we didnt have sexual intercourse till now.we both didnt have sex before marriage with anyone.in the earlier days of marriage he found my vaginal hole is too small and lost confidence in getting inside.but i have heard its usually small and its only through regular pushing it will get inside the vagina.i have told him many times but he is not doing it.he is used to masturbation and does that by rubbing on my body.what should i do?
2006-12-08 17:00:22 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Erg. I did have a friend whose wife went through this. The thing to do is make an appointment with your gynecologist about this.
Ah, how to describe? The doctor gave them some dildo-like things (for lack of any idea if these medical versions have some other proper name) in gradually larger sizes. It was about a year's worth of this before they were able to have intercourse.
2006-12-08 17:25:28 · answer #1 · answered by ? 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
This is a serious answer-- my wife--rest her soul--had a similar problem many years ago. We used fingers in the heat of passion to enlarge her over a three-week period until she could take my member comfortably.
Don't let your husband weasel out of properly responding to your needs. Men WILL be selfish, given half a chance.
Also, it may be that your love tunnel is just too small for his girth--that sometimes happens--if you haven't made progress in 20 or so sessions, consider seeing a gynecologist.
There's also a condition called vaginismus. Look it up in a dictionary or a medical book, or just type it into your web browser. If it sounds like what's happening, contact a gynecologist as a starting point for professional help.
2006-12-08 17:16:52 · answer #2 · answered by Dorothy and Toto 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
God this thing would be too embarrasing for a lady...
...the guy refusing to enter where every man wants to go.
I wish I was staying next door.....I would have litterally done all the hardwork of enlarging the passage for ur hubby ...all for free.
Cumming back to the answer......Use his morning erection for ur use. Lubricate urself in the morning before mounting him (use ur hand to guide him in). If he fails to enter or u feel hurt the best I would advise is buying 2 dildos both vibrating, one to be used on ur clit while with the other u try to insert in ur vagina. I think u will cross "the barrier" in a week. & of course he can watch u or he can do it to u.
Think i have to go & clean myself now.
2006-12-10 18:06:33 · answer #3 · answered by jack 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yess u are right any nice guy wants to plzz hes lady before hes own so he sould do as u say and never give up when its time try to use sme vasaline on hin to make him slip in easy if he keeps trying that lots it will get easyer with time really i had the same probs with g/f or 2 years ago and we worked it out 2 so u can as well tell him to keep on plzzing you dont give up.
2006-12-08 17:41:51 · answer #4 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
egads.. I am sorry! Sounds like something more going on there with hubby. Have you tried KY jelly? Some women are just small inside, I am like that still and 44!!
You guys might want to see a sex therapist..Or just part now while your marriage is so young.
2006-12-08 17:05:01 · answer #5 · answered by Mommadog 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It sounds to me like this is one of those times that you need to take matters into your own hands....literally! Next time you're trying to have intercourse, and you're wet, take his penis in your hands and guide it slowly inside of you. Take it easy and slowly and enjoy it. You guys will probably be fine after that. Good luck.
2006-12-08 18:21:32 · answer #6 · answered by KT 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to make him have sex with you. He sounds like he is very immature emotionally. If I were you I would take a small bottle and lubricate it and push it inside your vagina with him watching. Do that while he is masturbating so he will associate those feelings with seeing something going inside your vagina. You will have to stretch out your vagina in front of him until he gets the idea to do it himself. Also take his finger and put his finger inside your vagina to get him used to the idea of having his body inside yours.
2006-12-08 17:04:16 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 3⤋
Set up an appointment with a proctologist and go together. Have the doctor explain things to him. Don't let your husband do anything you don't like.
2006-12-08 17:05:12 · answer #8 · answered by sandcatsle 5 · 0⤊ 3⤋
I think you should have professional help about that. Of course he is a little afraid, he doesn't want to hurt you.
2006-12-08 17:27:03 · answer #9 · answered by Bella 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Try masturbating yourself before sex, this will help you relax and get your body excited so that it will be easier for him to enter. Also while you seem somewhat conservative and may not be willing to try, porn helps.
2006-12-08 17:03:24 · answer #10 · answered by tommyguard3 3 · 0⤊ 3⤋