What do you do?
2006-12-08 11:10:31 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
ok the thing is, my husband is a great person. An otherwise wonderful husband. Yes, several times he has begged off and stayed home because he is shy and had some depression issues hewas dealing with. However, I have never backed out on him. But there is a thing withhis family I really don't want to go to and I have asked him to go alone. But we've seen them twice this month. The mother has let slip rude comments to me that made me mad. DH says she is going through a hard time and has asked me not to rock the boat. The best way I know how to do that is to excuse myself from participating next week at their early Christmas. DH is mad at me but this one time I just reallly need a break from them. But of course, now that he is mad, I feel guilty. What's a girl to do? :)
2006-12-08 11:21:42 · update #1
Sometimes you have to just bite the bullet. Go to the Christmas affair with him, and make yourself have a great time, smile, and don't do a lot of talking, do more listening, and do it just to keep the Peace. somethings it is just not worth the worry. And I am sure your husband will be very happy to have his pudding on his arm! have a great holiday!
2006-12-08 11:37:52 · answer #1 · answered by roseannetb@verizon.net 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes. I carry the weight. But I will change the situation for the better. By walking.
2006-12-08 19:14:30 · answer #2 · answered by bountyhunter101 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That's selfish & controlling. Eventually, I'd "opt out" of a marriage with no companionship.
2006-12-08 19:16:07 · answer #3 · answered by upside down 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My husband does things to me like that, I would NEVER do it back. I feel like "getting back" would only hurt our relationship worse. I wouldn't feel better by hurting my spouse. Talk to him and hope things get better. If he doesn't listen maybe you need a counselor or a trusted one to help you two out. I wouldn't suggest trying to hurt him if an effort for revenge, what does that really solve?
2006-12-08 19:15:18 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
CoLeY is exactly right. I was always taught and i know this sounds childish but " two wrongs dont make a right " and that is what i strife to teach my daughter. My husband does that to me and i just talk to him and let him know how it makes me feel when he treats me that way and he always tells me that hes sorry. I would suggest talking to him...letting him know that it bothers you.
2006-12-08 19:24:43 · answer #5 · answered by Tinkerbell 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I opt out on him. He freaks out, sometimes, when he does I tell if you can't go alone don't go. I look for ways to get out on my own, he's almost always with me.
2006-12-08 19:19:40 · answer #6 · answered by Pandora 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him you'll pass, and explain why.
I'f he has problems with it, it will only escalate until it explodes. At wich point you'll be able to get free, and go out and find a real man, kiddo.
2006-12-08 19:35:16 · answer #7 · answered by johngolfs2002 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
opt out on him
2006-12-08 19:30:26 · answer #8 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
get even
2006-12-08 19:12:33 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋