My friend, cousin and employee has a boy friend and so do I. She flirts ALOT with mine. Should I say something

Question

an example or two of her flirting: I was on the phone with her and she heard my boyfrind say Do you still love me a little? She said to tell him That she loved him a little and I loved him alot. I just ignored her and she said again firmly tell him! I did not say a word. She asks about him alot and calls him occassionally. When she and her boyfriend recently went away for the weekend she asked if my boy friend could take care of her cat, not me! I said I will and she pressed me two more times casually if my boyfriend could do it. I ignored her and took care of her cat! Ugh! I cherish our "cousin-ship and friendship plus she works for me what really is the best thing to say or do? This really is uncomfortable. I even still ask myself am I over reacting or under reacting. Any suggestions?

Answer 1

A persons gut instincts are usually right 99% of the time. Its when we ignore them we get into trouble.

Next time she brings him up tell her to back off.

Answer 2

Next time she says something, don't stay silent. You need to show some back-bone, respectfully. Even though, what she's doing is far from respectful to you and your boyfriend, this way is the best to handle it without making a problem bigger.

You also need to talk to your boyfriend about it. Let him know that you feel threatened and don't want to worry that she could cause something to go wrong with you guys. You should tell your boyfriend that you didn't want to seem that you are over-reacting to the situation also. He should understand how you're feeling.

Ultimately, what your friend is doing is strange, and I'd personally feel threatened as well. It's only natural.
Get some nerve, let her know how you feel. Don't make a conflict out of it though. In other words, plan on what you're going to say...choose your words well if you want to keep your relationship with your friend.

You should talk to a close friend and see his/or hers opinion as well. Good luck. :D

Answer 3

Girl if u love u boy with all ur heart then no-way ur not over reacting. U care for him and if ur friend is really ur friend then she would back off if u asked her 2. I have had the exact same problem with 1 of my friends but when i told her she left it at that and was very sorry. Just say the way u feel. Like if she pulls on the tears walk away. But before u confront her ask ur boyfriend wat he thinks about it. Tell him the way u r feeling 2!!

hope it works out 4 u
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Answer 4

Geez no, you're not over reacting. I'd be bothered by her behavior if I were in your situation. Furthermore, her behavior is inappropriate. She's not entirely out of line but if she makes you uncomfortable, you should say something. She may just be naturally and harmlessly flirty and may not know that she's causing you to be uncomfortable, so try to be tactful with her when you do talk to her. Don't come at her with accusations. Good luck and way to be level headed by asking for advice rather than just dismissing her as a friend (or relative) or just yelling at her.

Answer 5

that just seems that there is a little more to the story, like maybe she has a crush. as a friend, cousin, and employee she is doing all the wrong things, putting the relationship in jeopardy yours tell her that u really don't like all the flirting she does, that u know that is just her way and u know she doesn't mean any harm, but that u get uncomfortable with the situation

Answer 6

It's ok to feel jealous and protecting your man girl .. even if it's your cousin.

First send some hint of how you are in love and in great relationship with your boyfren ... And anyone dare to snatch your man you would smack a shoes to the face of the woman. And not try to be funny. Step up the plate higher whenever she's trying to flirt with yours. And when she tried again ... tell her direct to her face .. "How desperate can you be?" And ave a lil laugh at it .. And tell your boyfren after that .. "I am lucky to be witha hot guy like you coz even my cousin is hitting on you" ...

Then sit back and see her reactions ... Hope she 'feelin' it ...

Answer 7

hmmm... you need to be careful of that for real because family is chosing for no matter of there flaws so can have a little bit of jealiousy that you have him and she doesnt my cousin had the hotts for my man and i ignored it and him and her messed around not saying your situation is the same just keep a close eye on your cousin and if you see any other un cool behavior confront her nicely about it

Answer 8

You should definately talk to her before anymore occurs. If your friendship with your cousin is important you should tell her how you feel before you get to the point where you want to yell and scream or even worse, stop being friends. She probably doesn't even know it is bothering you.

Answer 9

I would make a couple of little barbed coments and see if she catches the hint. Such as "Good grief, (her name) would you please quit crawling all over (your boyfriend's name). People are beginning to talk. "

Then if she doesn't get the hint, step it up a bit and make the comments a bit more terse.

If she doesn't get it then, she doesn't want to get it. The you are just going to have to lay it on the line and tell her to stop it all NOW.

Answer 10

Sounds kinda strange. I would confront her and tell her your feelings. If it makes you uncomfortable (as it would me) then go with your intuition. She doesn't sound like the best friend.
She's likely to get defensive but at least things are in the open.
I CERTAINLY would not like her calling him either.
I'd be real careful with this one. I don't think I'd trust her.