2006-12-08 16:02:59 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
That is a decision only you can make. Some people can love a child, even if he/she isn't his own biologically. Some people can't. What about your relationship with your wife? Have you forgiven her? Does she show remorse about it? Will she cheat on you again later?
At the very least, when the baby is born, do not let her put your name on the birth certificate until a paternity test is performed. Otherwise, even if you do split up, she will be after you for child support. Even if you stay with her, you need to know if the child is yours for medical reasons and in case it becomes an issue.
Best Wishes,
Sue
2006-12-08 16:08:12 · answer #1 · answered by newbiegranny 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends how much love you have for your wife, because that will play a part with the child. If you are planning to stick around for the birth, I recomend that once the baby is born, you be there to cut the cord, and hold the child, and once you look at that helpless child in your arms, then right at that moment, you will have your answer, believe me I know. Unfortunatly I got divorced 8 years later and my child had nothing to do with it. One was mine and the other was not, but I was there for the birth of both and right then and there I promised God that I would do everything in my power to love and raise these children unconditionally. Like I said I got divorced, but I got sole custody of "both" of them, and we are still together and there mother is ???????? Good Luck and God Bless.
2006-12-08 16:11:06 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off if you love your wife and want to stay married to her you can NOT take out her actions on the innocent child. If you are unsure if the child is yours get a DNA test its that simple. Do you raise the baby if it is not yours, why the hell wouldnt you? The child didnt ask to be born but when its born the only thing it will ask is that it is loved!
2006-12-08 16:11:08 · answer #3 · answered by texas_angel_wattitude 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How big is your heart? Regardless of what your wife did,that little baby had no choice in the matter!
I would suggest you and your wife get some marriage counseling ASAP. Yall can still have a happy,fulfilling marriage....but it will take a lot of blood,sweat,and tears.
Check out my sources below..I think you may find some encouragement there..........God Bless!!
2006-12-08 16:11:57 · answer #4 · answered by Chief Paduke 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Man, first off sorry this happened to you. If you want to stay with her and the baby is not yours can you see yourself never throwing this in her face or the childs face? There is alot to think about, will you still love him or her as your own? How does your heart feel?
2006-12-08 16:09:02 · answer #5 · answered by 2good4hem 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Call Jerry Springer
2006-12-08 16:09:03 · answer #6 · answered by happy feet 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would leave and find out if baby is yours after the birth, and then act accordingly. I wouldn't take care of the child if the child wasn't mine. I still wouldn't stay with her if it was mine, but take care of the kid.
2006-12-08 16:07:44 · answer #7 · answered by Nep 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you love her and can forgive her (keeping the past in the past) then why not? In your heart do you truly believe that she can now truly committ herself to you? Will you be able to have future arguments without reliving the ugly past? Can you love a child that should have your blood running through his/her veins (if not yours)? If so, then yes. Good luck.
2006-12-08 16:09:37 · answer #8 · answered by shellese2 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would call Jerry Springer or Maury and get a professional opinion. LOL
2006-12-08 16:09:22 · answer #9 · answered by Dumb Dave 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
HELL NO.
DIVORCE!
That child is always going to be a Reminder of what she did.
Things will NEVER be the same again.
2006-12-08 16:07:14 · answer #10 · answered by Latino_Lifestyle 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋