this because ur mental ability is going through a shock and things cannot et through ur brain.
ur feeling this because even if u weren't close to him the blood made u be close to him.
u know the saying blood is thicker then water!!!!!!
take it easy honey!!!!!!

Answer 8

You lost a part of your house hold, sure you would be upset. Also, you might feel a bit abandoned.

Answer 9

NOTHIN WIOLL HAPEN U WILL GET USED TO IT

Answer 10

cuz he was blood. i'll be here [e-mail]. my heart goes to you.