Hey all... I'm having a really hard time this year. All of the Christmas memories are gone for me as I lost both sets of granparents, and my father ... leaving my Mother and a Brother I cannot talk to due to long-time issues...
I have a wonderful Husband - no children, yet feel so alone. My husband is absolutely wonderful... but growing up in a great family yet - have nothing left - breaks my heart.
I think that making a family brings that home... My husband and I chose to not have children as of yet - we're just not ready. (I'm 38 and he's 31..been together for over 10yrs. but feel the same way). How do us that don't have a growing family deal with a non-existent family during these holiday times?
2006-12-08 12:45:14 · 7 answers · asked by happymonkie 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Thanks everyone for such terrific answers. I wish I didn't have to choose just one for "best" so I'll pick the first one just for the reason it was first. Merry Christmas All!
2006-12-12 05:01:00 · update #1
You might consider honoring the memories of the family members that you have lost in some way. Play their favorite music, write out your favorite memories of them, bake their favorite cookies.
Family isn't always blood relatives. You could choose another "family" to spend time with during the season. Someone from work, church, anyone you seem to just "click with" as a couple.
You could also spend time volunteering. Serve a holiday meal at a homeless shelter; wrap gifts for elderly people. Be a Santa or an elf at a Christmas party. Sometimes when you spend a lot of time with other people's kids, you're glad to come home to a quiet house. :)
2006-12-08 12:55:24 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you could try to talk to your Mother and Brother to at least start mending bridges for the future.
What about your husbands family? How about getting together with them for the holidays?
Sometimes it makes people feel better to give, how about contacting your local churches or social agencies to see if you can help out by donating either your time to an organization or some gifts to a family/person in need.
Finally, what about just getting away for the Christmas season this year. A ski trip if you don't ski take some lessons, there are smaller areas that are less expensive then the well known ones. Then a nice fireside snuggle afterwards? The again maybe somewhere warm. Good Luck. Happy Holidays.
2006-12-08 13:02:41 · answer #2 · answered by It's been awhile 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am sorry to hear that you are having a hard time this Christmas. I spent many a Christmas alone in the past and decided to do other things to keep in the spirit. If you have a great Husband then you are doing better than some. But If I amy I would like to advise some out of the home activities. The Angle tree might be a way to feel like you are sharing.
2006-12-08 15:57:46 · answer #3 · answered by Sergeant 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Through the grace of God you have been very blessed to have those who love and care about you. Look at your glass as being half full instead of half empty. You are fortunate in that you have the freedom to travel (Take a ski trip or cruise) or do whatever you choose during the holidays. Volunteer to help the less fortunate.....it will help you to appreciate what you have.
Keep in mind that the "white picket fence" family is complete fiction and really only exists in Hollywood.
Also, leave the past in the past and mend the broken fences with the family members that remain, you will regret not doing this down the road. God forgave us of our sin and teaches us to live in the present and the future, you should do the same even if it is painful.
Good luck
2006-12-08 13:13:48 · answer #4 · answered by diamondhawk1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds style of humorous perchance yet once you have been to volunteer at a soup kitchen or homeless shield you may have the sensation of kinfolk as quickly as lower back. besides you may sense a lot greater efficient approximately your lot in existence with the aid of helping out those a lot much less fortunate then your self. Christmas could be an fairly unhappy time for a lot of people yet while they have been to take an hassle-free seem in any respect they have they could comprehend that this self pity is purely that as there are an excellent style of others with so much less.
2016-10-05 01:53:57 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Find a worthwhile place to volunteer your time over Christmas. I find that when I am sad, if I give to someone else, I feel better. It has worked for me over time. Plus, you will meet new people and help someone else out. Christmas is hard for almost everyone - very stressful.
2006-12-08 13:20:39 · answer #6 · answered by K8 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
light a candle for each family member that you've lost and make it a tradition every year
2006-12-08 13:03:20 · answer #7 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋