Why everytime I ask about teen pregnancy, people give rude comments?

Question

I'm not trying to start a fight here, but more like trying to make sense out of something that totally doesn't. Besides, I'm just really curious now, being on the pregnancy board and all. I used to be like you all and judge them, but then I learned my lesson after people started insulting me again and again. I just was curious you know? And then they insult me. Why?? Either way, I guess I shouldn't be looking for a pity thing here on Yahoo answers, but I notice that questions like there http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index;_ylt=AgbbEp235oBDWVltAlhe848ezKIX?qid=20061130172055AAy4xoJ&r=wEJFyD3bpPmOeos7BmMCx6UR1ARsfedKr98a7B8qIfRF5YTi6vv2aw0yb.Wl85647ceioo1zfBMI0EyiwPRZGVyPXkA--&paid=delete_comment&cp=2&tp=2#all-answers get bashed, but questions like from people pregnant at "17" don't get judged as much?? What's the deal? Could you imagine getting these dumb remarks if you were this person?? Geez! Some people are just plain cruel!

...by the way, me, I've learned my lesson, not to judge people because they got pregnant, by why do you guys still continue to do so?

Answer 1

Yeah, I think it's really unecessary and rude as well. I'll give a thumbs down to the people who make rude remarks! :)

Answer 2

Well from personal experience, alot of people in this world are judgmental. I got preggo with my son at 17. My husband and I have been married ever since and we have a great marriage and are currently expecting our second. over the years we have been bashed by the ages we are and when we first concieved. I think that most people just did not get caught. I think some young people try to get attention by making up stories about being preggo by old men and them being only 13, the sad thing is it does happen, and sometimes people just do not how to deal with what is going on. We took what we were given and made the best out of it, not everyone is as lucky as us, but I feel that everyone that makes mistakes deserves a second chance and support through their ruff times, so i dont know why people are rude about it. People are people, there are good ones and bad ones, that is human.

Answer 3

That's right. The only teen pregnancy questions I have issues with are the ones who ask for pity. I will not give people like that pity. I am a teen mother and I would never pity someone or feel sorry for them. As far as I'm concerned it's their fault they got pregnant--unless it's a rape case of course.

I'm not rude to people but when they ask for sympathy I'll tell them not to do so.

It's also VERY different to get pregnant at 17 then at 15. At 17 you are just a year away from becoming an adult. At fifteen you cannot even secure a job OR drive.

Answer 4

well first of all people need to mind there own damn business because what you do is Your business!!! Don't let what people say get to you because there aer some assholes out there believe it or not!!! You are not the first teen to have a baby and you sure as hell aren't going to be the last. My sister had her first child when she was a teen and my mother helped her out, now she is grown and married to the guy with 4 kids now. She went to high school and college and finished so it is possible!!!! And the same people who are being rude to you are the people who wish they could be you!!! Don't let what people say spoil you day because in the end nobody has to take care of your baby but you, you're babies father and your family so **** the rest!!!!! And for all the guys who have something to say maybe they are just mad because you won't give them the time of day. Also I am so sorry to hear about your mother!!!! :( my grandmother died from breast cancer so I can only imagine what you are going through. Just brush off what people say because you have to be strong for you mom. I hope everything works out for you and you family!!! God Bless you and your mother and Marry Christmas, hope your baby gets lots of toys LOL!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Answer 5

I am sorry that some people are being downright rude. If you ask questions or make statements that go along with what people believe in you will get all nice soothing answers. Since we live in a fallen world, and we all come from different backgrounds and beliefs you will get negative feedback one way or the other. When you openly say you are doing something that goes aganinst another's belief system you need to expect that they will openly let you know their opinion as well. Since you will always be giving others info about your beliefs either incidently or on purpose you must expect that others will be doing the same to you. The question of teen pregnancy upsets many people because it has negative consequences that we as a society are hopefully trying to avoid. The teen years are hard enough as your mind, body and spirit are attempting to find out who you are and what you believe and who you are becoming. You are becoming a lady who will no longer be just a daughter, will be an adult, wife, and a mother. We would like for you to learn to be your own person respectful of those in authority over you, yet being self controlled and making decisions that work for your good and the good of your community before you become the wife and mother you will be.

Yeah, I know, Ideal World and all that. But when we see you missing your chance to grow up yourself and set your life as ready as possible for your baby, we are frustrated as we look down the road to the likely consequences. That doesn't even begin to look at the consequences of sex outside of marriage. With STDs and STIs risking your health, joining with others and leaving them tearing your soul, and giving what belongs to your husband to others defrauding your future husband of what rightfully belongs to him, there are NO good longterm outcomes of sex outside of marriage (although some might argue a baby).

I hope people will be more civil though.

Answer 6

Many People are embarrass and upset about teen pregnancy because they can not handle the fact that kids have sex... Instead of judging we should be educating. Many teens that are pregnant need support and answers they need a safe place to speak and ask question without fear of judgment. We do not know each individuals circumstances and just because a person maybe be under 21 does not mean people need to be cruel about them being pregnant. It doesnt mean they ruined there lives. They are about to embark on one of life's most percious gifts a child. They need to be reminded that bringing life into the world is a wonderful thing. Not being judged and made to feel horrible.

Answer 7

Back when life expectancy was only 50 or 60 people were getting married and starting family in their early teens all the time. Technically, a period is signaling your body it's time to mate, and you are ready to reproduce. We are animals much as some don't like to think of it as that way, and will act accordingly. Monkeys, gorillas, chimpanzees, don't wait until a morally acceptable age to mate, they do so when their bodies say they are ready. In this day and age it is harder on a teen to graduate from school, but not impossible if they have a loving helpful family. It's just their basic instincts kicking in and proclaiming that it's time to do what nature has intended for them to do. I try not to judge teens who are pregnant, they can't exactly take it all back. What they do need is help and support to make sure they better themselves through continuing their education to support their new family.

Answer 8

defintly people shouldnt have the right to judge ne one noone here is perfect and if a 17 year old got pregnant ok who r u to judge just give andvice dont be rude because u r hurting the other persons feelings who has just come t u for advice because they r frightitened and dont know what to do i am a young mom i am 17 and my baby is 1 years old and weither or not i am young i am a great mom so others should bash teens whor pregnant noone has a roight no matter who u r where ur from keep ur rude comments to urself noone wants to here them if u have nothing wise to say that would helo the other person out then dont say it

Answer 9

Some people just need to put others down to make themselves feel better - it's that simple. The days when mothers told their children, "If you have to say something nasty, don't say anything at all," are gone. I'm with you, these girls have it hard enough becoming parents at such a young age, the last thing they need is to be insulted. These answers are neither beneficial nor illuminating. I remember reading one girl's question (she was 18, asking if she was in labour), and a person replied "WHORE." Like that's helpful?

Long story short, some people are just rude, nasty people who thrive on feeling superior to others and rubbing it in their faces. There's not much we can do about it, because the internet is full of creeps like that. I just really wish you could report abuse for other people's answers, too.

Answer 10

Are you asking a question or making a comment? Surely, people make judgements. Very likely you won't like them. Given the sensitivity of this issue for you, perhaps stay away from insensitive situations where harsh comments run wild. Good luck.

Answer 11

this question is like an onion so many levels to talk about and discuss. The medical indicators of problems related to giving birth while still physically maturing/developing. The financial burden to society, the breakdown of families, the studies showing higher risk of these babies growing up to have many run In's with the law and incarceration.. So is it rude to ask these questions and expect responsible behavior..