to keep the child and i was considering letting her keep her(the baby) but i dont think shes ready,should i let her keep her or put it up for adoption???
2006-12-08 15:19:19 · 35 answers · asked by mai 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
my husband says we should let her keep her
2006-12-08 15:27:32 · update #1
she is going to keep the baby, we have talked about it but could you give name suggestions her father is chinese,im japanese and the babys father is korean so any chinese,japanese or korean names please
2006-12-09 05:31:31 · update #2
well mainly it's your daughter's choice. if she wants to keep the baby than that is her decision. all i can say is support your daughter in whatever choice she decides to make.
God bless and Merry Christmas!
2006-12-08 15:24:19 · answer #1 · answered by sing2thekingforever 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well you need to make sure you explain to her how hard it was for you and what it truly takes to raise a child. Ask her how she plans to care for and support the child. If she were to give the child up for adoption there are plenty of couples out there who would LOVE to have a little baby at home and they are carefully screened (normally) to b able to care for the babies - and I've heard open adoptions are a lot more common now - where the bio-mom is always known about instead of kept hidden.
But it's really up to her unfortunately - she got herself into this situation and she has to be the one to nkow if she is going to be able to handle the stress and work, or if she wants to give the baby up. If she does give the baby up, you may want to help her find a psychologist or someone to talk to because it will be a huge thing for her emotionally.
I have a 17 yr old niece who just had a son. She chose to keep the baby but her mom told her she had to go through natural childbirth as punishment for getting into that condition (which I think is plain mean - I'm all for natural but it's the moms choice). In the end she ended up being so tiny, she ended up needing a c-section - which I've heard is pretty common with teenage girls because their bodies/pelvises are usually smaller then average.
2006-12-08 15:33:42 · answer #2 · answered by Rae T 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
God, I had no idea a parent could give their childs baby up for adoption. That's terrible, you do realize this will not just effect you, but your DAUGHTER for the rest of her life? If you are financially able, keep the baby for both its sake and the mothers. She will grow up when she has the child, she will have no other choice. To force her to give it up would be putting your relationship on the line. Your daughter would probably blame you the rest of her life for never having the chance to know her child. Your daughter made a mistake, let her decide how to handle it.
2006-12-08 15:32:58 · answer #3 · answered by dolly 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The real question is: What is in the best interest of this child?
This is not about your daughter at all. It's about the baby.
In my opinion, giving the baby up for adoption to a loving, two-parent home would be in the best interest of the child.
This has nothing to do with your "footsteps" so you need to get over that right now. I don't know how a young girl of 15 can raise a child well. She's not even done being raised by you! She needs to finish growing up and finish school. You and your husband are going to end up raising the baby both financially and emotionally.
If she is going to raise and mother this child, she needs to move out and be the adult she thinks she is. If you are going to end up raising it, you need to legally adopt it. Otherwise, give it up for adoption.
2006-12-08 18:17:32 · answer #4 · answered by leave me alone 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
My opinion is kind of harsh but the truth.
I dont think when it comes to this you should tell her what to do. I mean she is the one going to have this child. I think you should let here make up her mind i mean if she really wants the child then let her keep it, you might think she is young but in the end she will make the right decision. I mean she had sex at a young age. It might not show to much responsibility. I have two friends who have children. One is 16 and her son is about 3 and i know she would of regreated if she gave him up. Like my other friend the same was with her daughter only, this friend was 15. I dont know if this helps but i hope it does. Give her the chance to make up her own mind. I hope everything goes well and tell her congradulations.
2006-12-08 15:26:30 · answer #5 · answered by Journalism Geek 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, that's tough! I would "let" her keep it, but stay on top of her to still do well in school and Make sure she finishes high school! Why don't you ask her what hes wants? Maybe shes already thought it through, and has a plan. Maybe she already plans on adoption or something? Sit her down and ask her what she's gonna do to keep her grades up and help with money and then support her decisions! If she was old enough to have sex, she's old enough to own up to the repercussions! Good Luck!
2006-12-08 15:41:52 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly, I think that unless you want to raise this baby, you should try to talk her into adoption. I was 16 when I had my son and my mother raised him. He is now 14 and we have a good relationship, but he still lives with her. On the other hand, you raised her and if you think she can do it too then let her keep the baby. It is all in how mature you think she is and will be when she has her baby. Good luck and if you need someone to talk to, you can instant message me or email me.
2006-12-08 15:28:25 · answer #7 · answered by Patty 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I really think that maybe this is something you should discuss amongst the family...ultimately it's your daughter's decision, however if she were to keep the baby, I'm sure you would play a big part in raising it. Discuss it thoroughly with your daughter and your spouse if you have one...what kind of role does your daughter want to play in her child's life and and what plans did she have for after high school...is it possible that she still follow through with those plans with a child at home? Discuss it with your daughter and good luck!
2006-12-08 15:24:16 · answer #8 · answered by cowboynpony00 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ok Mom think about this when you were her age did you want someone to take your baby and were you ready? You got to keep her so how do you think she will feel if you make her give it up It will be a long tough road but think about it this is your grandchild and you will love every moment. Dont spend a life time wondering what could have been keep that precious baby.
2006-12-08 15:24:11 · answer #9 · answered by colee97 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Talk to her about all the problems with having a baby. Tell her that it will HER baby and ot yours so if she does keep it then help out some but not so much that she can do whatever whenever. Tell her what you went through when you had her. She might need a reality check and BIG TIME not to sound mean.
2006-12-08 15:22:39 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well the best thing is i don't see anything about abortion. I'm sure when you were in her shoes people probably said you was not ready and you may not have been but you got through it. Be by your daughters side and keep the baby. I'm sure with your help since you have been through this it will all work out. Good luck in whatever decision you make.
2006-12-08 15:27:27 · answer #11 · answered by ITS ME 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋