I really want to have a baby. I am only 16, but i have been around kids all my life. I love kids. I am financially stable and with the guy i want to spend the rest of my life with. Am i crazy?
2006-12-08 13:38:34 · 25 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Trying to Conceive
hunny people on here are going to say rude and mean things do what you thinks best and remember your the one who will live with it for the rest of your life no one but you! alot of girls love guys but who gets hurt most of the time in the end we do! so be careful and do what you thinks best and alot of women on here will be rude to you so good luck!
2006-12-08 13:44:21 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 4⤋
You're too young to have a baby. It's not all fun and games although parenting is a joy. I am a mother of 3 girls..I don't want any of my children having babies until they are really established, buying a home, a career, and have done some traveling. It's important they have experienced life as well. Having children is no cake walk. Sometimes you are not with the people you think you will be with, life is no fairy tale...although life is a joy. Having children means making sacrifices for your baby. Although you may be wiling to make sacrifices, how do you know your boyfriend is willing to make the same sacrifices. Sometimes people get scared when kids come, and run off....Everyone who makes a baby is not cut out to be a parent. Not trying to judge you honey..Just giving you the REAL..Having a baby is a very big step. And although you may think you're financially stable, children are exspensive. Look at the going rates for childcare..Practically $100- $150 a week per child. Give it a hard case study before you try to have a baby. Enjoy your youth first, become a mother later.
2006-12-08 22:31:42 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you feel as though you are already mature enough to start a family. And I don't know you so I can't say with 100% accuracy that you are or are not. However, I can say that most 16 yr olds feel the same about their maturity levels, and are dead wrong. I am 28 and had my daughter at 22 and can tell you that even at that age, after holding down full-time jobs since 17 and taking care of my bf's son for 4 years that I felt I was not ready to be a mother when I learned I was pregnant.
The consequences of having children that early are not always apparent when you are that young. I have several friends that have had their children young, and after so many years begin to feel as though they missed out on their youth, and try and take it back after marriage and children. This has led to divorces, child neglect and in the least severe cases, general unhappiness and depression. Some happened a few years later, others 5 or more. But I can tell you that all the people I know experienced one or more of these issues.
Try to put off these feelings for as long as you can, and focus on yourself, your studies and your life in general. Experience as much as you can before kids, and don't lose sight of your goal; rather use this time to educate yourself in life so you can be the best parent you can be when your mature enough to be a mommy.
2006-12-09 01:18:54 · answer #3 · answered by rvidal1978 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yep. Babies are a lot of work and they grow up and need guidance from people who have experienced the world. You are selling yourself short by putting all your eggs in one basket so to speak. People grow and change all the time and so will your relationship with your guy. See how it goes and see if life leads you in the same direction. Babies sometimes ruin relationships by trapping the father and the mother at too young an age. You will not be able to do any of the things you may want to do in the future like simply going out with friends at night. Babies are expensive. You have your whole life to have kids. Enjoy each other before kids. That's what mature adults do first. Besides you are assuming your baby will be healthy. What if it isn't perfect?! Remember you are 16 and your body is not finished developing. It could mean danger. I hope you chose to wait. Don't you have any other dreams besides marrying this guy? Good luck.
2006-12-08 21:48:46 · answer #4 · answered by noitall 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Do you guys plan on marrying soon, if so wait until after, if he feels the way you do then yeah I say go ahead, but you are still very young. I am married, I'm 24 - my husband (27) wants kids now, but I want to wait until we've been married 5 years its only been 3, I want to travel first & live life as a married couple for a while, we dont have to come home early on a night on a town becuase of kids- An d i like that for now, for me I'm just not ready. I think maybe you & your guy should enjoy one another & then wait a few years.
2006-12-08 21:44:51 · answer #5 · answered by erica t 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Get married first. If he's not into that then he's not the one you want to have a baby with. Is the guy you are in love with in love with you and wants to have children. Personally I wouldn't. Get a job at a daycare or something and see the world. Is it you mom and dad that support you? If so that's not you being financially stable. Nor is a huge bank account that grandma and grandpa helped fund...if you know what I mean
2006-12-08 21:50:20 · answer #6 · answered by answerer 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
i think you should at least at the most finish high school first. that way you can get some sort of job to support your child. raising a child is not always fun, alota llate nights, sleepless days and nights, yeh babies are cute and cuddlie but they are a ton of work, they are worth it in the long run if you are ready but hon you are not ready you need to live a little, get out in the world and see how it works you'll be a better mother for it. and i dont mean to sound all Bible but you should wait untill you get married, or at least enguaged, there needs to be a commitment from both parties, a baby is a commitment not only for 18 years but for your entire life! just because your child becomes an adult doesnt mean you stop being a mommy! good luck and i hope you make the right decision!
2006-12-08 21:44:30 · answer #7 · answered by laicic 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Have you graduated from High School?
Do you have some level of higher education?
Would you be able to give the child a life that you'd be proud of?
Would you and "the guy you want to spend the rest of your life with" be able to support the child on only one income if need be?
Do you have your own home?
Do you know what you would do if, God forbid, he died or you guys broke up?
If you answered "NO" to any of these questions you are crazy.
2006-12-08 21:42:24 · answer #8 · answered by .vato. 6 · 3⤊ 1⤋
Without judging, you don't need to hurry to have a baby.
Anytime you have that thought/idea, give you and your guy a least another year together, and see how you feel about it then.
Guys come and go, and so does financial stability; you'll be able to have a baby for another 30 years... slow down a little.
2006-12-08 21:46:22 · answer #9 · answered by curly bob 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
No, you are not crazy... However, you are really young and you should be thinking about having children when you are alot older, also finish high school. Do you plan on going too college?
if yes, then finish college so that you can have a great profession first... This way, you will not have too worry about money.
As for your boyfriend, I do not mean too seem negative but he may not be there for you. I speak from experience, not me but from a good friend of mine... Good Luck too you...
2006-12-08 21:45:50 · answer #10 · answered by Vicky 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Yes! My sister thought the same thing fwhen she done this really stupid thing like get prg. and have a baby at 16.Guess what? She loves her kids, but often wonders where her life went.I think you need to wait, live a little, have fun, get an EDUCATION, then start a family.
2006-12-08 21:44:55 · answer #11 · answered by jmt 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋