Advice please? rele need some good advice?

Question

my friend. is well a diffucult person and has a lot of hard stuff going on in her life. some domestic violence and how she hates her parents. i mean she always pointes out how much better my life is compared to hers. i guess it is. but wen she sez stuff like. ur life is the best. u haave all this stuff. but u dont understand. but then she gets mad at us a lot b/c to her she thinks we dont care and that we never listen. and.. that our lives are filled with happiness and stuff. but we tried to listen.. a lot of us did. but wen ur faced with things like. ur life is so great and stuff. and that u wont ever understand. stuff like that. wen they say " U dont have to go through this or that" i mean. wat can u say to that? u dont but ur trying to. but i mean.. wat can u say to that? that YES my life IS better than urs? that sounds so.. i mean. just retarded. but if u cant understand. i mean. it seems to me that no matter wat we try to do. it wont do anything unless its likei go through it too

Answer 1

when your in a situation like this
the only that would i see to get through someone like that is to
be straight up and give her a wake up call. i.e


- "yes, i am lucky but that doesnt mean i dont give a **** or dont understand because youve told me what youve gone through and i know its difficult."

- "i understand and give a **** because im your friend and im STILL HERE putting up with your rudeness and bullshit".

-let her know its unfair that she puts you on a pedastal and makes you out as better than her

all im saying is, she seems like a stubborn person and she would only seem to get it if you were straght up or gave her an ultimatium that shes making too hard for you when your only trying to help.

Answer 2

From what is sounds like to me your friend needs a sympathetic ear. Just listening and sayng things like "it sounds like you are going through a rough time right now" and "I wish there was some way I could help you through this difficult time" are good examples. Hope that helps out. Sometimes we all want someone to listen and just be there in hard times.