My husband decided he wanted a divorce 6 weeks ago, I am currently in college full-time, I have 3 qtrs to go...he said at first he would pay ALL my bills until I graduated, two weeks later he offered $500 a month until I graduated, three weeks later he says he can only pay $470 for six months, now he says he can only pay $470 for 4 months...would you take his butt to court or give in? Thing is I can't afford to take him to court, but I feel I have no choice at this point...
2006-12-08 11:59:46 · 21 answers · asked by Lisa Bee 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
To court. He's trying to cheat you out of more and more money, and you shouldn't have to take that.
2006-12-08 12:02:14 · answer #1 · answered by Sharon 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Okay for spousal support to even be considered here are some factors the court will look at..
1. Are there kids of the marriage?
2. How long have you been married is it over 5 years some states its over 10 years?
3. Did you support him while he went through school?
If you can say yes to any of those you have a chance at spousal support. But if you cant say yes to any of them then your chances are slim and I would take his offer because something is better then nothing.
Ohh another tip, If you have any of his offers in writing, then you can use those in court. The court will look at them and look at them like he felt he had an obligation to you.
2006-12-08 12:04:45 · answer #2 · answered by Issym 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is an of this a court order- or just verbal agreement- and do you have children? Some states do not have alimony-and sometimes it depends on how many years you have been married- some are 10- used to be 6 or 7 to collect alimony= there is still hope- reconciliation and marriage counseling-= this is to be for life- take care -find out laws-D
2006-12-08 12:22:04 · answer #3 · answered by Debby B 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
A number of things haven't been answered.
1.How long have you been married? If it is 1 or 2 or maybe even 3 years,and NO CHILDREN are involved, bite the bullet and get on with your life.
3.If there are children. Get legal assistance, you will need it for child support and temporary assistance to complete school.
4.The more years married , the more you need the lawyer.
Good Luck.
2006-12-08 12:10:33 · answer #4 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
when i got divorced we owned a house....legally i had every right to half the value of all property.....however i would have to go to court and hire an attorney....i didn't have the money or the energy.....i was extremely distraught at the time and in the end i decided that i valued my sanity more than $70,000.....it sucks not to get what is rightfully yours (and for the other person to get more than their fair share)....but my health was far more important than any dollar amoount.....i ended up meeting some-one much better, and i hear my ex has really been suffering and struggling.....i guess it all works out in the end
2006-12-08 12:22:43 · answer #5 · answered by SNAP! 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How long were you married? That can determine how much you can receive depending on your jurisdiction. If you do not want to go to court, then you must tell your lawyer that you want a "Marital Dissolution Agreement (MDA)." In order for you to have MDA, you must file for an absolute divorce on the grounds for "irreconcilable difference." Both parties, that is you and your husband, must agree to that particular grounds for divorce. In the MDA, you must make for property settlement. In that settlement, I would put down your college expenses, in addition to your living expenses. Why not? You must tell you husband either to agree upon the MDA or go to court and spend a lot more money on attorney's fee.
2006-12-08 12:09:40 · answer #6 · answered by titanman911 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to go to court to get divorced anyway, so try to get some help with this. The amount he has to pay will probably be calculated on how long you were married along with the amount he makes and the state you live in. If you weren't married long, he may not have to pay any alimony.
2006-12-08 12:08:01 · answer #7 · answered by honey 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Take him to court. If you were not working during the marriage and are in school, he is obligated to pay alimony for a period of time until you get on your feet. It will be based on his pay, your pay and lifestyle you are accustomed to. The fact that you are close to graduating is wonderful! Stick with it and congratulations in advance!
Best Wishes,
Sue
2006-12-08 12:02:53 · answer #8 · answered by newbiegranny 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So, you're going to school full time and he supports the family. Now, he wants a divorce and you want money. Offer a quick divorce settlement for a guarantee of support until you finish school. If he's smart, he'll go for it.
Talk to legal aid at the school.
2006-12-08 12:04:12 · answer #9 · answered by jack w 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your children seem to be upset because you and your husband are not togeather which a divorce can be very tough on children, but there must of been alot of reasons why you and your husband are not togeather, it seems like your ex might of been a bit controlling, and he might be doing that to your children. I think that you should be with someone else, you have the right to be happy,I think maybe in time your children will accept the fact that you are with someone else.
2016-05-22 21:40:31 · answer #10 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
have you filed for the divorce if you have then what ever was written in the divorce papers is what has to happen, if you have not signed any divorce papers you are screwed.
other option is get an attorney who will take the case with the clause that he has to pay your attorney fees. they are out there, you just have to look. you are in college good place to start looking.
2006-12-08 12:05:31 · answer #11 · answered by c504play 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋