My boyfreind its on the midle of the divorce from 7months, its all going OK, appart he dont know how to handle and to do with his son 11yrs and half which said that its not ready to meet me, his wife its still in love with him and have set up the son to do so, the father don't want to hurt his son,so I.The wife its moving from the house, and there share 50/50 custody.What he can do?We are in love,but he has changed and is unhappy and confused, I'm hurt as I give him time wekends to spend with his son Fri-Sun,but at the same time I feel alone, as I left all my life and work in Europe, and came to leave with him in Phoenix, 6 months ago, but I cant work as I'm in a tourist visa, and we rent a home till end december, and he is moving at his home 15Dec.His son will stay 1week with him 1 week the mother.After the divorce, how he can convince his son,what to do and how long it takes?His wife don't want any other women near him.She knows about me and came and insult me 3 times 3 months ago!
2006-12-08 15:52:11 · 5 answers · asked by divina 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Any married man should forget his mistakes, there's no use in two people remembering the same thing.
2006-12-08 17:57:49 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
So you left your life and home to move across an ocean and live with a man who is married to another woman?
I'm about to be harsh: You made your bed, you lie in it.
You must decide if you want to stay and work it out or go back home. Your "boyfriend" is just that.... a boy who hasn't grown up to his responsibilities and obligations. If he was a grown-up, he wouldn't have been involved with another woman while having a son and in the middle of a divorce. He would at least have waited until the divorce was over and he had a place for you to live PERMANENTLY and had some stability for you and for his son.
Best Wishes,
Sue
2006-12-09 00:04:46 · answer #2 · answered by newbiegranny 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i can not see any of this working out if his ex is the way she is with you id say she will all ways be like this and all you seem to be to him is comfort at night so he is not alone you should of really had a good think before moving in with him because there are all ready problems your heart has ruled your head you need to have a good talk with him or things wont get sorted plus his ex will never change.
2006-12-09 00:14:45 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
huh, that quite a tough one, relationships are hard work, especially long term ones, I can see your alittie afraid, being away from the comforts of home and all( trust me I know the feeling) I'd say give it time( its great healer, you know) if things are still shakey in a month or soo, then ask your self," is this really working for the both of us"
best of luck
Z
2006-12-08 23:58:23 · answer #4 · answered by Z 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You move away, go back to europe for a while, let him sort out his own mess...
2006-12-10 09:34:07 · answer #5 · answered by - 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋