She isn't old enough to hang around guys
what do you think?
2006-12-08 15:25:23 · 48 answers · asked by ? 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
Yes, it is OK !!!
2006-12-11 03:53:50 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
Of course you could protest all you want but that will not change anything.. That girl is in highschool, You need to stop.. The only thing you are going to do by protesting is push her further away from you.. You need to be realistic.. Now if really the time to Tell her everything that you want her to know about, as to the real reason you dont want her around boys.. Pregnancy/Diseases.. Because that is the real reason.. Show the girl some pictures of Diseases that you get when you don't wear a condom,, and they pray... And let her know it's ok to ask you Questions if needed..They way you are going about it is all wrong.. It's going down weather you like it or not, so you need to be apart of it, before she don't tell you $hit.. Then you lost her
2006-12-09 01:54:41 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i am 17 and i have pretty open minded parents, they never protested against me having guy friends. But im pretty sure that if they did i would do exactly the opposite. I think that you should let your daughter hang out with guys. tell her to invite them over get to know the boys, and you can check up on them when shes in the house.that way she wont have to sneak around (and we all know she will) and you will be less worried if you get to know her friends. A parent should set the limits and know where to set them, but by keepeng your daughter from hanging out with her friends, you will make her hate you. at 16 she needs to figure out who she is as a person. As a parent you need to encourage her and help her find the right path.
HOpe that everything works out for you. good luck
2006-12-08 15:51:21 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Having male friends is normal for any one. She is definitely old enough to have male friends. I'm sure she has male classmates? What about school dances? Prom is around the corner.
If you forbid her from having friends, she will rebel against you. There are decent people out there both male and female. Do you trust your daughter? You can keep her from dating at 16, but there's nothing wrong with her having male friends. You don't want her to feel that she has to hide friendships or relationships from you. Keep a close relationship with her before she decides that she doesn't want to have one at all with you. Good luck!
2006-12-08 15:34:24 · answer #4 · answered by Miss Jay 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, and yes she is old enough to hang around guys. Having male friends teaches her how to behave around young men as a young woman, appropriate behavior etc. There is nothing wrong with haveing male friends I did all though high school and my best friend now at my age of 53 is STILL the best friend I had in high school and he's a guy...by the way we became friends when I was 15.
2006-12-08 17:04:28 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I do not think that it is okay for you to protest her about hanging out with guys. I don't think hanging out guys are harmful, it's just a matter of respect. It is all about if the girl respects herself and knows what she wants without flaunting herself, then she should be fine. I think 16 is a good age for her to have her own experiences. Do you want her to go out in the world and not know what to do if a guy does something to or for her? She needs to experience those things. Only knowing her father for a guy is not going to help. Male friends are cool, you can be friends without getting sexually involved with each other. If that's what you are worried about with her. Just talk to her and explain what you want what is best for her. But don't try to shelter from people, that will hurt her in the long run. You want your daughter to be independent, don't you?
2006-12-09 03:02:13 · answer #6 · answered by spyder90tishuez 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think by protesting, you are making her more curious about being around boys. She may just go behind your back and have male friends anyway, afterall you can't be with her 24 hours a day.
Why not teach her about having positive friendships with males? Teach her whats good, whats bad and what to look out for to keep her safe. In just two years, she will be an adult anyway so why not start opening that communication now?
Just a thought...
2006-12-09 04:21:48 · answer #7 · answered by nikki_butterfly777 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, you are only adding fuel to the fire. It is not inappropriate for your daughter to have male friends, unless you know for a FACT that she and these friends are up to no good. How do you expect her to learn how to interact with males when she is older and looking for a mate, or deal with men in college or in the workplace. If you cut her off completely while she is under your watchful eye, she will either find a way to have male friends behind your back and lie to you or go hog wild when she moves away. Your best bet is to harbor a stern but open relationship with your daughter and try not to cut her off from the rest of the world.
2006-12-08 17:04:49 · answer #8 · answered by rvidal1978 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I'm 16, my dad's not terribly too fond of me hanging around guys with either. with me, I understand where he's coming from, he thinks that they all have the same intention, and yes, some of them do, but even a lot of my trustworthy friends he doesn't like. So sure, it's okay to protest, but tell her why you are, I'm sure it's because you care about her right? you don't want her getting hurt, tell her that maybe she should wait a little bit before she gets too close to any of them if you're that worried. But I, personally, have never had a bad experience with my guy friends, and if my dad has a reason for me not hanging out with certain ones, i try to respect that, but if i find it unreasonable, I'll tell him, and we'll discuss why. ^^
2006-12-09 02:16:49 · answer #9 · answered by candiyo spop ococ 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why isn't she? If you tell her no she will probably protest and hang out with them behind your back. Do you think she is not mature enough? Or maybe you just aren't ready for her to hang around with guys. You could let her go out with groups of people including both guys and girls. Bad things are much less likely to happen in groups. Or if she wants to hang out with one particular guy, let them hang out supervised at your home. She may be ready to date but if you really don't feel she is then you shouldn't give in, you'll be paranoid. Make sure when she starts dating, you meet the guy first and have him over to your house a few times before you let her go out alone with him. If you trust your daughter and know that she is a good girl then I think it would be fine for her to hang around with guys. Of course only guys who you approve of!
2006-12-08 15:48:00 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
im trying to be nice, but COME ON. im 13 and like half my friends are guys! u can only shield your daughter for so long. when she gets in to the real world she's not gonna know how to handle boys. and she will somehow get male friends without you knowing. and 16 is way old enough to hang around guys. my best friend in preschool was a boy. and can i take a guess? she's your first child.
2006-12-08 15:32:49 · answer #11 · answered by polaris grl 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋