I work in an ER and we somtimes get close to one another or bump up against one another when we work together. However, lately I have notice one of my male co-workers keeps bumping into me in inappropiate ways and he never says excuse me. An example, the curtain was drawn around a patiens bed and there was little space, he decieded to go around me and I felt his penis brush across my butt, he did this twice within a few minutes. As we stand around the nurses station he put his hand in the small of my back to speak to me and was very close to my face which made me uncomfortable. This certain male co worker reaches across me and hits my breast (which are large) and his hand has accidentially hit my butt a couple of times as he has been standing next to me and he has never said excuse me or sorry. I have told my boyfriend but unsure of what to do next . My manger is female, I'm the new employee in our department I don't have close contacts at work that I feel that I can trust . What 2 do
2006-12-08
15:37:37
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nene
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Take him aside and make it clear that while you realise that his contact was unintentional, that in future he please be less careless. One of the things you don't mention is whether there's seniority involved or not. So, I'll assume that you're equals with him just having been there longer.
Make note of the times, circumstances and who else might have noticed. Stay calm, cool and professional at all times because emotion could be misconstrued. Talk with your manager if you have to but don't seem to eager to be doing so. Probably wouldn't hurt to couch things in terms of professionalism in front of patients and that his behaviour brings disrepute onto your department.
By no means should you just clam up and let it continue. It may well be that you're not the only one he does this to.
HTH
2006-12-08 15:51:56
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answered by natty10000 2
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The first thing you need to do is acknowledge it is happening. If he rubs up against me, look at him and say "I'm sorry, do you need more room to get around me". That way he knows you know it happened. If he puts his hand on your back, calmly move away so he cant (without being too obvious) or take his hand and move it away firmly. The personal space issue you can say "I'm sorry, could you please move back a bit, I'm feeling a bit clausterphobic". If it continues past that, take him aside and tell him you feel he has been touching you inappropriately and you are telling him to stop. There generally has to be a formal "I am telling you no" before HR will do much.
Document EVERYTHING. His penis brushed up against you on Dec 3 2006 at about 7:30. He put his hand on you Dec 4 2006 at 3am. If you can, list names of people who saw this happen or were there. Say where it was, ER room, nursing station etc. When you tell him NO, mark that down as well.
HR Depts need these facts to present to the accused person. They are in a hard spot legally that they need the proof to terminate the person if needed. It makes it harder on the victim, but also assists in the cases where people do make false reports. Make sure you follow chain of command...tell your superviser then see what she does. That way she doesnt feel like you went over her head, and HR doesnt wonder why you didnt go to her first.
Good luck to you.
2006-12-08 15:48:01
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answered by Cariad 5
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Write down the dates, times and locations of each event. Keep a record. When it happens, make eye contact with someone else in the room in a way that indicates what just happened makes you feel uncomfortable. Talk to the hospital's HR department and find out what they recommend you do. They are there to support you and to create a respectful, comfortable working environment and they can guide you through the proper procedure.
2006-12-08 15:41:46
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answered by Jetgirly 6
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human beings deal w/grief in distinctive procedures. you're an extremely emotional guy or woman and crying is your highway to healing. some human beings could stay busy so as that they don't could think of roughly it (that's the case w/a number of your co-workers), some human beings shop, some hibernate; there is not any "dazzling" way. the lack of ability of tears does not mean all of us isn't mourning his loss of existence. To you he became into an extremely specific guy or woman and have confidence it or not sooner or later his concepts will carry you convenience
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answered by swett 4
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Talk to the people in human resources. They can give you advice. Or, next time it happens, if you feel you can speak up, say, "HEY! Watch it, buddy!" I think, though, if you confide in your female co-workers, you'll probably find out this guy has a reputation for doing this. And, if he touches you deliberately, like putting his hand on you, step back and away and say, "That's inappropriate" or "Please don't touch me."
If you want to make a joke about it, you can say something like, "It's so nice that you're willing to touch me. A lot of men feel uncomfortable about touching someone who used to be a man."
2006-12-08 15:43:27
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answered by Katherine W 7
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I would say something to this individual first, if you feel that he may be doing it deliberately. If you don't get a good response you may want to discuss it with your supervisor. You don't need to put up with that type of behavior at work.
2006-12-08 15:42:59
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answered by Flyby 6
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I would tell your manager. They are required to investigate any threat of sexual harassment immediately, and the accused is forbidden by law to retaliate against you in any way. You're covered.
2006-12-08 15:42:54
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answered by littlechrismary 5
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Go to HR and file a compliant
2006-12-08 15:45:47
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answered by tnbadbunny 5
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