Hey all... I'm having a really hard time this year. All of the Christmas memories are gone for me as I lost both sets of granparents, and my father ... leaving my Mother and a Brother I cannot talk to due to long-time issues...
I have a wonderful Husband - no children, yet feel so alone. My husband is absolutely wonderful... but growing up in a great family yet - have nothing left - breaks my heart.
I think that making a family brings that home... My husband and I chose to not have children as of yet - we're just not ready. (I'm 38 and he's 31..been together for over 10yrs. but feel the same way). How do us that don't have a growing family deal with a non-existent family during these holiday times?
2006-12-08 12:47:01 · 4 answers · asked by happymonkie 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
What about his family, or close friends? If you have neither have you thought about spending time this season with those less forunate, maybe adopt a family for the holidays to buy gifts for. Just love your husband, and enjoy one another.
2006-12-08 12:54:45 · answer #1 · answered by BiancaVee 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds kind of funny perhaps but if you were to volunteer at a soup kitchen or homeless shelter you would have the feeling of family once again. In addition you would feel much better about your lot in life by helping out those a lot less fortunate then yourself. Christmas can be a very sad time for many people but if they were to take an honest look at all they have they may realize that this self pity is just that as there are so many others with so much less.
2006-12-08 12:53:21 · answer #2 · answered by crazylegs 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are each other's own family! Create and maintain your own holiday traditions. Do what you enjoy. Try to gather a group of others who may have similar issues concerning the holidays: no family, or on the outs w/theirs. Family doesn't have to be blood relatives. Don't let negative thoughts crowd your mind, but concentrate on what's good and positive in your life. Make new memories.
2006-12-08 12:52:18 · answer #3 · answered by 60s Chick 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i'll try to give all the advice i can . i have lost my mother 4 years ago and i am still tring to find the true family relationship at christmas time and many other holidays . i also have a wonderfu husband and he suports most of my wishes and i also have 2 kids which fill most of my sadness not having her around. my father lives with me, and i have not ever met my grand parents they were all gone when i was born . i just recently lost my great aunt last week and i'm not leting it pull my spirt down .. we will always miss them even when they are gone but just rember they are waching you and keeping you as safe as they can..... please don't let your mother or brother keep you from writing them i may make you feel better if you know that they are going to be ok .... keep in contact with what would not keep in contact with you can brake the chain of not loving and hating, and speaking. please don't give up .... in what you want.
2006-12-08 13:09:50 · answer #4 · answered by snowsinoctober1980 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋