My wife had a baby 3 months ago and there have been rude people that have said that she's overwieght! I think that it's disgusting that they have said that to her as she just had a baby. I think that she's beautiful, but because so many people have said it to her she doesn't want to go out in public or any where as she's embarrassed of her size. She walks every day but it's not helping. She had a ceaser and these people have really gotten to her.
2006-12-08 15:52:30 · 13 answers · asked by Roovs 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You have to find group support, you know people who was hurt like your wife. Maybe you guys can find it in the church or in some hospital. Your love is great support, but she also needs support from outside.
2006-12-08 15:55:47 · answer #1 · answered by Bella 4 · 1⤊ 2⤋
When I had my daughter I had gained 50 lbs. I went from 125-175 and it was a serious blow to my ego. Everyone made sure to say how huge I'd gotten. I think it was because before that I constantly had people tell me how thin I was (and I'd already had a kid and am 5'7) and this was a way for people who had been jealous to get a jab at me. It took a toll and so when my husband would say anything nice to me I thought he was lying. Even now almost 3 years later I don't always believe him because even though I had lost all of it I regained about 15 lbs because of an illness I've had and I can still hear people telling me how huge I'd gotten! Just keep telling her over and over that you think she's beautiful and that you love her no matter what size she is and hopefully she'll believe you!
2006-12-09 00:02:50 · answer #2 · answered by . 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Is it really important what people think of your wife? The important thing is that you realize what a treasure you have, and letting her know goes beyond anything you could state verbally. If she has to exercise for health, that is important, but she needs to know that you support her, and the seizure thing was more than likely stress-related.(If she has a Ceaser, break out the romaine lettuce and watch out for the Ides of March!). Make a wonderful candlelight dinner at home, and suprise her with it... She has given you and your family the gift of a child, and if her appearence is so important to some people, than they are shallow, and you both need to find other people with which to be friends.
2006-12-09 00:12:27 · answer #3 · answered by Road 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Many women feel the same way. Keep telling her you love her and show her how much. It took 9 months to put all that weight on and many times it takes that amount of time and more to take it off. Keep reassuring her even if you don't think she gets it. I heard once that it takes 5 times as many positive comments to counteract a negative one and if you're the only one giving her positive comments, it'll take some patience on your part. It also sounds like she needs to make new friends, maybe ones that have just had babies.
2006-12-09 09:29:37 · answer #4 · answered by historygirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I used to feel the same when my son was born. My husband went out and bought me a sexy little out fit. when I put it on I saw that he was pleased with the way I looked. That was enough for me. As long as you let her know YOU think she is BEAUTIFUL and you don't care what other people say. Then her confidence will be boosted. (It may also help if you get her an ab lounge, I got one and it worked wonders my belly was flat again in 4 months!!!)
2006-12-09 00:06:23 · answer #5 · answered by I wanna dance naked in the rain! 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Compliment her everyday and just be sweet. And be romantic. I would do the same thing but, I don't have any money to be romantic right now but, u probably do. So bring her flowers make her feel like she is wanted and you accept here for who she is not because she is your wife but because you love her. Oh, and make love to her. Just make her feel like a woman.
2006-12-08 23:59:10 · answer #6 · answered by Nett 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
u never will until she thinks it herself, i know that is harsh but it is true. u can go on and on 24/7/365 and it will not sink in until she thinks and feels that way. just keep up the compliments and maybe try buying some sexy nities and let her see that she still takes ur breath away when she walks in the room, that might help, good luck
2006-12-09 00:06:06 · answer #7 · answered by keithy 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Talk about rude. Maybe she dose not need those people in her life right now. With them not putting that crap in her head maybe she will start to feel better about her self.
2006-12-09 00:09:36 · answer #8 · answered by seabeewife05 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
walk with her and let her know that you're there for her, she just had a baby it may take a while for the baby weight to come off, just keep reassuring her that she's beautiful to you, you're the only one that should matter anyway
2006-12-08 23:57:55 · answer #9 · answered by ? 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I am afraid that your wife needs to be confident in who she is and NOT flake out to other people.
2006-12-08 23:56:22 · answer #10 · answered by clcalifornia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋