she used to always be in the mood but once we found out she was pregnant. she hasn't been in the mood. its a little frustrating. I know she is going throught alot and alots changing but....... the way i feel doesn't seem to matter much anymore.
2006-12-08 11:53:00 · 12 answers · asked by Jason C 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
I have tried telling her that she's beauttiful i have reasured her i am always telling her how beautiful she is i do everything i can for her. nothing seems to work and It has been way to long pretty much the entire pregnancey
2006-12-08 12:03:50 · update #1
Tell her that her pregnant body is soo beautiful and you think she looks more beautiful now than ever...
I was so shy about my pregnant body and if my hubby said that he would have def got more, but he didnt say the right words... so no no.
2006-12-08 11:55:26 · answer #1 · answered by yo mama 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This must be God's way of gently showing you that life will be changing. The best way to get her in the mood is to leave her alone on this subject, totally. You can give her back rubs, foot massages, buy her bath oils, paint her toenails, but don't try to get anything in return. She is giving up so much right now, and believe me, she is miserable and will only be more uncomfortable as the months go on. The closer she gets to the due date, the longer the days become. Once the baby gets here, it may take a few months, but if you are loving, understanding, and go out of your way to do those nice things, she will come back around.
On the other hand, if you are forceful, or pushy about how bad it is for you, then you may permenantly scar your relationship. A little bit of celebacy is healthy for your relationship, especially if you use that time to try to become more of a friend to her.
2006-12-08 12:02:26 · answer #2 · answered by Krista13 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry to tell you this, but she may never be "in the mood." There are a lot of things happening to her, and if this is her first child, she is very scared. I know this is a lot to bear, and you obviously love her. Some people also believe that it will hurt the baby if they do "come together" and this is just an old wives tale, she may be concerned about this. Just keep doing everything you can to reassure her, it does help tremendously, maybe not for what you want, but it keeps her stress levels at bay and the child will heathier because of it. Stick out Daddy, there is not much time left, and I am sure you can handle it, just relieve yourself until she is ready again, that is my only suggestion.
2006-12-08 12:12:33 · answer #3 · answered by lisads1973 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
With me it was kind of the opposite... my husband was always afraid he'd hurt the baby, and it kind of weirded him out knowing the baby was right there. He always said I looked beautiful, he just felt weird... maybe this is the case with her? Not sure, everyone has a different reason. Being pregnant can make you really insecure about your body- it feels like it's not even your body sometimes. Just try to make her feel as comfortable as possible, and she might go to you. Let her know you love her and respect her, but also that you want to share your love intimately.
Goodluck. I guess everyone is different, and being pregnant, it can decrease, increase your sexual desires... for me it stayed the same, mine is really high all the time.
I'd talk to her about this- let her know you love her, and dont' want to force her into anything, but you want to make love to her. See what she says... the only way to find out why she isn't in the mood though is to talk to her and find out- that's what I had to do with my husband. We did it, but not very often, and the closer I got to the end, the less we did it. He always asked if he could hurt the baby... you can't hurt the baby during sex- as long as you aren't high risk, you are safe to have sex the entire pregnancy. If she is also worried of this, have her talk to her doctor about it and they will reassure her.
2006-12-08 11:59:47 · answer #4 · answered by m930 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, she's got all these hormones running through her body..and ya know what..it's not about you and your needs. Like you said she is going through a lot. These hormones, in some women, don't exactly help their sex drive. Try doing more for her and maybe that will help. Spend a lot of time concerned with her needs sexually...if that doesn't work then you might have to wait till after baby and things return to normal.
2006-12-08 11:57:38 · answer #5 · answered by ktpb 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Watch a sexy movie or porno together. Start by watching tv together and cuddle, rub her back or feet, kiss, hold her tummy, her breast, they try working your fingers down south, and get her turned on. Don't forget the "i love you"s. Some women are hornier during preganancy and others don't want to be touched. Good luck and congrats.
Ps. try taking a shower or bath together.
2006-12-08 12:49:01 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This must be hard for you, but you need to understand that your wife is probably feeling very uncomfortable with a huge bump poking out of her tummy. She probably feels unattractive. You need to assure her of how beautiful she looks, and tell her you love her body.
Her emotions are on a huge rollercoaster, so please try and be sensitive to her feelings.
You must understand that having sex at this stage in her pregnancy is going to be uncomfortable for her, and you may need to experiment with sexual positions that are easy for her to be in.
Please be patient with your wife, she does love you, she is just going through some changes, and isnt too sure how to deal with them.
good luck
2006-12-08 11:59:30 · answer #7 · answered by He moonwalked on my <3 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
dude, just leave her alone until 6 weeks after she has the kid. her body is all weird and she doesn't feel right. you'll get back into the swing of things, but how about you make a small sacrifice to match the one she's making on her body and insides. it's more than fair. respect her wishes.
2006-12-08 12:11:25 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well when my wife was 8 mmonths she was not in the mood anymore she was thinking of her daughter but she gave birth to the baby on the 6th and now i have to wait to 6 weeks now lol
2006-12-08 12:23:22 · answer #9 · answered by lori7642 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Alot of this is hormones, she might be going through a stage. I did, I went 4 months without having sex with my husband, i just didn't want anything to do with it. Just be patient with her, she'll come around!
2006-12-08 11:58:57 · answer #10 · answered by Trisha 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋