Making friends with guys in college?

Question

I've been in college for almost a year now, and all of the friends I've made are female. In high school, the majority of my friends were guys, so this is kind of weird for me. I don't mind down-to-earth girl friends, but for the most part I find that girls are way catty compared to guys and I don't want to deal with that. Gossip and other BS isn't my thing. The friends I made are ok, but not great, they're more like aquaintances.

In high school it was easy to make guy friends, since we all grew up together and/or were always around one another. But now I'm having a hard time making guy friends. A lot of guys either only want to be around a girl if he wants to date her, or assumes a girl wants to be something more if she shows interest in him. So how exactly do I make male friends in college without giving them the impression I want to date them? I heard guys assume that any girl that's friendly toward them wants them. :/

Answer 1

The best places are in queues- when ur paying ur fees, in a library etc, u can ask the guy in front or behind all ur questions about the fees - the last date for payment (note that he too will be unsure about it as u r but that could be a begining). In a library asking him if he seen where a particular book is kept etc. Then ask him about the lecturs in class, ask hime which ones he likes, which professor he likes - there may be a few on which u both could talk a lot about.

After all that shake his hands (with a firm hand grip as boys do) & tell him "Nice meeting u, so we can be friends now.....I guess".

After that u can start saying "Hi, how r u doing" etc... every time u meet.

But of course the guy might asume that u take a fancy for him & might try to ask u out, propose to u (say I love U), feel u up, etc. If so tell him "i really want us to be good friends with out getting involved...please if u could understand me".
If the guy is mentally sound he should be ok from then onwards but he could slightly be put off. Its up to u to cheer him up & say "we should be really good friends ....without getting involved....please"

Go ahead......jump in.....Its kinda- difficult but will give u the relationship-builder-tools that will last u a lifetime.

Ice-Breakers:
1. Asking the time.
2. Asking directions - to a certain place or around the campus.
3. Exam time - thats when everybody is nervous & pumped up at the same time. U could befriend anybody on the Exam days. Just saying "Best of luck for the Exams" followed by "Where r u seated" , Jokingly....."help me to copy in the exam" , etc are a sure ice-breakers.

Answer 2

It seems like a first-rate notion. :) Friends do, in the end, supply every others items. However, you mentioned, "anything so she would possibly not fail to remember approximately me". Does that imply you've got extra emotions for her than simply as a pal? Do you suppose the motive of the present is so that you wish she does not "make peers" with different men as near as you 2 were? Just curious. I stuck that remark and questioned what different feasible motives you would desire to supply her a present for? If it does occur to be "simply peers" kinda present, then probably anything she would want in her dorm room could be a well present to supply her. Best of good fortune in institution to the either one of you. ~~~~~~~~~~~~

Answer 3

Ugh!! Maybe the older ones think about sex too much!! Let the guys know where you stand when you have to let them know-As for females there are all kinds too- and it takes time to grow a good friendship or relationship= D

Answer 4

Welcome to college, this aint highschool anymore. Just be yourself, if they want to be friends with you then they will be, if they are just wanting to get you into the sack then you will know soon enough and just walk away. Not all guys are like that but in college they feel more free and think this is time of their life. It does get better just hang in there. Good luck and always be careful.