My boyfriend and I were together for 3 years. We broke up over the weekend and I've been eating non-stop. I'm half way through a bag of cookies and I'm waiting for a pizza to be delivered. I was so close to quitting smoking too, and I've bought 2 more packs. My friend invited me out last night but all I wanted to do was lay in front of the tv. I haven't done anything all week except work, eat and watch tv...my place is a disaster and I have no clean clothes or dishes.
I feel so sad and all I do is think about my boyfriend. I don't know what to do? I'm only 23 so I know there's more fish in the sea but he was the first guy I ever loved.
All my friends have their families to spend xmas and I was supposed to spend xmas with him. I have no family where I live and I have to work so I can't go away. I don't know what to do.
2006-12-08 14:47:47 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Go to your local Community and find out how you can volunteer over Christmas. There are so many facilities with children who need help. You are not alone!
Church service is another option to gather with people.
2006-12-08 14:51:53 · answer #1 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are in depression and that's normal in this situation but you have to do something about it. Don't let this eat you up. Stop eating so much. Tell yourself you are going to lose weight and if your boyfriend sees you he will see what he missed out on. So if you keep eating like this, you will gain and won't look good.
If you're going to be alone for Christmas, why not volunteer for a charitable organization or hospital or a nursing home. Try to give someone else a little of yourself and you will be happier. When your friends call and invite you out, don't turn them down. They are there for you and want to help. But they can't help if you won't allow them to. So, my dear, shut the TV off, wash dishes, clean, keep busy. That will help get your mind off things for a while and you will feel better doing something. Good luck. Time heals all wounds.
2006-12-08 22:59:56 · answer #2 · answered by prarierosebud 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
uknowme is an ***. You need a quick fix now and food ain't it. Hang out with friends if you can. Call the local battered women's shelter or homeless shelter and volunteer your time. E-mail friends/family. Living well is the best revenge. Take a brisk walk and buy yourself somethingto symbolize a new beginning. Bless and release him. He isn't suffering because you are. Clean your house.Invite the old lady down the street for tea. She needs you. You could brighten so many lonely souls just with your smile. Leave him alone. Totally. They usually come back wagging their tails behind them. Even if he doesn't, be the person you want to attract. Someone is dreaming and wishing for you. It's time to give back to the world. The sun will shine everyday for you. The stars are twinkling for you. Put a time limit on your grieving. You have only 4 days to cry your heart out. That's it! No more! Now go out there and shine .
2006-12-08 23:09:56 · answer #3 · answered by firestarter 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow. Sorry to hear. Baby girl. You are punishing yourself for something that was so not yours to own. Was his. You know that! Buck up For yourself. And all placed in the same position before you. This story is as old as time. Take a stance. Get cleaned up. Clean your house. Make some calls to a good friend. And family. Act like he never existed. You are acting as he wants you to. Is because of your love for him. He knows that. Show him who you really are. You will then have a great chance of either him returning to you for good or of finding someone better who is already waiting on the sidelines. You go girl. I challenge you. Eat some pizza. Then sleep. Tomorrow morning wake up with a vengeance like no other. Show him who you are. Im me. Let me know. This can be nothing less than great.
2006-12-08 22:59:59 · answer #4 · answered by bountyhunter101 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I eat to cover the pain too, its alright, get a punching bag, thier awsome, spend a week in front of the tv stuffing your face full, but only a week, now, clean your place up, have a shower, and go out with your friends, there are heaps of poeple out there that you can talk to and relate to about losing someone you love, i'll be no help to you there, never been in love, talk to your family, tell them your situation, and maybe you can go visit them for christmas, just do anything that makes you happy, good luck honey!
2006-12-08 22:56:28 · answer #5 · answered by Blurred V 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a bad time of year for a breakup, for sure, but u need to find something to do, or go to your doctor for a mild antidepressant to get you through this. Your friend invited you out, so you should call your friend and make another "date" to go out and try to get your mind off of things. Don't get me wrong, there is not anything the matter with grieving, but there are more productive ways to do it than eating and smoking cigarettes.
2006-12-08 22:51:02 · answer #6 · answered by Elizabeth L 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are still maturing emotionally. Heartbreaks are a part of life, everyone goes through them. It's okay to be sad, but don't feel sorry for yourself and mope around your house. Do something to take your mind off of him:go meet a friend, go to a sports game, or go on a shopping spree. Or you could try to reconcile with your boyfriend.
2006-12-08 22:51:55 · answer #7 · answered by Renegade 411 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love hurts and life goes on. The pain comes when you love someone and they do not love you back. But that is no reason to do that to yourself. Get into a singles group, get active, and have fun while you are in young. Good way to think about it is "His loss". You are who you are and if he can't love you for that you are better off without him. Get back into life and get out of the house. There is a lot of stuff out there for you to do so get going before life passes you by.
2006-12-08 23:36:14 · answer #8 · answered by Sergeant 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first keep yourself busy, you may not feel like getting out of the house but by staying busy it'll help time pass a little faster as you heal and will be less likely to binge.
Maybe if you mention to your friends you're alone for christmas they might be able to bring you to their gathering, or have your own little celebration later in the evening.
2006-12-08 22:51:43 · answer #9 · answered by gypse76 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well you didn't say what you broke up about, but if you feel you can't "go on" without him call or go see him and tell him what's going on with you. See what both of you can do to improve on each other and if you guys can possibly restart your relationship. Your not going to make the situation better for yourself by doing this mess.
2006-12-08 22:54:08 · answer #10 · answered by Téa LaFaye 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋