im gay and i know it. but theres this boys in my class that hit on me they like hug and touch me but they also do tht to the gurls. r they gay or bi or something or r they just playing around. none of them seem gay they all play football/b-ball or they wrestle and one of them is highly religous
2006-12-08 17:00:41 · 9 answers · asked by Brendan 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
They probably are gay or bi, and they are DEFINITELY closeted!
You're "gaydar" is going off because of how they hug up on you all the time - and your instincts are right.
And don't think that they "can't be gay" just because they are on the football or basketball team, or because they're Christians.
Far from it - sports teams are FULL of closet cases!!!
So yes, these guys are gay but they are in the closet, so be careful about how you make advances at them (getting them drunk might be the best way - but beware, they will have sex with you, but will claim that "I'm not gay!!!!" afterwards - hell, they might even claim to not be gay WHILE YOU ARE HAVING SEX WITH THEM!!! - the closet is a really bad place!)
2006-12-08 17:09:30 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
It sounds like they are just being friendly. A hug or touching each others hands doesn't make you gay. If they touch in a sexual manor, like you crotch then I'd say they probably are bi or gay.
The popular jocks at my school touch knuckles and hug before a game or something, but they aren't gay.
I'm a straight girl and I hug my friends and kiss each other on the cheek when saying good bye. This doesn't make me a lez. I think girls are pretty, but I'm not aroused by girls.
2006-12-09 01:20:23 · answer #2 · answered by Manx 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's a good chance that they may be teasing you. Or one or two may be gay and they are afraid to come out. If they are not willing to be open about their sexual orientation, then you probably should use caution with them. People in the closet will do some awful things to stay there.
Gay or not, hang with people who can be real.
2006-12-09 03:49:05 · answer #3 · answered by San Diego Art Nut 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When in doubt, move on. Or feel them out in a very discreet manner. Don't be staring at them all the time. Just hang out with them, play the sports with them. Talk jargin with them. Listen to their subject matter. I find if your talking with someone one on one without all of them together it will become easier to find out if he is or isn't. But don't get personal. Eventually your going to know. I guarentee it. Just be patient.
2006-12-09 13:00:00 · answer #4 · answered by zzap2001 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's hard to say. What culture are they?..some cultures don't frown on straight men touching each other.
2006-12-09 01:30:29 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Could they be mocking you? Some people aren't very nice.
2006-12-09 01:30:32 · answer #6 · answered by DeborahDel 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well here ya go just find the right setting and just ask
2006-12-09 09:07:47 · answer #7 · answered by deb s 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
BE CAREFUL,
they might be just setting up. dont let down your Gard
2006-12-09 13:16:03 · answer #8 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They're gay. No such thing as a "bi" male. Either you like the "twig n berries" or you don't. And they definitely sound like they like it.
2006-12-09 01:04:33 · answer #9 · answered by T 3 · 0⤊ 6⤋