You know I've actually thinking about coming out of the closet for a while now but now I'm not sure. I have all the basic fears. You know.....friends, family, ridicule, that sort of thing. Not to mention I have no one to be with or put myself out there for. It's pointless. So again why bother.
2006-12-08 13:52:33 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Well, if another gay guy doesn't know that you are gay he isn't going to ask you out. I was scared of coming out, and after I did the only regret I had was not having done so sooner.
2006-12-08 14:01:10 · answer #1 · answered by χριστοφορος ▽ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Before I answer this, I want to say that you should come out only when you're ready to do so. It can obviously be more convenient in many ways to stay in the closet.
That said, the number one reason to come out of the closet is because: The more people who come out of the closet, the more visible GLBTi people will be in the public. The more visible GLBTi people are to the public, the more of a political voice they will have. The more of a political voice they have, the more power they will have to put an end to discrimination and institutionalized bigotry. The more power GLBTi folks have to do away with governmental biases, the more the general public will come around and realize that GLBTi folks are just people like the rest of us.
I wouldn't ask you to put all your personal struggles aside just so you can help a group of people who may or may not actually be a "community", but in a democratic society, visibility=political power. Just keep that in mind.
2006-12-08 14:41:18 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't do it until you are ready. That's a very personal choice and I don't think anyone can make it for you. If I knew I had at least a couple of understanding people in my family and I was tired of living a lie I would probably do it. Then again I've only sort of been in the situation being bisexual.
2006-12-08 13:56:45 · answer #3 · answered by Straight but not narrow 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Awwww, honey that is so sad. I'm not gay but i've swung that way. How old are you? Would it make you happy to come out? You sound like you're giving up. Don't do that. You are lots of things besides gay. Wait until you feel the confidence that you need. If you are already feeling down then telling others who dont approve will only make it worse. Connect with others like you, build up your self esteem in other ways. What are you good at? Stuff like that. You will meet someone. But not until you are confident in who you are. I like you. And I'm Christian, how's that for reaching out? Not a normal Christian but ya know...
2006-12-08 14:05:02 · answer #4 · answered by catscratch 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am in the same situation you are. I know if I am not more open, I may never meet anyone. That is the one factor that has me leaning towards coming out. I have a gay friend, but he is not around much to lean on if it becomes a problem. Friends are who you will need for support when you do come out.
2006-12-08 16:05:27 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're at a place where that's how you feel about coming out, maybe you shouldn't do it right now. It should probably be something you do when you're really ready for it, because it can be hard. Just don't let your fears about coming out make you feel like there's no point in doing it.
2006-12-08 14:10:54 · answer #6 · answered by jenjubatus 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Listen to Groove. When you're ready, you'll know it. Don't you have one person you could confide in, though, just to take the edge off and to have someone to talk to about it? Don't worry, though; everyone experiences peaks and valleys in their lives; things do and will get better. Many people get emotional in unexpected ways over the holidays. Just enjoy the holidays and look forward to a new year. And hang in there. Good luck.
2006-12-08 15:59:47 · answer #7 · answered by steviewag 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have no idea what will happen until you actually do it. And you have no idea how many of them already know or strongly suspect. Because it allows you to be fully who you are and the result of that is becoming comfortable in your skin. And you'll be alot more likely to meet someone healthy. Healthy people want to know that you have the moxy to be who you are--for you--not for them.
2006-12-08 13:56:30 · answer #8 · answered by donewiththismess 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yeah--why bother---you shouldn't feel the need to come out till there is a need to come out...You'll come out at exactly the right time for YOU! Wishing you Big Love! Kevin
2006-12-08 14:01:09 · answer #9 · answered by sckreet 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Good point. Do whatever seems appropriate for you. You have the right for self-determination.
Thank you for the well thought-out and grammatically correct clear question.
2006-12-08 13:55:46 · answer #10 · answered by Clown Knows 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋