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if there was only one man in the world and every one else was a women, can he be gay?
2006-12-08 15:44:05 · 14 answers · asked by A0Dki11z 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
I answered this somewhere else, but here it is again, my stance on things:
I actually don't believe that we are born with a predetermined sexual orientation. There are too many people who find their sexual preferences changing over time for this to be true, in my opinion.
I do believe, however, that you don't per se CHOOSE/LEARN/BECOME gay. You don't wake up one day and say "Geez, I think I'll eschew women and go for men instead." But just because you didn't choose it doesn't mean it's biologically a part of you, you know? It's not something you can change, I feel. Take this example, for instance- you are a cat lover. You just love your pet kitties. Never been a dog person, thanks. You just know for sure that you wouldn't ever want to own a dog. So, someone says- you choose to love cats. Well, no, you reply, not really. I mean, I just like cats. I've always been that way. Does that mean, then, that there is a cat-loving gene in your body? Of course not. It means that this is a preference in your mind, one that you cannot consciously change, but is not innate, either.
I think that human sexuality is immensely more complex than the labels we have today like gay and straight. I also believe that love is gender blind and a straight man can find himself falling in love with another man, still completely attracted to women and utterly not attracted to men, but emotionally and sexually satisfied with that one man he loves. Our sexual desires come from our personalities, our past experiences, our childhoods, socialization, and more. It's a heady, deliciously messy mix of everything, and it gives us all that's wonderful about our sexuality today, so diverse.
That's my stance on things. I know that a lot of gay/bisexual people claim they are born that way, and I understand why they feel that way. For them, the claim feels true. In my opinion, a lot of straight people call it a choice so they don't have to ask hard questions about God (creating that which He supposedly hates?) and their source of intolerance (how can you hate something that someone never chose to be, like skin color, or, in this case, sexual orientation?). Like I said, I think it's neither, but I don't mind people claiming they were born gay. Just as long as they don't say that all gay people were born gay, or all straight people were born straight, etc., etc.- until they have scientific proof to back that up.
As for the other question- of course he can be gay! He could be the only man on earth, and still be gay. Sexual orientation has to do with your desires- who you'd like to do, and not who is available.
Hope that helps!
2006-12-09 21:30:55 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No one "chooses" to become homosexual. It is a natural preference, just like your favorite color, food, etc.. I do not believe anyone is BORN with a certain sexuality (straight, gay, or otherwise) because as small children most humans exhibit little-no interest in sexual or romantic activities. Usually even considering it "gross". I say natural, but not genetic, and certainly not a choice. Oh and to the person above me; you show your own ignorance by comparing something that is often the result of trauma or abuse (pedophilia) to something that has absolutely no connection to these things (homosexuality). Pedophilia is not inborn either, but it is considered a mental disorder.
2016-05-22 22:07:32 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They are born gay. Just like straights are born straight.
Consider the answer this way: if there were only men in the world could a man still be straight? It works the same for gays.
2006-12-08 16:05:20 · answer #3 · answered by Avalon 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The age old question. Seems like every day someone asks this question. Here's my take, does someone choose to be black or white or hispanic, no they are born that way. In society, why would anyone choose to be a minority and be discriminated against. I sure wish I wanted to marry a nice guy and have a family, but it not in my heart and I couldn't do that to myself or anyone that may be harmed from doing so.
2006-12-08 16:11:04 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No people are not born with it, they have a choice to become that way, they think about it long enough and decide and make the decision to become that way. They feel that is the person they are to be, because they have excepted there choice, and want everyone to except it also.
When in fact, that is how they become homosexuals, they choose to become one. By thinking about it, fantasizing and then acting, if you think about something long enough, your can believe anything your brain tells you.
Or anyone else at that matter. But your mind your choice, you choose.
2006-12-08 16:15:15 · answer #5 · answered by Faith Walker 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
I was born this way but it is just as possible that a person is using homosexuality as a defense mechanism.
2006-12-08 16:07:05 · answer #6 · answered by Addicted to Crayola Paste 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
people are born gay. if there is only one man in the world, he can be gay, but will be very lonely
2006-12-08 16:01:54 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think anyone is born a homosexual. I feel that it is 100% environmental and almost any homosexual will tell you that they were sexually molested in some way when they were a child.
That guy isn't gay...he's thrilled!
2006-12-08 16:46:33 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
Born, it's not a choice. Do you think if we had a choice, we would ask to face hatred and discrimination? He could if he were born that way.
2006-12-08 15:53:36 · answer #9 · answered by Cheryl C 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Born this way.
2006-12-08 15:48:27 · answer #10 · answered by discokevin2001 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋