Those life-filled moments... real or not?

Question

You know those moments in the movies, with the main charecter having so many problems, then meeting a true friend, and that one scene where their arms are outstretched, with that genuine smile on, and they express the lesson they've learned, etc. I long for one of those moments, so full of life, and an understanding of the world, so much. You see, the people in Hollywood can't make it all up! I just wish for one such heart-warming moment of knowing I am in the right place at the right time, and in the right to begin with. Just one life altering smile, with my arms outstretched and a lesson learned.... my heart bursting with energy and life and memories being made. I have not been married, have never given birth. I wonder... are such moments wishful thinking? And if not have you had one, and is there hope for me, such a desparate film watcher? I got this thought from watching a trailer online for The Holiday, and I was happy and sad at that part with Kate Winslet..... can it be?

Answer 1

Those moments do exist. They can come without warning and sometimes you won't even realize you had one until you reflect on the situation.
Of course you will have these experiences, you just have to take chances! Go out there and find them! :)

Answer 2

I will have to disagree a bit with you. Hollywood CAN make it all up. Most of it is "make believe" based on life only in the loosest of way. We are all one species. Some people say Hollywood movies just show society as it is. I have live long enough and close enough to Hollywood to know that is a big fat lie. In many cases they have created mores. They have made movies of what a very small isolated segment of society was trying. Soon , it spread. More and mor people were living in like manner. But it was some Hollywood writer that got it going. History has never been an abiding interest of most teens and twenty year olds. so they usually do not know. ---- On to your wanting an experience that transcends the ordinary. They start within yourself and catch you at the oddest moments. If you are always feeling a lack because they are not happening, you will probably not have one. I am not being mean, but we are better off when we spend quite a bit of time being concerned with others. Good luck and I hope one over takes you.

Answer 3

Full of life, perfect, universal alignment moments...You may have already been part of some moments like that- even though you don't remember them. Did your mom love you with all her heart, at first sight, or even before you were born? Did you ever fill anyone with joy just by taking a step on your own? How many people wanted to be the one just to hear you say your first word? These may not exactly be the types of moments that you were asking about- but were you, maybe, part of a perfect moment for someone else already?

Why not expect more? Did the sun not rise today?

You have a poet's soul. There is even a poem buried within this very question. To me, the question IS poetry and it made me smile to read it. What a beautiful wish. I hope with all sincerity that your wish will be granted- and it is my belief that it will come to pass many times over. But, will you remember to appreciate it when it happens?

Life can be tough for those with inclination towards the romantic.

However...
Fret not, young poet, for you can not lose- for even in losing, you win.

Answer 4

Well, it never happens quite like that, but you're right, Hollywood can't make it all up. Most cliches in the movies are based on common experiences. Where else do you think they get their ideas? They reflect society.

Moments EXACTLY like that are silly to wish for because they're not going to be all showy like the ones in the movies. However, they can be as great as they seem in the movies.

I've had times like that. Usually I don't notice until the problems have been gone for a while, though. I guess a personal example of one of those perfect moments is my graduation from eighth grade. I went to an alternative school. We called the teachers by their first names and there were only about twelve kids to a grade. I had been there since first grade. I made my speech and cried like a baby, and at the party afterwards the boy I liked hugged me and wouldn't let me go for a lnog time, I had admitted to loving my best friend very much (in a platonic way) without feeling awkward like I though I would, and everyone was telling me how much tehy'd miss me and how great I was. Before that I never really believed in myself and I had low self-esteem, but I went home that night, and as I was drifting off to sleep I just realized...

there are so many people that love me. There is so much I can do. There is so much that I'm good at. I'm beautiful, I'm fun, I'm smart, I know myself, and I have so many amazing friends.

Life is full of these moments. We just don't see them for what they are because sometimes they're very small, and sometimes they're part of your every day life. Take a moment every day to appreciate what you have, and don't be afraid to open your eyes and take life by the horns. You'll find many more of those moments that way.

Answer 5

Hi,
There is so much energy and wonder in the everyday things if you simply resolve to feel it and find it. The moon, sunlight on the water, listen to a loved one breathe... hug a child, adult, wish people well and consider what it took for them to have gotten this far on their life journey... volunteer for a charity organization, listen to the music and don't forget the magic. Think of who you love and why - write it down, or better, write each of them a letter expressing it. Express yourself with empathy, compassion and kindness. You'll be amazed at the results you receive. Try not to judge without knowing the full story. Reward yourself for the positive and loving things you do by witnessing how meaningful they are to others. Every moment is a daisy chain of energy; whatever you choose to teach others, however you choose to treat them, often dictates what they will teach and how they will treat others. Breathe in slowly of the aroma of life, and exhale with a feeling of completeness. This is not possible every moment. We are human. Yet it is important to do it whenever possible, for our own selves and the rest of the world. Watch the stars dance. All the best to you, and happy holidays!

Answer 6

I've never had one of those moments (and I'm married and have 2 kids) I think life is made up of smaller moments where you learn lessons but there isn't some huge deal made out of it. And those kind of moments don't exactly get people into movie theaters so they are played up by Hollywood. Don't waste your time comparing your life to movies or you'll miss the good things because they don't measure up.

Answer 7

These moments depend on you because only you can make them happen. You can make any moment this kind of moment; you don't have to be married or have a child; you just need to have learned anything from an experience that betters you as a person. You just need to create life-filled moments on what you or your family and friends experience everyday, you just need to use your common sense and have people around you who will support your theories & understand where you're coming from. Yes, these moments are possible just keep hope and faith alive!

Answer 8

I tried to think of the perfect moment to share but then there were too many. I have been married, I have given birth. I remember falling in love and seeing my love walking down a snow filled road at night to walk me home, yes my heart soared to the highest heights. But, not all life filled moments are beautiful, I was also there to hold my mothers hand when she died and I was there to comfort my grandmother when her daughter and son in law were killed in a car crash driving home from my grandfather's funeral. Both times my heart sank to the lowest and most painful place I could imagine.

Answer 9

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Answer 10

Umm... i think if you really want something to happen you have to get the moment going yourself. You can't expect great things to fall in your lap. Work for good friends, and learn the lessons from your everyday life. The moments ARE there you really just need to find them.