but im not sure if its the right thing to do.im not sure if i love him or not.he cheated and i feel he cant be faithful.how can i call it off?
2006-12-08 13:16:23 · 11 answers · asked by super girl 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Doubts prior to marriage are common. There's only one way to know for sure if he won't cheat again. If the cheating was a one time thing and he told you about it immediately with a sincere apology then it's worth the risk of trusting him again. We're all human and make mistakes we're not proud of. If he was having an affair behind your back, that's part of his character and it's likely to happen again. Anyone who would have an affair does not care about you, only themselves and their own satisfaction.
2006-12-08 13:46:02 · answer #1 · answered by ? 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are doing the right thing in calling the wedding off. If you have ANY reservations whatsoever, forget about the wedding deposits and call it off. When you get married, the little annoyances become catastrophic. Sometimes things you thought you could deal with become impossible. If you have caught him cheating once, he will do it many, many times. Just think of how difficult a divorce will be when you have been with this guy for 10 years or so, with children involved. Trust me, run while you can!!!!
2006-12-08 21:24:33 · answer #2 · answered by wendy h 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you are having such doubts, it could be a case of wedding jitters or cold feet. How far away is the wedding?? If you are unsure if you love your fiance', my advice to you is call it off for now. Give yourself time to sort thru your feelings. It can be cheaper to get married than to get a divorce. Just be sure before you go thru with the vows.
If you know he's cheated, can you get past the fact that he has cheated???? Can you ( or have you ) forgiven him??? Have you sat him down to talk about your thoughts and doubts of your pending wedding??
Good Luck to you.
2006-12-08 21:38:06 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just set down and tell him that you think it's best to not be committed to each right at this time. You know the old saying once a cheater always a cheater. I've never seen one of them change if the right person comes along. If your not sure you love him don't get married it's easy to get married but it is hell to get out of and you may get pregnant and then you have a baby to think of. If you really want to call it off just tell him I'm not ready to get married right at this time and so lets just cool it, I just don't want to be married.
2006-12-08 21:29:43 · answer #4 · answered by Nicki 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Marriage is way too big of a commitment to go ahead if you are not sure and especially if he is not trustworthy. I have been married for over 19 years to a wonderful (and trustworthy) man. Even under the best circumstances, marriage isn't easy. Postpone until you are sure either way.
2006-12-08 21:25:34 · answer #5 · answered by K8 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your not sure, call it off. It is very easy, just say that you need more time and postpone the wedding date. If you can't trust him now, you will have a worse time after your get married.
2006-12-08 21:21:11 · answer #6 · answered by kny390 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why are you getting married anyway? you get the best treatment before marriage..what does that tell you? postpone it for a while..if u marry him anyway he will just continue on doing what he is doing..Make him suffer and let him lose you for a while...please think this over for awhile for your sake...........
2006-12-08 21:22:18 · answer #7 · answered by Brenda Soooooooooooooooooooooooo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him you need time...if he asks how long, just tell him that you want everything to be perfect and you feel rushed.
later you can figure what to do, if you want to end the relationship...
good luck...you will be fine...trust your heart...
2006-12-08 21:31:19 · answer #8 · answered by Sopwith 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
HELLO...if he'll do it to you now he'll do it to you when u r married. LEAVE him. It shouldn't even be a question for you.
2006-12-08 21:26:12 · answer #9 · answered by Leigh P 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you are not absolutely sure--DON'T DO IT!!!
divorces are very expensive and very nasty.
you have heard this one before.."just say no!!!"
2006-12-08 21:22:17 · answer #10 · answered by KRIS 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋