Postpardem* depression?

Question

My daughter is a week old tomorrow and I find myself agravated when i cant figure whats wrong with her. when she wakes up and dosent want to eat or spits up (alot) i feel like im doing something wrong and i cant help but cry.
I also cry when she crys and wont stop. I know i will never do anything to hurt her, i wont let myself. but what can i do. i duno if its postpardem ddepression, or regular depression (had depression way b4 prego) and i duno what to do. would anti depressants help? what do doctors do when u tell them u may have it? they wont take my baby will they? I just need some help

Answer 1

You have a completely normal case of the baby blues.It will go away.Telling your doctor will not make them take your infant away.I had it with 3 of my babies.They will monitor you to see if you need anti-depressants.

On a second note,to avoid the heavy spitting up,burp her often and check the nipples to make sure the flow isn't too fast.

I will pray for you & her: Good Luck =)

Answer 2

Ok first it is ok. At a week old you may be depressed and you may just be hormonal and sleep deprived. Call family or friends if you can and get a little help and support. Also talk to your Dr. describe how you feel. He will give you antidepressants if he thinks you need it and let you know this is normal. No one will take your baby.

Also calm down. A baby can tell when you are tense or upset and they will never calm down! Before you hold your daughter, take a second, breathe. Smile at her. See how beautiful she is. Talk to her in a soothing tone. Tell her what you are doing while you fix the bottle so ther is a routine. If you are breast feeding call your Dr and see if they have a lactation nurse. She may not be latching on properly which could cause the whole thing to be uncomfortable or very painful for you (more tension between you and the baby) and cause her to be working way to hard and not get anything. A lactation nurse will spend a good amount of time with you finding the right and most comfortable ways for you and your baby.

Don't feel lost and alone. A lot of first time moms feel this way. Like failures and frustrated. It get better fast, but get the help you need.

Good Luck

Answer 3

Cheer up! We had our daughter 4 months back and we underwent similar stressful situation. This being our first baby, we were unsure why the baby cries or spits.

Few reasons, in order, why the baby cries are : wet diapers, hungry or wanting sleep.

As to spitting, our daughter was doing that as a ritual until she was 14 weeks old. Take to a doctor when she throws the food out with force. Need not panic when the food drools from her mouth. As long as the baby gains weight and cheerful it need not be a cause of worry.

Rather than worrying and getting depressed look at the joy you get seeing the child's pranks!

Nature, god and you are on the side of the baby! Do not worry that you may ever do something wrong!

Wish that you get out of your worries! Enjoy your motherhood and all the best!

Answer 4

They won't take your baby unless you pose a harm to the baby, and I think you just need some help, not only mentally but with the baby as well. I hope you're not alone and you have lots of support and helping hands. It's tough being a mom, everyone goes through what your going through to some degree. If you're really worried, PLEASE speak to your doctor asap, don't let this go untreated. Just remember that your are the best mom that your baby could have, and try to be relaxed as much as possible, babies feed off emotion too.

If she wakes up and doesn't seem to want to eat, maybe a burp or gas is waking her up...try burping her, changing her diaper, give her a pacifier, rock her, love her. A baby's cry can get to your last nerve, and hurts you more then it hurts them. As long as you go through the necessities, you know she's fed, dry, warm, burped....the only other thing is that she may have a bad tummy.... Good Luck with everything, and I hope you find support and not just from strangers on the internet.

Answer 5

Be honest with your doctor. You can't try to muscle yourself through this. Becoming a new mother can be very difficult and frustrating because you won't know many things that come. Don't know if you heard any of the hoopla last year about actor Tom Cruise criticizing actress Brooke Shields for getting medical treatment for post partem depression but it was a pretty big deal - she admitted having a very big problem and took medicine that helped her through it. And she recovered. She even wrote a book about her experiences. Dear, please call your doctor and tell what's going on with you and ask for help.

Answer 6

You have the "baby blues". they will most likely go away in a few weeks. this is normal so don't feel bad. they won't take your baby. for weeks after my baby was born i cried uncontrollably everyday. i didn't take anything for it at first because i am breastfeeding and i was told that the only thing i could take was prozac, and i refused to take that. i finally stopped crying all of the time but i still didn't feel like myself. i learned that i could also take zoloft, so i did. but it just didn't work for me.

but if you aren't breastfeeding there are lots of other antidepressants that you could try if one doesn't work for you. my baby is 4 1/2 months and i still don't feel like myself, but things are slowly getting better. i was told that your hormones are crazy for like a year afterwards.

the reason that we get the baby blues is because for nine months we have all of these hormones and then when you have the baby it is a drastic shift in our hormones.

don't feel ashamed to talk to your doc about it. call and tell a nurse what is going on. this is what i did and i didn't even have to go in they just called me something in. actually my mother-in-law called for me because i couldn't stop crying long enough. they told her they were glad she called and that it happens to a lot of women.

if you ever feel like you could hurt your baby or yourself call 911 and the nearest relative to come over.

let me know if you would like to talk about things. i know exactly what you are going through. i wish i had someone to talk to in the beginning that knew what i was talking about. i just wanted to go back to the hospital so they could take care of me and the baby (he spit up a lot too!).

Answer 7

Welcome to motherhood!! I had my baby in Sept and I was an emotional roller coaster. It wasnt my baby it was me. If you had depression before you got pregnant were you taking medicine? I was and I started taking it as soon as I had him. And NO they wont take your kid if you ask for meds. You will get through it. Its very overwhelming at first. My boy is 3 months today and its still hard on me I know its just gonna take time just like it will with you. Please see your dr and see about getting on some medicine. Good Luck!

Answer 8

I just went to the doctor for the same thing and it is alot more likely for a woman who was depressed before pregnancy to develop postpardom depression. My doctor gave my prozac and I feel like my old self again. They won't take your baby for this.

Answer 9

please go see a doctor! i know first hand what its like. i am still suffering from it and my baby is 3 months old. its the worst feeling in the world. the doctors can help you. just tell them you think your depressed. i still set and cry all the time. but its getting better slowly.

if you every need to talk just contact me, i know what its like to need someone!

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Answer 10

Well If your having thoughts of hurting her or yourself even though you know you wouldn't, you should go see your doctor. But its probably just normal hormone thing. Your hormones are going crazy right now! Mine did when I had my daughter, I cried all the time!