My boyfriend broke up with me 2 months ago. He never really gave me a reason. We celebrated his birthday and he said he loved (like normal) and ten 2 days later it was over. Wednesday night his mother died. I met him through her. She was one of my customers. We became close friends. I would have lunch with her once or twice a week for years. I met him about a year ago, she introduced us. I fell him almost immediately. He is so caring and kind. He never gave me a reason for the break-up. I assumed it was b/c of his grief over his mother's cancer. Tonight, I hurt for the lose of my friend, but my heart breaks for him. I took him & his family a dinner last night. For the past 2 months though we've been apart physically have been going thru this w/ him. I loved her & I love him so much. I want to be there for him now in his time of need, but he shows no emotion really & I don't know what to do. The next couple weeks * months he is going to be dealing w/ this. Does anyone have any advice?
2006-12-08 15:40:39 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
its obvious. He love his mom very much and he loves you very much. When his mom died, the grief occupied him comletely and he need to push you aside for a while to grieve for his mom. because he loves you so much, he doesn't want you to experience the pain he is feeling. Its his way to protect you. Give him space and time. Your understanding him now will mean more later on than trying to squeeze yourself between him and his grieving.
I can relate to this because I felt the same way when my father passed away.
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2006-12-08 15:59:18 · answer #1 · answered by rovendinoalui 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey I think you should just let him know that you will be there for him, But you might want to give him space to grieve. If he still loves you he will come around when things start getting better. I would say a little prayer for him to get inner piece. God Bless the both of you Thank you for being there for him, That is the best you can do right now.
2006-12-08 15:58:35 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should touch on the topic about his mother. Tell him you share his greif. Do what you can to show him you care. If he still does'nt respond, i think you should just let go gradually. He might have his own reasons, or maybe it was just not destined to be. You need to accept what you cannot change,. I'm sorry, and i hope things go well. I beleive that it all happens for the best.
2006-12-08 15:46:33 · answer #3 · answered by Kria 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think the best you can do right now is not focus on mending the relationship cos he already got alot on his mind. What u could do is try to be there for him and try to comfort him and let him know how much his mother meant to you also. Maybe once he has stopped grieving , he will realise how much u love him.
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2016-11-25 00:17:53 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
gosh that is sad well my friends dad just died a little while back & well she didnt show much emotoin either it was hard i think you jus need to show that you still love him BE THERE FOR HIM thats what matters most to him b/c right now he is jus tryin to make it through you should put the thoughts about you & him on hold for a little while - jus my opinion :) hey stay strong it will all be ok
2006-12-08 15:46:25 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I also think that you need to be there for him but don't push him at all . The loss of a parent is very hard to deal with .
2006-12-08 15:48:23 · answer #7 · answered by Geedebb 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Keep your distance. Even if he still loves you, his mom will take precendence, and if you push him, he will not act nicely. Wait for him to make the first move, and go on with your life... at least for the moment.
2006-12-08 15:44:20 · answer #8 · answered by shaclare 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just talk to him and let him know that you are there for him if he needs you....that's all you really can do. you could call him periodically and just let him know you were thinking about him and just wanted to see how he was doing. if he gets irritated, then leave him alone, but he might need you and just be too afraid to show his true emotion.
2006-12-08 15:45:30 · answer #9 · answered by jamie_0778 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow... email him because it's sooo hard to face them. if you email, you dont have to worry about blushing, or anything like that. If you tell him you love him in the email, you can comfortably talk to him i think. Tell him how much he's done for you. Make him feel better about himself.
2006-12-08 15:43:50 · answer #10 · answered by Meaganboomc 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋