im 16 and my grilfreind and i have had sex once(her and mine frist time) but she dident seem to engoy it to much did i do something wrong? i have asked her but she's SO shy so she dosint answer
2006-12-08 13:11:24 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Women's Health
im 16 and my grilfreind and i have had sex once(her and mine frist time) but she dident seem to engoy it to much did i do something wrong? i have asked her but she's SO shy so she dosint answer
thx your really helping ill let her be intill she's ready and ill take randoms advise and go wikipedia
2006-12-08 14:16:37 · update #1
You didn't do anything wrong. First times rarely are terribly exciting for the girl (I don't know how it is with guys). She was probably in at least a bit of pain (not your fault), probably very nervous and scared, wondering about pregnancy and how much it would hurt and all sorts of things.
Next time, take things slowly. Listen carefully to her moans and sighs- they'll tell you a lot about what she likes. Go to wikipedia or somewhere with diagrams and figure out where the clit is. Most women need clitoral stimulation to have an orgasm. Intercourse without it would be like a handjob on just your balls for you guys. Fun, but not ultimately enough, usually. Don't go after her the way that you'd like to be touched, either. It's not true of every woman, but most prefer a much softer touch than guys like. We have thinner skin, so be gentle.
Be gentle, be attentive, know your anatomy, and you'll be fine. Heh, and so will she.
2006-12-08 13:35:02 · answer #1 · answered by random6x7 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Aww sweetie the first time is never good. If she's too embarassed to talk about it just think how uncomfortable the actual act must have been. Try and get her to open up and talk about it, make sure you give her reassurance and support, and Do Not Rush Anything. There's nothing that'll make her withdraw like pressure. I wouldn't bring up doing it again until she's totally confident or she's not going to like it the second time either.
2006-12-08 13:16:56 · answer #2 · answered by *~*AlexisClaire*~* 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
The first several times for a woman are not fun or good feeling, nothing personal but you can make it better by taking your time to share in good foreplay and good communication. Make sure she really wants to be having sex (not just doing it to please you). If she's too shy to talk about it than it means she's not mature enough to be having sex.
2006-12-08 20:27:04 · answer #3 · answered by smurf 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the first time is wierd doesnt mean she wont do it again, just give her time and try talking to her about it but if she doesnt want to talk to you about it right away just give her space and im sure she will be open to talking about it. You didnt do anything wrong, your both just getting use to it thats all. Try finding out certain ways to make sex better for both of you so you can both be happy doing it together :]
2006-12-08 13:24:34 · answer #4 · answered by :] 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The more you have sex with someone, and the more comfortable you get with one another, the better it will get.
Its just a natural progression over time.
Be safe!
2006-12-08 13:51:29 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
a girls first time is often uncomfortable as it generally involves breaking her hymen. add this to the fact that she is probably very scared about what she is doing and it is not unreasonable to expect that she was not able to enjoy herself. as it was your first time also, i imagine it was over before she had a chance to gain any pleasure from the experience. often a boy will remember his first as his most thrilling but a girl will remember it as her most awkward sexual experience.
2006-12-08 13:29:14 · answer #6 · answered by portsidepat 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ask her not us!!!! NASTY
2006-12-08 13:17:52 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋