If Your best friend, who was in her early teenage years was pregnant what would you do?

Question

I mean would you convince her to tell her parents, and or go behind her back and tell her parent that she is pregnant yourself?. But on the other hand what if she didn't even know who the father is, what would you do?

Answer 1

You do not have to tell your friend's parents that she's pregnant because her parents will find out eventually. Her stomach will grow regardless.

Or If your friend wants to tell her parents but doesn't know how, then offer to tell her parents. Have your friend with you and call her parents up on your cell phone or public phone and speak with whoever your friend is closer to, whether her mom or her dad. Then introduce yourself to her parent on the phone and say that you're speaking on behalf of (you're friends name). Tell the parent that your friend found out she's pregnant and that she's scared and she didn't know how to tell her parents that's why you're speaking on behalf of her. If the parent is freaked out and yelling on the phone, let them blow off their steam first. If possible, let the parent cool down before your friend goes back to her parents house or have her stay at your house or one of her relatives house. When the parent is ready to have a conversation with her child, have them speak to each other on the phone. This way if they end up arguing with each other, one can hang up on the other one, if one gets annoyed by other party.

If your friend doesn't know who the father of her unborn is, then write down all the guys names she had sexual relations with and their phone numbers and call each one of them up and say that she's pregnant and that they might be the father of the child. Or if you want to save money, go on the Maury show and have the DNA tests done on each of the boys she had sexual relations with.
DNA tests are really expensive if you were to pay for them yourself.

Answer 2

I'm also currently pregnant and was encourage from my friends for a looong time to tell my parents. Eventually I did at 5 1/2 months into it. She has to do it herself and eventually she will or may not. Either way, it's not roght for someone else to go behind her back and tell her parents. It would be wrong and devastate everyone involved. I was scared and even avoided my parents for the holidays until I finally got the courage to tell mine. Her parents will be shocked, so I would suggest an e-mail explaining the whole situation thoroughly. I told mine that I wasn't ready to call them in the e-mail to give them time to cool down. After 2 days, I did and was surprised and relieved that they supported me. As for what she should do with the child, I would suggest adoption if she feels that she's not ready for the responsibility. That's what I've chosen and it's not like your giving up the child because it was a 'mistake' or anything, but out of love. In my situation, it's for the best of all the parties involved. I'm giving mine up to a family who can't have children and there's plenty in every state who are looking for a newborn child to raise. As for if she doesn't know the father, I can't really say much on that since I know who's the father of mine, but I think that it wouldn't matter as much who the father is since it's the woman's sole decision on whether to keep the baby or not.
I wish her best luck with the situation! It takes a LOT of courage to tell your own parents stuff like this and they would rather hear it from her than a best friend.

Answer 3

Well, if you go behind her back, you'll end up not being her friend ... and more than anything she needs a supportive friend.

Convince her to tell SOMEONE. If she's afraid of her parents, an older sibling, aunt, neighbor, friend's mom (maybe yours?), etc. She should tell SOME responsible adult.

If she will not agree to tell someone at least give her Planned Parenthood's number : 1-800-230-PLAN. They will get her an appointment with a doctor and also discuss her options. Although, if you are YOUNG teens, how would she even get there? That is why I say convince her to tell someone. If your mom is understanding that might be a good option because then your mom could offer transportation to the doctor's appointment and also an adult to talk with about her options.

Answer 4

Well she doesn't need to hide the pregnancy because it's gonna come out.. You can't really hide too much from parents. They find out everything. Trust me, I should know. But she needs to tell them because she's gonna need some support and you know they might be upset and disappointed, but it isn't the end of the world. Maybe her mother went through the same thing or not, but she needs to face the music because if she was grown enough to lay down and have sex than she needs to be grown enough to tell them regardless how pissed off they might get. It's just a crazy situation for a parent when they find out their baby is having a baby. They feel like they failed. But believe me, there's nothing that her parents can say or do compared to what she has help do to herself. Motherhood is no joke and I am 26 with one child and it's hard, so all I know is that she is going to be grown quicker than she imagined and she doesn't have a choice because she's going to be a mother that hasn't had a lot of education yet and cannot support herself. She might need to talk to an adult she is comfortable talking to and go from there because it's not going to be no walk in the park but she needs to be strong and be somewhat prepared for the reality she is going to be slammed with.

Answer 5

You need to be supportive! But if her family life is not abusive you could encourage her to tell her parents. I got pregnant when i was a very young adult and still living with my mom. I was terrified of telling my mom. But I did and she didn't yell or cry she actually drove me to a clinic to make sure and told me she would support all of my decisions. She is now a proud grandmother of a very beautiful baby boy. Tell your friend there are people at clinics like planned parenthood who can give wonderful advice and even put you in touch with a mentor. There are people to help her, she shouldn't give up. You should always try to encourage her. She has very important decisions to make from here on out. Honestly no one should care who the father is.

Answer 6

Adoption is continually an decision as is sticking it out with a supportive kinfolk. once you're interior the U. S., deliberate Parenthood can clarify all of your pal's thoughts. Many so-called being pregnant disaster centers are really anti-abortion fronts which will clarify each and every thing yet birth control and abortion. That technique may or received't be the right decision for someone, yet having each and each and every of the information won't be able to damage.

Answer 7

You need to just be her friend! Don't go telling her parents.. but encourage her too! Be there for her, because at a time like this she will have alot of people turn her back on her... and that is the worst thing for her! I got pregnant with my first at 16 and had her at 17... so she may contact me if she would like! I know what she is going through! Life will go on, and she can still be everything she wants to be!

Answer 8

I would try to get her to tell her parents. If she wouldn't I would ask her what her plans were? a baby will come out what will she do then? if she can't tell her parents maybe she could tell some other adult ?? She needs to get to a dr efore something happens to her and the baby. If nothing works then you may have to break down and tell your parents and let them tell hers. She will forgive you once she figures out it was in her best interest. You care for your friend enough to help her thats great !! Good luck and I wish your friend all the best !

Answer 9

Let her tell her parents. If you do if she'll feel like you betrayed her. Be supportive of her though. I was 14 when I had my daughter and I kept her. I found out really quick who my friends were. Just keep being the friend you are. She's gonna need you in the months to come.

Answer 10

she really needs to tell her parents herself its not ur place, try to convince her to do it sooner then later. but b there 4 her cuz unless her parents r cool she's in for a bumpy ride. as far as the dad thats the least of her worry's right now, SHE'S THE ONE PREGNANT; and she's got to face her parents. Or she can go to another adult she trust to go with her to talk with her parents if shes scared. but it has to b done ain't no way around it, they will find out. Good Luck