My boy friend is 17 and im 15 and be have been bf & gf for almost 2 years, he wants me to have sex with him?

Question

im a virgin and he knows that hes not a virgin, we have been bf &gf for almost 2 years

should i have sex with him or not, he wants me to.

i really really really love him but im kinda scared, but i dont want him 2 leave me cuz i wont have sex with him

my friends keep sayin i should because they say it will make the other girls jelous because we are the only people in the whole school who isnt black or white or a combonation of the 2, and every gauy that they have talked 2 says that they want me and all the girls say they want him (we are pinoy/filipino)

Answer 1

WAIT..........Thats all i can say. don't do it till at least 17 or till you know your ready. Relationships change once you have sex. Trust me. Im a guy, im telling you to wait. Im only 24 and can't stress this enough. If you decided to have sex, make sure he is using a condom, it's not worth the risk of getting pregnant or on STD.

Just look around and see how many young mothers are out there struggling because they're boyfriends that loved them so much left them as soon as they found out the girl was pregnant.

Answer 2

Trust me when I say this!!!! Please don't have sex with him just because you think you have to!!! At 15 it's not even a good idea to start having sex. I'm not saying that you're too young or don't know what you're doing, but you have time for things like that! Enjoy being 15!!! If he breaks up with you just because you won't sleep with him then he is not the one for you! Dating is about meeting new people until you find the perfect one for you. If he is willing to throw away your 2 year relationship over this then move on to the next one. I know it might be hard to think of that but it will be okay! Think about all of the other things that could happen if you start having sex!!? Birth control and condoms don't protect against everything or keep you from having a baby and those are things you shouldn't have to worry about right now! I'm 23 now and waited until I was 18 to have sex. Though many guys asked me, I stood my ground and said NO! It is honestly the best thing I've ever done! I almost wish that I would have waited a little longer, but I wouldn't want you to feel that way! It's not a great feeling to regret such a big decision!

Answer 3

OK. . .
1. are you ready to be a mother?
2. are you financially prepared to raise a child?
3. is your b/f financially prepared?
4. are either of you sterile?
5. are you willing to drop out of school and raise a child?
6. are you willing to cease having ANY social life?
7. are you willing to get up at any and all hours of the night for a baby?
8. are you willing to give, give, and give to a totally dependent child your time, your effort, your love and put them 1st ALL the time?

Since there is NO safe sex (no form of "protection" is 100% safe, condoms only about 80%) are you willing to take a risk?

Are you aware that when you have sex at your age, the likelihood that he will stay with you for over a month or so after that is about 10% or LESS?

Are you aware that guys give love to get sex? and girls give sex to get love?

Are you aware that your respect level for each other will go DOWN 100% and your guilt and worry will go UP 100%?

Even IF you can live with all that. . . you are NOT ready for sex until both of you can commit for LIFE and you are too young for that.

Bottom line. . . don't do it. You will stay together longer and still be able to look each other in the eye even if you break up in the future.

Answer 4

You shouldn't have to ask this question to a bunch of strangers. You're obviously not ready to take that step yet. Regardless of how long you two have been together, the fact that you love him, or that other people say you should; don't do it until you're ready to. If you have any doubts about something this serious you should hold off. When you're really ready to, and the moment comes, you will know and it will be a much better experience for you. If he truly loves you he's not going to leave you if you say no. You're still young sweetie. Just wait until you don't have to ask yourself this question "am i ready?"... That's when you'll know.

Answer 5

Finish school and get an eduction. One day when you are older you will want a family so why not wait till you have a nice life in the making first? Really think about this cause this can be the biggest change in your life and it is not always what you expect. You should wait till you find the man of your life. Look toward your future cause you can have it all but I think now is NOT that time.

Answer 6

You are fine. How big you will get depends on testosterone levels. The higher the more it grows. For example. Boys with micropenia (very small penis) are treated by putting testosterone cream on the penis or by injections. Do not do this without a doctor. The best thing is to eat healthy. Fruit and veggies. Pumpkin seed and Pistachios as well as other things raise testosterone levels. Easy on the sweets. No smoking! How big you get pepends on how big your father and your mothers father is. That is the genetics that controls how high your testosterone level will get.

Answer 7

well your asking, so it just shows your not ready. noone is going to tell you if you should or shouldnt. its a personal decision that YOU have to make. you are still young and have the rest of your life to have sex. he wont leave you just cause you wont have sex with him! he has stuck aroudn for this long ! what would make him leave now? dont listen to your friends. who cares what other peopel think, what combination or whatever you guys are. if you have sex with him it will only get around school and possibly to your mom in a way. you should wait till you feel ready. you are still young and have thr rest of your life. dont listen to your friends, or anyone for that matter. let him knwo how you feel about it. he obvoiously is a good guy and respects you (unless he has cheated on you or what not, which i hope he hasnt)


dont listen to anyoen it only depends on you. if he starts to presssure you then tell him to back off, and stop bothering you about it. if he continues then leave him, cuase maybe his motives have changed and now thats all he wants.....but he wont leave you if he has already been with you for 2 years. just let him know how you feel.


i was in the same situation. i wiated till i was ready. im 19 and have been with my bf for 2 years too. he always told me he wanted to have sex. but i always let him knwo how i felt. i told him i didnt feel ready or comfortable with the idea (we were both virgins) so i waited over a year and a half to make the decision. i havent regretted it left. he hasnt left me yet. and who knows if we'll get married in the long run. we have talked about it though. but it shoudl be a mutual decison. you both should be comortable with the idea . it sould be a one way thing. lek oh he wants to have sex with me might as well give in...no.~ !


you are still young and wait as long as you want! loosing your virginity isnt a popularity thing! everyone always talked about sex and loosing their virginity in high school. but you need to make the right choice. its very emotional if you were to break up. you would have thought sliek "oh well maybe i shoudl have waited and given it to my husband, ect) but if your relationship is good and you see it going further than it is already at. then just talk to him and let him know how you feel abotu things. but i suggest you wait till you are older. there are consequences with sex. like STD's and im sure you dont want to be a pregnant teen! so use protection no matter what whenever you make that major decision!

hoep you make the right one and wait a few more years. see if he'll stick aroudn and see if he's really worth it.


if he ;eaves and uses the "i left cause you didnt have sex with me" then he was never meant to be! but i guess it would show he is very patient.lolol but if he leaves for that reason then he was never worth it and youd be thankful you didnt waste such a precious gift on him!

Answer 8

NO! NO! NO! You are too Young to have to deal with the possible results of this. HIV, Pregnancy, sexually transmitted diseases as well as the emotional issues.
I know you don't want to be alone but you should want someone who cares about YOU. If he truly loved you he would want what is best for you. You must wait until you are old enough to make an adult decision. If you do it and THEN he moves on you will feel betrayed!

Answer 9

Of course he wants you to. He wants ANY girl to!

Once you give away your prize, you have nothing to gift your husband on your wedding night. Honestly.

Women who remain virgins, more often than not, get their choice of very successful men. Women who have sex before 16, more likely than not get pregnant and get ditched...and of those...more than half used a condom and spermicide.

added later*----> He's going to leave you even if you DO put out. That's what teenage boys DO! They aren't ready for committment, do you really think he's gonna marry you...wake up little girl!

Answer 10

You really shouldn't because you might wind up
regretting it later. You can get pregnant
or you can get an STD, if your bf has one.
So no, don't have sex with him. Just say no
to him and tell him that you're a virgin. He might
understand. If he pressures you, say no again,
but more firmly. If anything really bad happens,
tell someone trustworthy, esp. the police (if you
know what I mean.)