I was never really "popular" more like a class nerd. Anyways, this year I have had more friends than the two I've previously had. Well, I appreciate my ALL my friends and am always there for them when they need me. Anyways, one of the two friends that I've always had, said today that she was noticing that I was getting more popular and that she thought it was embarassing for her, bcuz of the way I talked to people (I told her that it CANT be embarassing..because people wouldnt talk to me if I was weird and plus she isnt my mom to be embarassed of me) well this guy i was talking to (my friend) said that she is jealous and i COMPLETLY AGREE...but I'm scared of her spreading **** about me and tell my new friends that Im not the "greatest" yes, if they are really my friends they wont ditch me...but i still need to make a "rep" with them. So what should I do now??? This girl is ALSO my locker partner!
2006-12-08 11:57:34 · 8 answers · asked by HAPPY <3 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
We already had an argument where I told her what I really felt...seems tooo late to reconcile now!
2006-12-08 12:12:01 · update #1
She's just jealous. Good for you on getting more friends. She's worried you'll ditch her.
2006-12-08 12:01:47 · answer #1 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She's afraid she's losing you as a friend and doesn't realize that you can have other friends as well as her. She is jealous of the time you are spending with new friends. Assure her that you wish to remain her friend and make a concerted effort to spend time with her regularly. For example, make a "date" to meet once every week or two to see a movie or something similar, so that it is just time for the two of you to nurture your friendship. At the same time, you need to set boundaries whereby you are not limited to having only her as a friend. You should feel free to pursue other friendships and relationships as well, and you should encourage her to do the same.
If she can't accept that you are growing as a person and need to expand your social circle, it may be time to spend your time and attention on others. Don't worry about what she says. Your "rep" should speak for itself. Your actions should carry more weight than her words. If not, these people are not, were not and never will be your friends.
2006-12-08 20:44:01 · answer #2 · answered by LindaLou 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i hate reputations thats how school goes though listen popularity ISNT everything and when u get out of school it will be thrown in the trash and trust me no one will care u know what ive always thought? nerds were the coolest and u know why they are? THEYRE NOT FAKE they dont make people feel like crap for being themselves theyre nice to everyone they dont have to be like everyone else tell ur so-called "friend" to take a hike u dont need friends like that but remember:never lose the nerd in u(lol) cuz 1 day the only real people left will be the nerds cuz theres so much dang fake idiots out there that we all get blinded by our "reputation" and i bet it gets tiring worrying about ur reputation...am i right? i did the same thing last year always worrying 'what will people think of this...will they think im weird..etc..?' finally i told myself 'i really couldnt care less what any of them think cuz theyre all fake and 1 day everyone else will finally see them as the nerds do - jerks that have such low self-esteem that they have to make other people be down on themselves there are very few people out there today that actually deserve their popularity the people that do are the REAL people that actually care about peoples feelings ur friends just jealous and ive just proved myself right again....shes 1 of those people that has low self-esteem and she cant handle someone else taking the spotlight so now shes jumping all over your back trying to make u "unpopular" dont worry about ur stupid reputation let people think what they wanna think and 1 day u can sit there and laugh in their face for being lousey im in the 6th grade and im dealing with so many popular girls hating me and they dont know me im only 11 and this really does tell u how much craps going on these days good luck and dont worry about ur friend shes SOOO jealous of u she cant stand it
2006-12-08 21:35:18 · answer #3 · answered by Abby 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girls are catty at this age. Can she have more than one friend at a time or have your new friends sparked a bit of jealousy in her. Continue in what you are doing and still try to be nice to this person. Tell her you had no idea she was embarrassed and tell her your other friends aren't embarrassed. Your true friends will already have formed an opinion of you no matter what it is she tries to say. Welcome to Life 101. Be safe, be well and go out there and make something of yourself!
2006-12-08 20:03:34 · answer #4 · answered by beeotch 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like your old friend is feeling a little left out. Take a little time to reassure her that she is still your friend.
2006-12-08 20:05:36 · answer #5 · answered by NAN G 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should try introducing your old friend to your new friends...have her hang with you guys too...since, yeah, it probably would hurt if your best friend just started ditching you for others...yepXD
2006-12-08 20:01:12 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i've forgotten how difficult the teen years could be.
2006-12-08 20:00:41 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
try to understand her situation
2006-12-08 20:00:11 · answer #8 · answered by alaskasnogurl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋