We have tried to have a baby for three years now....?

Question

what is your best advice on how to concive other then the obvious! Thanks

Answer 1

You might want to go see your family doctor. About a third of infertility problems are with the female, a third with the male, and a third unknown. Your husband might want to go too. If you are over 30 and really want to have a baby, call the doctor right away. Don't put it off. Besides ideas on conceiving, he can help you prepare for your pregnancy. Like he might suggest you take folic acid starting now and into at least the 3rd month of the pregnancy.

To get pregnant you need to do "it" in the 6 days before ovulation and/or the day of ovulation (which is 14 days before menstruation). If you are serious about conceiving this means you need to figure out when it will be 14 days before your next mentruation ahead of time. If your cycles are regular, that should be fairly simple.

I have also heard it is best not to do it every day. Your chances are better if he has a chance to produce more sperm between goes. Another factor is keeping it fun. If you are all stressed out you are less likely to get pregnant. There are many stories of people getting pregnant after giving up all hope. Some believe one important factor in this is that the stress of "performing" is gone. Sex is a wonderful gift for a married couple its purpose it to unite and delight them as well as to produce offspring, don't forget that in your eagerness for children.

There are many sites that might interest you on the net.

Answer 2

There are many things that could be wrong. Women carry all of their emotions about being a woman in our female organs. Try meditating on that area and see what comes up in your mind. If it is emotional blockage you will know. Go ahead and cry it out (or punch it out) Once I relized this was my problem after 8 months of trying, I concieved my first baby. But I have been trying again for almost two years now. This time my uterus was folded (a good chiropracter can tell you if yours is) I am still not pregnant but I am hopeful. Try reading some books that are a little more to the natural way of things. "How to get pregnant" (Sorry I can't remember the author right now) Is a really good book. Good luck! And just remember that everything happens for a reason.

Answer 3

Actually I have a different answer, I think, than most other people would. You see my older sister is now finally pregnant. Her and her husband have been trying for about 7 years. We found out what was the problem about 2-3 years ago. She has Polycystic Ovarian Syndrome. Plain terms, a normal ovary is about the size of a woman's thumb. My sister's left one has a cyst the size of her fist on it. This syndrome, though not fatal, or truly harmful, also inhibits hormones... what eggs she did release (from her right ovary) weren't mature enough to be fertilized. She went on hormone therapy for a while and then stopped... that hadn't worked. She eventually went back on Birth control for a while and stopped that and got pregnant unexpectedly.

I would say go to your GYN and see about having a thorough pelvic exam, pap smear and have blood drawn to test your hormone levels. That might be the answer.

Other than that, do what that chick up there did. Make sure neither you or your husband smoke, keep in good shape, take vitamins (particularly folic acid, which is very good for you before and during pregnancy) and make sure that your man wears looser underpants, so as to not 'overheat' things. Also make sure he goes to the doctor too to check his hormone levels and sperm count. Good luck.

Answer 4

Have you and your partner gone to a specialist? After 1 year of unsuccessful trying, you and your partner should see a specialist. On average, 80% of women will conceive within 1 year. So, if you have not, you may have some issues with fertility. Don't worry some of these may be common and simple to correct. If you are not already, start recording your cycles to better predict your most fertile days--2-3 days prior to ovulation and the day of ovulation. Try myfertilityfriend.com. to help you record your cycles. They also have a 20 lesson tutorial on conceiving. GOOD LUCK!

Answer 5

What do you mean by "obvious"? Have sex? Or do you count these?

Chart your BBT
Use an OPK
Observe your cervical mucus

Less obvious:

Make sure the man wears boxers, not briefs
Take a multivitamin
Eat lots of foods containing ginger (sometimes used by herbalists to increase fertility)
Try taking Chaste Tree Berry (an herb that regulates ovulation and menstruation)
Try other herbs (lots of info available online, including mixes of herbs that some people SWEAR by)

Answer 6

Three years is a very long time. I would look into other various forms of ways to get pregnant. Invetro-infertilization is a popular one although you usually have more than 1 baby at a time. Surrogate mothers are also another wonderful idea. Go to your gyno and ask them why it's so difficult to become pregnant. I have a friend whose uterus is just slightly leaned back and couldn't get pregnant. Hope I helped and best of luck to you

Answer 7

I think one of you may have a problem and you both need to go to a doctor to be checked. It may be that you are so stressed with getting pregnant that this is affecting your fertility. Good luck, I'm sure it will happen one way or another. There are so many options. You may just need a little help.

Answer 8

I believe you are too anxious about it, and I believe nothing will happen as long as you are not relaxed.

Put this pregnancy situation completely out of your mind, continue to enjoy
life with your husband/friend. Pray often, continue in a good relationship with family and friends.

When you have achieved this, you will be surprised by the outcome.

Good Luck.

Answer 9

Honestly... the only recorse other than keep on trying is to see your OB for a prepregnancy checkup it is always a great idea to make sure everthing is ok, it can ease your mind or allow you to decide to go on infertility meds & cycles. Best of Luck

Answer 10

After trying for three years I would see a fertility specialist. You may need to take fertility drugs.