My best friend recently came out to his parents that he's gay and his parents kicked him out of the house. I've been letting him stay here, and I have absolutely no problem with him living with me. What we, want to know is, is there any possible way that his parents will be able to accept him for who he is, or should he just keep putting distance bewteen them?
I'd prefer that only those who have gone through this be the ones to answer.
2006-12-08 16:27:00 · 9 answers · asked by Unico97 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Let me rephrase this, I will accept answers from people who haven't gone through this but I would rather not have any ignorant comments such as "putting him back in the closet" or "his lifestyle is a sin". If you don't like homosexuality in any way, shape, or form, then why are you even reading this?
2006-12-08 17:00:03 · update #1
I don't have any real answers for you...you might, however, contact at PFLAG ( parents and friends of lesbians and gays) they have a very good support system and can probably intervene between your friend and his parents.
2006-12-08 17:39:11 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I have been in your same situation. My best friend told me he was gay and I helped him come out to his parents. His mum started to cry and was upset but she took it better than his dad. His dad didn't speak to him for a while. Instead of putting distance between him and his father he still would try and talk with him and came around his dad and acted normal. He didn't introduce his boyfriend to his parents until his dad had accepted it and was more mellow. His dad and him have a good relationship now and his dad even likes his boyfriend and treats him like a member of the family.
Sam(my gay friend) didn't give up on his parents and visited them and helped them through it. His mom told him that he should leave at first, but after visiting and spending time with them his mom let him move back in.
When he was thrown out he stayed with me. It was a bit cramped sharing my bedroom and bed with a guy thats six foot two. lol! But he's my best friend and he needed my support.
Reply To The Answer Below: A PFLAG meeting is a great idea. I wish we had known about PFLAG when Sam came out.
2006-12-08 17:34:36 · answer #2 · answered by Manx 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I told my parents that I was bi, when I still lived with them. They did not kick me out. I was a lucky one. Maybe with time, and more explaining about being gay, his parents will be able to look past the "bad" news and let their son come back to live with them. Only time will tell. It is a shame that they kicked him out. I hope that his parents will see that this (him coming out) is NOT worth losing their son over. He (your friend) should not try to push them away, but do not push the topic in their face either. They will come around when they are ready, and I hope and pray that it is sooner than later. People are afraid of change and of what they do not know. And depending on the age of his parents, it may take longer to get them to talk to him and take him back. But I say Congrats to your friend for being open and out! It is very hard to tell people, let alone telling your parents...what he did is awesome! Good luck!
2006-12-08 16:33:26 · answer #3 · answered by iwannavacuum84 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
what's the element in having to declare some thing while somebody "comes out"? Does that adjust a guy or woman because of the fact they are outwardly figuring out their sexual possibilities? in case you at the instant are not very close acquaintances, then of course there is not any chemistry between you 2. whether, as someone-friendly courtesy, you could properly known the reality that Maeve suggested some thing that he needed her to tell you (might prefer to confirm that that's actual), and as far as you're in contact, that is cool. possibly a bond will happen, possibly not, yet you could not make a huge deal out of it...there is not something specific approximately being gay no greater suitable than that's being right away.
2016-10-18 00:26:19 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
they may come around but don't push it. also be prepared to handle it if they don't. never close the door on reconciliation just be ready if there isn't any. my parents found out when i was 15 a few months later i was 16 and out the door i went. I'm now 42 and haven't talked to them since. but if they make the first move I'll be open to it
2006-12-08 17:05:58 · answer #5 · answered by Ron N 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I haven't gone through this, but I think the answer will apply. He did not & is not putting distance between himself & his parents. He did what he needed to do for himself by coming out - being true to himself. He can't change their minds; only they can do that themselves if they are willing.
It is their move. If they truly love him, they will at least try to reconciliate. If they cannot love him unconditionally, they never did. You have proved yours to him by standing with him. Harsh, but true. I wish him well.
2006-12-08 16:36:32 · answer #6 · answered by bob h 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well sorry i have not but they will come around it just shocked them. i would give them a little space for now but after little while go back and talk to them. THEY STILL LOVE HIM NO MATTER WHAT they just need coping time tha is all. I know that is what i would need if my kids ever came out bc they are thinking no grand kids no wife you know so it i alot too take in i know it must be rough for him but it is also rough on his parents i would just give them space for right now but maybe call them near couple of days before christmas to see if things calm down any.
SORRY TO HEAR THIS I HOPE IT ENDS WELL.
2006-12-08 16:32:00 · answer #7 · answered by knowssignlanguage 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there is no way i would accept him but no i dont think his parents will accept him they are bad parents admittedly but if they dont like you now they wont like you later believe me
2006-12-08 17:06:10 · answer #8 · answered by #1 joker 2 · 0⤊ 3⤋
put him back in the closet
2006-12-08 16:52:14 · answer #9 · answered by onecoolrigger 2 · 0⤊ 3⤋