ok i want a baby super bad but i`m only 13?

Question

the only thing kepping me from not doing this is what people would think i really want a baby i know i`m young but my lyfe`s already screwed so i think if i got pergnat i would be getting what i want. but my mom she said she would be mad but she would help me and i know my dad would be mad but i never see him any way!
i want some one to need me as much as a baby would need me.
my bff says she wants to wait but every body says i`m going to have kids young any way. i mean getting pergnat is not going to be hard for me but i really wanna know should i do this. money will be a problem but i know people will help me out.

Answer 1

It shouldn't be up to others to help you. Until you can do this on your own you shouldn't even be thinking about it. Babies are all fun and cute, until they are screaming at all hours of the night. You are only 13 years old and can not even spell the word pregnant correctly. I suggest finishing school and learning a proper eduction so you can teach your child properly before even thinking about getting pregnant. You need some counseling and someone to actually stop and love you. It seems your looking to place your love into something because your not getting enough yourself. Why not ask your mom to get you a puppy to care for.

I don't say any of this to be mean, but maybe some brutal reality. Your way to young and you will give up your youth to do this and be miserable its to hard!

Answer 2

Until you are physically, financially, and emotionally able to have them and support them, you shouldn't have them. You are only young once - take advantage of this time to spen as a kid and just get through school and do your best - get a great career and then you can think about having a child. If you need to feel bneeded then it seems like you are lacking attention or you just think you need more. I'd suggest talking to your parents more or a trusted adult - maybe an aunt or teacher - probably the best person would be a psychologist or school councelor.

But please for the sake of the potential child - don't bring a baby into this world that you cannot possibly support or care for the way the baby would need to be cared for.

Don't base your life on what other people tell you - you need to love yourself and be happy with yuor life and be strong and confident and then maybe people won't assume you will end up a young pregnant teen.

Answer 3

NO NO NO!!!! That is just beyond insane. Im not just trying to be rude but think about it... You're only 13, its very unlikely that you can get a job anyway. Forget what everyone else says, why don't you not have kids young and prove them all wrong. It seems to me that you haven't been living a very good life and you don't have many people who care about you, or at least you think you don't.. The only reason you want a baby is because it would love you unconditionally and you need someone to love you. Think about how the baby's life would be, growing up in poverty being raised by a child itself. Don't be selfish. You should sit down and think hard about this, make a list of all the pros and cons that could come of this. I bet there will be way more cons. It doesn't matter if your "life is already screwed up". You should try to make it better by finishing school and getting a good job. Bringing a baby into your life would only screw it up more and would mean a bad life for you child. Please, DON'T DO IT!!

Answer 4

The worst reason to have a child is to love you, you are 13 and you really need to live your life. If you have a baby you will miss out on the most important years of growing up, hat is the part of your life you learn all new experinces. I had a baby at 16 and I did have help but not all the time. You will be stuck at home while you watch others go out and you are watching them get excited while they are getting ready and the next day you hear about all of the fun they had and you only wish that could be you. You have a lifetime to have children. As for people handing you out money or buying you nappies milk and other baby needs even if you breast feed the cost of a baby in the first 5 years is unbelievable, no one will support your baby they way you think, people will get sick of your bludging off of them.
Babies are cute and cuddly but they are not babies for long, and your not always guaranteed a baby that sleeps perfectly or doesn't cry constantly. My advice is don't even think of having a baby, get an education so when you decide to start a family you can support your baby in about 10 years time, enjoy your teenage years going out and learning whats its like to grow from being a child to an adult without children hanging off of you. I know and I am telling you to wait, I missed out on so much and I can never have those years back, I love my kids but at times I sit back and wonder how much better their lives could have been if I waited until I was an adult. I am and have always been a good mother but maybe I could've been even better if I waited. You are a child be one and live like one. All the best and I hope you take everyones advice and don't do it.

Answer 5

You say you want to have a baby because your life is already screwed up. Well, can you imagine how screwed of a life you're baby is going to have. You're only 13 and your life sucks. Well, you can change it. The life your parents gave you is screwed up but you still have to give yourself a life. If I did it, you can too. I was sexually abused for a long time. When I graduated from high school, I left home. I went to college (got some loans, grants, scholarships) and told myself that I would make a better life for myself. I eventually graduated from college and my first job out of college was working at a record label in Los Angeles. I couldn't believe how great everything was. I was renting an apartment in Venice Beach with a few other people. I had a beat-up car, but it got me everywhere. And now when I go back "home" and visit my old friends that got pregnant while they were in high school, I feel so sorry for them. They're still living with their parents, they're still not married and are working stupid jobs that hardly pay anything. I feel so bad for them. What's so sad about the situation is that their kids are going to turn out the same way because they won't know any different.

I know what you mean by wanting some one to depend on you. But it sounds like you need that some one to depend on too. Don't you want to provide your child with much more than you ever had? You should prove everyone wrong that expects you to have kids young. What do they know. They're looking down on you already and don't expect much from you. Prove everyone wrong. You're better than that. Do yourself a favor and leave that environment as soon as you're out of school and make a better life for yourself. Then really give them something to talk about. Good luck!

Answer 6

I have a 5 month old and believe me you do not want a baby at 13! You won't have time for anything else and it might sound like fun but when it's something you HAVE to do it won't be that great. You can't even imagine how tired you are even after 5 months! If you think your life is screwed up then you wouldn't want to bring a baby into it would you? I don't think wanting someone to need you is a good reason to bring a baby into the world. I know in your mind your reasons are right, but you really should wait. Finish school, get your life together and then have a baby for the right reason...you'll be happy you waited! Good Luck!

Answer 7

It's a very stupid idea. If you had a baby, then what would you do about school? You say you're life is screwed up but you still have time to fix it. Back when I was in High School my friend had a baby. She ended up dropping out of school to stay home and take care of the baby. She had no money because the pregnancy cost her $50,000.
About 2 months after the birth my friend was holding the baby and ended up dropping her. The baby got a broken arm from the fall but ended up living. The point of the story is that teenagers are TOO YOUNG!!! to have kids. They don't know how to handle kids. Babies esp. you have to be very delicate with.

Another problem would be the birth in itself. You think child birth is the baby plops out of the body and you take it home. Not the case. Child birth is VERY painful and takes hours for the baby to come out. (It doesn't walk out, either) I'm 100% positive your life will be ruined by this baby. If you think you're life is ruined now, wait until you go into poverty trying to pay for food, diapers etc for the baby. It's not fun.

Answer 8

Kids are so much work, and they start to push you away as soon as they start walking which can be as early as 10 months, not very long. Being pregnant at your age would get you alot of attention however, your child may grow to hate you for being so young, not be your best friend or give you endless love, children take so much love and often times are unable to reciprocate the love you feel. If you are longing for attention and love maybe you should talk with a school counselor about this, it may help, it sounds odd, but at least you can try to talk before jumping into this, there is always the possiblilty that you would not be able to keep the child even if you gave birth, because you might not provide a safe, healthy, warm environment. Really your only option is to refrain from getting pregnant it would not be fair to a child.

Answer 9

You are right getting pregnant is easy,being a good parent is much harder.You must know you are far too young to have a baby. You say your life is already screwed up and that is even more reason to not have a baby now.You must be able to provide a baby with love and stability.What kind of future do you want for yourself. Complete your education.Get a good job and you will show tat you have the maturity to not only support yourself but a child. Don't be in a hurry to grow up. you are only young once.You want a baby for all the wrong reasons.Love yourself enough to make informed choices that will allow you to have a better future. Good luck.

Answer 10

First of all, realize right now that this is a very natural feeling. When I was a teenager, and I babysat my little cousin, I really wanted a baby bad! I knew that it would be hard, but I had made up my mind that I was going to do it no matter what!

It's natural for you, as a young woman, to have those natural maternal instincts. No doubt you'be probably taken care of a baby recently and were amazed! Babies are no doubt an amazing thing, but they come with A LOT of responsibility.

I wound up having my first child at 17, and it was a blessing, but it also hurt me a little in the end. I thought, like you, that I would have a family and a boyfriend to back me up. My boyfriend left once he realized that we weren't married and he didn't have to be stuck in the house, watching me nurse this infant and stay up all hours of the night. My family helped me as much as they could, but still couldn't hide their dissapointment, not to mention my parents had full time jobs.

I'm not trying to talk your ears off (sorry if I already have) but just make sure that you think this over. It could be REALLY tough for you in the long run. If you need someone to talk to, message me.