I dread going in the bedroom. He's attractive and i love him alot, been married for 9 years now. Before it was a once in a while thing when he went down on me.. now he wants it everynight. I dont mind having sexual intercorse but im not into oral. It really makes him irratable when i say no. He storms out of the room. What do i do ?
2006-12-08 15:51:37 · 11 answers · asked by blimp 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
He must be doing something wrong. why haven't you showed him what you like ? You have been together awhile now , you
should be more comfortable with each other by now .
2006-12-08 16:20:48 · answer #1 · answered by Geedebb 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What to do?
Well first you need him to cool off his ego. He wants to perform orally you simply because it pleases him to see you pleased- an ego booster. Either he's upset that you'e not satisfied by him in that way or is frustrated by the possibility that you may not find it appropriate for men.
Before the problem arises again and you have to calm him down, ask yourself why you don't like it. Is it a poor performance that two adults should reasonably be able to discuss and resolve- because it's not easy until you both research and experiment one that works for both.
If it's the fact that what he is doing bothers you so much, then you can either take the rocky road of forcing him to mature or you could mature in the of finding acceptable. I turned a girl who was completely against it into an addict.
2006-12-08 16:19:10 · answer #2 · answered by Anonimo 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Men only listen to what they want. They are the ones who are selfish, not you. Oral sex can be great, but if you don't like it, what good is it? Continue the way you are going, eventually, he'll get the picture, besides just because you are married doesn't mean you have to give in to his every wish, some things just don't feel natural, and that should be okay.Good Luck
2006-12-08 16:18:31 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
"Now he wants it everynight..." If he is a good lover in the giving of oral sex, there are a lot of women out there that would love to be in your shoes. But if you "dread' going into the bedroom." that leads me to believe that he hasn't mastered the art of pleasuring you orally. After being married for 9 years, you should be comfortable enough with him to tell him what you like that he does-----and what you don't like....train him so that the oral sex is more enjoyable for you. Is it just him...or have you never really liked oral sex? If a man gives mindblowing head, it would be damn near impossible not to enjoy...
2006-12-08 16:08:38 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
he'll get over it......thinking.....if he cant respect the fact THAT oral sex is not what you wont then he doesn't respect you or your Wash's.i understand the fact that you 2 have been together for a while but is his action and the way he pressure you into feeling the way you feel in giving you what you don't wont is that worth it? let hem feel irritable you shouldn't have to feel violated in the process....trust.
2006-12-08 16:02:50 · answer #5 · answered by when you THOUGHT shit matters 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you should tell him to find someone else to go down on and leave the missionary position for you.
2006-12-08 16:11:51 · answer #6 · answered by happy feet 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
try and discuss what you both like and don't like having done orally or anything else ....sexual intercourse should be enjoyed by both with no bad feelings at all.
2006-12-08 16:39:03 · answer #7 · answered by qckdrw 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Youre Weird and Selfish.
2006-12-08 15:57:42 · answer #8 · answered by Latino_Lifestyle 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Tell him you would rather he bend you over and give it to you the way you mom likes it. That ought to work.
2006-12-08 15:55:12 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont know men dont listen.I'll be watching for your answers.Good luck
2006-12-08 16:04:43 · answer #10 · answered by birdlady 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋