I have been married 9 years and have 2 children together. My husband left me for a woman on his job after he found out she was preg. We separate until she had the baby. Then we decided to get back together- that lasted about 9 mons. Now he is back with her. He has become so wishy washy. We have conversation and he feels right now is not the right time to get back together that he needs to get himself together. He keeps telling me that he wants to make sure when he comes home he wants to be right for me 100%. Every since he left things have been going wrong for him- he has lost his job, car and had to move back in with his mom. For me things have been the total opposite.When we first separated he was still coming to see the kids now it like he doesn't want to have anything to do with us. He talks to me real crazy when she is around but then he will call and leave messages saying he love the kids and me too.What is with this attitude he has.Men help me-what goes on in your heads
2006-12-08 11:21:49 · 6 answers · asked by beb 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Don't worry what is going on in his head. He has tied up too much of your life, in and out, up and down! Why do you want him to make up his mind, as to what he wants to do. You deserve better, you should not want to be second best. Move on with your life. God has better things in store for you. Work on you. Have a great holiday!
2006-12-08 11:44:02 · answer #1 · answered by roseannetb@verizon.net 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i have been there done that years ago.When i said NO more and ended it with him and only talked to him when i had to, he decided to make his mind up real fast.As long as you allow him to be wishy washy he will, I didnt give him a choice i just said NO more and stuck to my guns.The day he came back, he did so with 100% devotion for me and the children.Of course there were issues to be worked out but we did and that was 20 yrs ago.GOOD LUCK
2006-12-08 19:29:24 · answer #2 · answered by mint_julip1122 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think he wants to make sure you are there just in case he decides to come back. Dont even pay attention to him I think you should move on. If he doesnt want to do nothing with you or your kids then f*** him you dont need him. HE is being such an as***** thats why everything is going wrong in his life. thats call KARMA
2006-12-08 19:40:31 · answer #3 · answered by kathernva 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's unfortunate that he is so indecisive, but you need to realize that he is no longer your responsibility - neither is his happiness. You have already said things have gotten better for you, so now is a great time to make a clean break, don't let him keep reeling you in and tossing you back.
It's truly ok to be concerned for your own happiness, as you are the only one responsible for it. He is responsible for his own happiness as well - don't let him make you believe you are. I know you sympathize with him, but he got himself where he is and Karma is paying him a visit.
I wish you luck and happiness -
2006-12-08 19:28:20 · answer #4 · answered by lisa_tilton 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
kick him to the curb
2006-12-08 19:32:10 · answer #5 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yup
2006-12-08 19:26:48 · answer #6 · answered by natrual flirt 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋