Her husband is terminally ill and may not live thru the holidays or much after. Any ideas of what to buy for someone in this situation?
2006-12-08 14:47:11 · 15 answers · asked by ♀♥☼ alycat☼♥♀ 3 in Society & Culture ➔ Holidays ➔ Christmas
I would try to buy for her as normal as you would anyone any other time. You don't want her to reflect on the death with a gift for christmas. Save the special present for after he has died, she may need something then.
2006-12-08 14:53:12 · answer #1 · answered by Shari 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-07-22 01:12:05 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd make her a homemade gift - something that lets her know that you REALLY wanted to give her something special. If you bake her something, it might be something relaxing that she doesn't have the time/energy to do for herself. Besides that, she may be able to share it with him. Try making a loaf of homemade pumpkin bread (ps - freezes well - actually tastes better after frozen) or some homemade cookies or candy. Paula Deen's peppermint bark (I'm sure you can look it up on the food network website) is awesome... I made some last week.
Good luck! How sweet of you wanting to make this a special gift!
2006-12-08 14:57:21 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I can understand that torment, pray this is a great idea for you and her.
Have one of her or your friends make a beautiful scrapbook.
Inside it starting when he as a child, go all the way through until his life presently.
Call his teachers, old schoolmates, people from his old work, old loves, old friends, family wherever they are, ask them stories, tape them since you will be exhausted writing them down.
Ask them if they have any special memenos that were importand to your friend and that person, have them send all of them to you.
Get cards that play some of his favorite music, put them in there and have the person he had the memory with write in the card.
If he had beloved pets, pictures and mementos from the loved animal. Give it its own chapter
Write a story of his life with the scrap book, have everyone write their story about him in there and the funny, mischeivious and touching things they did.
Do detective work, find his friends, teachers, work buddies, hospital personal, lost loves, animals, family and the ministers who have known and loved him.
Make this devinely inspired book, not for him, but for the one he leaves behind
Have him fill out his own section after reading everyone elses, making coments in their sections as he goes.
Give him a whole area where he can tell his beloved, everything he never told her and everything of wonder.
When he has passed, this book will not only be for her, it will be for the world.
Give copies to the ones who contributed, then...........publish the book.
Call it TIME TO SAY GOODBYE FOR NOW
If you need ANY help at all researching, finding people, I am your girl.
Since I will be going through it soon, maybe twice, I would hope we both could change a little piece of the world and set our grief laddened hearts free.
God Bless,
Susis
2006-12-08 15:23:36 · answer #4 · answered by wildmedicsue 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would make her a nice gift basket with things like coffee or tea, candles, a book....just stuff like that. as much as she probably could use a day out, she may not want to leave her husband if he could pass anytime. I know I wouldnt so give her something she could try and enjoy at home while shes sitting with him and trying to relax...though I doubt possible. as least this way it gives her something she can use in her home and it wont make her feel like shes being treated differently. thats truely a sad story though. I will say a prayer for her.
2006-12-08 17:18:36 · answer #5 · answered by Jenn ♥Cadence Jade's mum♥ 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She just might want a break for at least an hour or 2. See if you can find a visiting nurse, or somebody qualified, to tend to the husband while you take her out for lunch or dinner. Maybe even a makeover.
I would volunteer, but distance is a problem. I do wish you luck and God bless.
2006-12-08 14:56:39 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on how much you want to spend. Send her to a day spa for relaxation and rest and arrange for some one to look after her husband for a day. Get her a message for 30 min or an hour and stay with her husband. Take her prepared meals to make things easier for her. If you want to carry that on do it for her once a week. If she does not want to leave her husband have a masseuse go to her home.
2006-12-08 15:00:13 · answer #7 · answered by BUPPY'S MEME 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
DVD Batman II Incredible Hulk w/Ed Norton Get Smart Coffee or food gift set
2016-03-13 04:56:45 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What about having a meal delivered to them? What about watching her husband for her for a few hours so she can just get out for a little while and maybe get her hair done? What about offering to clean her house for her so she has one less thing to do? What about offering to run errands for her so she can have a few minutes to relax a little bit? What about having some Carolers come by to sing for them,am sure her husband might like that as well.
2006-12-09 06:52:27 · answer #9 · answered by grbarnaba 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think the nicest thing to do for someone in this situation is to give meals that can be frozen, visiting her for a cup of tea, a bright bouqet of flowers, a gift of housecleaning.
2006-12-08 15:14:49 · answer #10 · answered by katie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋