Situation: 19 yr old is living with a family. 19 yr old and 50 yr old male have a problem with eachother. 40 yr old woman does not like it. 19 yr old cusses with loud and impulsive outbursts (he does not have terrets syndrome). 50 yr old (injured back) lies down because of back all the time. Seems to nineteen yr old that 50 yr old's back problem is all in the head. Seems to 50 yr old that 19 yr old is trying to annoy 50 yr old male. What is going on here?
2006-12-08 11:54:49 · 14 answers · asked by Michael V 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
19 year old is an adult and if he doesn't like the way things are in 50 year olds house, then he needs to get a job and move out.
2006-12-08 11:57:52 · answer #1 · answered by Cindy S 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like typical generation gap stuff. The 50 yr old may or may not be putting a little something extra on his level of pain and discomfort but the 19 yr old needs a lesson in respect. If he is living with you he lives by your rules PERIOD. If 19 yr old cannot be more respectful he would have to leave my house.
2006-12-08 12:01:15 · answer #2 · answered by datingyoungincali 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a battle over the power each has in the hierarchy of the household. Each is trying to be the dominant male in the home.
The 19 year old needs to be told the rules of the house. If he does not like the rules he can get a job and live on his own.
I have a 19 year old boy who was trying this with my new husband. My husband and I formed a "team" and explained the rules of the house to my son. He realized that he could not win a battle against both of us and has settled down. He now helps out around the house and is very polite and pleasant to be around.
2006-12-08 12:49:27 · answer #3 · answered by physandchemteach 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Is 19 y/o a responsible person working or going to school? Does 50 y/o make unreasonable demands on 19 y/o? Is it all in the 50 y/o head about the back issue? This is happening for a reason and you need to figure that out to solve it. Sounds like it might be a fight over territory and to prove who is the alpha male.
2006-12-08 11:59:20 · answer #4 · answered by beeotch 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Two alfa type males, the 50 year old , is head of the house, backache has left him irritable, not to mention the middle aged crises going on The 19 year old is just coming into manhood, and thinks he "knows it all", resents older male. My sympathies to the lady of the house. Hope the back gets better, and at least the 19 year old will grow up some day, until then I would find as many activities outside the house as possible.
2006-12-08 12:07:07 · answer #5 · answered by Kimberly H 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
*sigh* It's questions like these that spark mocking answers. I will try to give you an accurate answer. (Keep in mind, I was raised Christian, and have since become Agnostic). Well, a medical doctor is not a poor man, and a 52 year old man will be gone be the time I'm 60. Er...Maybe, if I was after money. Er...I tried my best to help. xD
2016-05-22 21:39:56 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like one of those alpha-male things, exacerbated by the fact that dad probably is about 10 years older than everyone else's dad ("everyone"=everyone in 19-year-old's regular social milieu, all of whom probably are somewhere around 19 years old).
Apparently, the son has been tested for Tourette's syndrome. Has he been tested for obsessive-compulsive disorder?
It's easier to sympathize with back pain when you have had some yourself. (No, I'm not suggesting that you whack him upside the back so that he can gain some perspective.) Maybe if all three of you could go to one of dad's doctor appointments for his back and dad's exact condition (or nearest medical guess) could be spelled out for all three of you, it might help your son to see that dad's condition, while not visible, is real.
2006-12-08 12:06:49 · answer #7 · answered by amy02 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
testosterone in young male causes him to be aggressive with other males. he may be interested in the 40 yr female. sees the old male as competition. is jealous of attention the silverback gets for injuries. try getting a young girlfriend to bang the 19 yr old and he will calm down.
2006-12-08 11:58:19 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I don't want to be stereotypical, but usually people who are around 19-20 years old are rebellious, esp. if they're parents are from a different generation. It sounds to me like he needs to get out on his own and/or live in a dorm at college. Of course, I don't know either one's personality, so these are only assumptions.
2006-12-08 11:58:31 · answer #9 · answered by On a Mission 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
i have no idea whats going on,except that father/son dont seem to like each other/get along.y,i cant tell.but-some advice-tell dad to get up and WALK!!!! drs used to think "bedrest" was good 4 back probs-nope!!!walking strengthens back muscles,decreasing pain.if i stop walking regularly,my slipped disc acts up.as long as i walk 4-7 times a week,i stay quite comfortable.and tell son,wait till his back goes out.when i was a teen,i thought my moms 6 week bout with sciatica was "in her head".i phoned and apologised 2 years ago-i was on a plane for 8 hours and develpoed sciatica myself-and that definately wasnt in my mind.live long enough,and u will live thru everything u ridiculed ur parents about!!!!
2006-12-08 12:03:10 · answer #10 · answered by Lyn K 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋