He had a long term affair with a woman who had been around, but did not use condoms!
I feel disrespected that he f*cked her anyway, been together for over 20yrs. but not to use condoms is even more disrespectful to me! What do you think?
AM HURT!
2006-12-08 14:08:00 · 41 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I think that he has demonstrated his TOTAL disrespect for you. Not to mention his complete disregard for Your health and welfare. In today's society promiscuity kills.
I would hate to have the responsibility he has today. Trying to rebuild your trust and faith in him. It's Virtually impossible.
2006-12-08 14:14:30 · answer #1 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow first he cheats.. Then he doesn't even bother to protect himself for std's. No offense sweetie, but he wasn't thinking about the marriage or you when he had the affair so the last thing on his mind was protecting you by using a condom. You deserve better then this. Find yourself a man that will respect you the way you deserve to be respected!
2006-12-08 14:11:04 · answer #2 · answered by Issym 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you're looking for another reason to be mad at him. You've got enough on him for cheating on you. I'm sure his not using a condom wasn't meant to hurt you more. I would get checked out for STDs though if you're worried that he may have given you something. If you are going to work through the problem, you are going to have to let his mistakes go. You can't hold it against him forever and expect the relationship to work out. It's hard - I know this from experience, but if you keep bringing up what he knows he did wrong, you'll never be comfortable with each other again. You can't walk on eggshells forever.
2006-12-08 14:17:27 · answer #3 · answered by Jen RN 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It is more pleasurable not to use a condom for a guy.
A tip for woman: who matters most to a guy? Himself and his little friend. Even a routinely walked dog needs to get out the yard and run free once in a while.
Obviously he doesn't have any respect for you.
2006-12-08 14:13:46 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
All I can say is get yourself checked out. Thoroughly checked out. The last thing you need right now is some STD that he give you and not treating it. Second of all, I'd probably hurt my husband sooo bad if he EVER cheat on me. I'm soo sorry you are going through something like this. I can't even imagine.
2006-12-08 14:16:38 · answer #5 · answered by jj_bao 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't get it. Are you more hurt hat he did not use condoms while he was cheating on you or that the fact that he cheated on you?
Your husband did not use condoms because besides being unfaithful, he is also very stupid and could care less if he passed anything on to you.
How did you fall for this jerk?
2006-12-08 14:10:43 · answer #6 · answered by nowhere 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
sure your hurt, and with the cheating he can't even use a condom, putting u at a terribble risk. it may be time to clean the bank account out and move on, u would be entitled to alimoney if there was a divorce. get out now, before he gives u something u don't want, besides just a broken heart.
2006-12-08 14:28:18 · answer #7 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He had a long term affair.....that shows he has no respect for you even if he did wear a condom.
If you're going to stay in this relationship both of you should get tested....your health could be at risk.
2006-12-08 14:11:56 · answer #8 · answered by daljack -a girl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He only cared about what he needed and how he felt. The whole thing was totally disrespectful towards you. You'll have to go to the doctor and get checked out.
2006-12-08 14:11:58 · answer #9 · answered by Lovebug123 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow. I like this to somebody borrowing your car, robbing a bank, running from the police, and crashing your car into a busload of kids... on national T.V.
And you're super-pissed that they smoked in your car.
He cheated on his wife of 20 years. Integrity is out the door. Do you really need to find additional things to get mad about?
Think about your health. Get checked out by a doctor, get a circle of friends to support you, and get an attorney....
2006-12-08 14:17:25 · answer #10 · answered by lmcbuilder 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋